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Jessicaknight

Jun 30, 2010, 10:17 AM

Being that I’m Bisexual, I love the women’s body. It makes me very hard. And their hot pussies set me on fire. But when I was a teen, I went to an all boys High School. I was Gay and had many Guys. Although I love sucking cock (And I’m supper hot at deep throating) I’m not a swallower. I love the taste of a man when he precums. When I jerk off, I love my gift of a preshot. But when a guy shoots a load on my mouth, I can't swallow it.

Now as for eating Cream Pies, I love it. The taste of a man with the taste of a woman is the ultimate oral satisfaction. The sight of a pussy with a man’s load dripping off the lips is too erotic to pass up. Seeing her push out a Glob of Cum from her Pink Meat Hole calls for me to eat it. And for the woman who’s holding a cream pie, I know she’s not complete until someone cleans her Steaming/Swollen Pussy with their mouth. If she hasn’t orgasimmed before, she will if I put my face and nose into it and slop it up.

I’m Gay, Bisexual and straight.

When I’m with a guy I’m with a Man. We suck and fuck like Gay Men. I’m bottom so I love any hard cock working my clean hole.

When I’m with a woman I’m very straight. I love her Tits and Clit and Butt and all her Femininity. I work that pussy till she cums or until she buckles at the knees and push me off.

I have been fucked by both a man's hard cock and a woman's strapped dildo. And I have fucked a Man's Ass, a Woman's Pussy & sucked a Man's Dick and eaten a woman's pussy.

I love doing Couples, Orgies & Threesome.

I think that makes me Bisexual

Realist

Jun 30, 2010, 11:42 AM

I have no problems with being identified as bisexual. The pendulum swings back and forth. Right now, I'm mostly straight............... but yes, I'm bi.

BiPhone

Jun 30, 2010, 12:35 PM

Since there is no good label for me; Mostly straight but enjoy sucking a cock now and then but do not enjoy kissing or analsex I still call myself bisexual but other people mighy say i don't qualify?

RockGardener

Jun 30, 2010, 1:18 PM

I identify as pansexual.

I love male, female, and everything in between. Gender is not only male and female. There is a continuum of gender. Most people do fall on each end of the spectrum, but some just don't. Gender is a reverse bell curve. More at both ends and less in the middle. Sexuality is more than just M/M, M/F, F/F. I believe there are 3 aspects to your sexuality. First, what gender do you present as? M, F, or somewhere in between. Second, what gender do you feel you are? Again, the same choices. Thirdly, what gender(s) attract you?

So if you are presenting as a male, but you are internally and/or psychologically a female, and you are attracted to a guy; are you straight or gay? Is your partner straight, bi or gay?

Until recently, I identified as bisexual, but I know that I am not. Given the choice between str8, bi, or gay, I pick bi because that is the closest description that doesn't require a paragraph to explain. I love who I love! To expand on a famous quote around here... I stick my hands in the pants and am happy with whatever I find... but I know that true gender is not in the pants, it's in the heart and mind!

And that is why I identify as PANSEXUAL.

MarieDelta

Jun 30, 2010, 1:38 PM

As far as sexual attraction goes, I id as pansexual.

For all the reasons listed by Rockgardener and one more. I am trans. It make normal relations just a bit more confusing.

I'm generally happy with whatever bits I find. The usual glitch for me comes way before we ever get to the taking off the clothes. Its in the personality.

PANSEXUAL.

Wrenn

Jun 30, 2010, 4:21 PM

I choose the label of goddess.

DuckiesDarling

Jun 30, 2010, 4:40 PM

Straight with curves :) Why? I'm straight I have curves.

just4mefc

Jun 30, 2010, 5:01 PM

Since there is no good label for me; Mostly straight but enjoy sucking a cock now and then but do not enjoy kissing or analsex I still call myself bisexual but other people mighy say i don't qualify?

You are who YOU say you are. If you feel you are Bi then that is who you are. Some do ask the question "is what you are describing bisexuality or is it sexual fetish?" But since the question presented was "how do YOU label yourself" then you can't be wrong.

The American Psychological Association describes bisexual as...

Sexual orientation exists along a continuum that ranges from exclusive heterosexuality to exclusive homosexuality and includes various forms of bisexuality. Bisexual persons can experience sexual, emotional, and affectional attraction to both their own sex and the opposite sex... Sexual orientation is different from sexual behavior because it refers to feelings and self-concept. Individuals may or may not express their sexual orientation in their behaviors.

So based on this I contend one could enjoy all the sexual content of same-sex
sex and still label themselves as str8 and vice-versa. I think it really is a matter of how you see yourself.

;)

NYFiddler

Jun 30, 2010, 5:10 PM

I'm an omni sexual or could be called Pan sexual, they mean the same thing. I'm married to a female omni. We both consider ourselves to be gender and appearance blind. Attraction for us is very heavily based on personality and not on physical appearance if that makes sense. It's more about the person and we can be attracted to any one based upon personality.

lovescum2

Jun 30, 2010, 5:11 PM

I have to say I love women! I am attracted to them 100%, that being said I have this thing about sucking Dick. Sorry in my book that means I'm Bi.

DarrlyVanHorne sorry but yes we're in the same boat. You too would be considered Bi, but thats only my opinion.

Jessicaknight

Jun 30, 2010, 5:29 PM

I have been asked many times "So what are you today, Gay or Straight?"
(Implying that I am confused.) You mean I have to choose? I think they are the one's that are confused. I know what I want, when I want it.

Thanks everyone for your input
Jessie

darkeyes

Jun 30, 2010, 7:30 PM

Jus call me Tart.. :) Wy? Cos me likes 2 b called "Tart"... reflects me past.. me present.. an long as me can keep goin.. me future... sum may call me "retired tart" cos don ne more go out huntin 2 get laid.. but wy do that wen me can b the tart at 'ome wiv she of the coot bootie... more or less as often an wen me needs it...:tong: an even betta..play the tart wen she needs it..:bigrin:

just4mefc

Jun 30, 2010, 8:02 PM

I forgot to share my labels. I am labeled as ME no more no less. Have posted many times here that I am not much of a label person. For the sake of conversation I am Bisexual. I don't split it up into segments (poly,pan,omni,etc...) but, I don't begrudge those that do. I like sex pretty much equally with a man or a woman. But emotional attachments are more toward women. I think in orientation I am more str8/bi and behavior wise I am dead center bi.

So my label is TRISEXUAL (try just about anything adult to adult that is, open to sex with just about anyone)

or how about "slippery when wet" or put a sign over my ass that says "two way traffic ahead"

:bigrin:

bikiniman

Jun 30, 2010, 8:31 PM

I am sexually attracted to men as well as women although I have never had sex with another man. I label myself is "a little bit homo-sexual".

just4mefc

Jun 30, 2010, 8:39 PM

Straights or heterosexuals don't have sexual attractions to people of the same gender/sex.

Anyone who claims that they're attracted to the same gender sexually and has had sex with the same gender and is somehow straight or heterosexual is in complete denial and a closet case on the down low.

As for what people claim or self identify as their sexuality not being their real sexuality that too is true.

Just look at the people who are closeted or confused about their sexuality who think that they are straight or label themselves as straight does not mean that they really are straight or heterosexual.

There are even men who are completely gay who call themselves bisexual just because they are married to a woman or because they can perform sexually with a woman but they are homosexual since they do not really have any sexual attraction to both genders at all and are only attracted to men so they are gay.

Fuck the closet and more bisexuals and gay men should come out and be who they are if they want respect, equality, visiBIlity, and political and personal power.

Sorry to disagree with you but, I respectfully disagree. You bring up closeted and confused and I do believe there are many people who fall in the range. But to assume that anyone who is not "out" is therefore confused is simply to narrow a view. Many people have sexual desires that fall out side of the norm. Example someone who is turned on by wearing a diaper, does that make them a baby. Same thing. You can have sexual fetish that is same gender and not have any real attraction toward the person. I like sex toys they feel good. I like my woman to wear a wench costume from time to time, that does not mean my orientation is a closeted-silicone-sword swinging-pirate. Because sex is involved we get all crazy with labels but as pointed out in the APA guidelines...

Sexual orientation exists along a continuum that ranges from exclusive heterosexuality to exclusive homosexuality and includes various forms of bisexuality. Bisexual persons can experience sexual, emotional, and affectional attraction to both their own sex and the opposite sex... Sexual orientation is different from sexual behavior because it refers to feelings and self-concept. Individuals may or may not express their sexual orientation in their behaviors.

Yes some people as you say are confused and on the dl and all. But that is not everyone. Orientation is a self concept. Behavior is a separate issue. Just as a "gay" man alone on an island is still "gay" in spite of not having another male to have sex with. Now if you subscribe to the belief that behavior is the only measuring stick then I can not argue with you, other then to say the research to date does not support your stance.

You have a political need for some showing of unity in the Bisexual community but the majority of bisexuals are not closeted from fear but from disinterest. We are for the most part a very well adjusted group of folks. I am NOT speaking of the "DL" crowd but more to the general bi population. In my opinion the "dl" crowd is a smaller but louder more obvious group within our community. This group is used as the stereotype for all of us, so I do understand your disdain.

But if a person is not confused (not on the DL) but liking of sex for sex sake, then they can call themselves whatever they want. It is the SELF concept we are currently speaking of. Now I agree if the person is feeling confusion or distress or hiding then the self label is perhaps disingenuous.

citystyleguy

Jun 30, 2010, 10:23 PM

...okay, i have answered this question about a gabillion times before, but what the hell; i am bisexual now, i am bisexual in the morning, i am bisexual in the night, i am bisexual, therefore i am!::cool:

Long Duck Dong

Jul 1, 2010, 2:29 AM

You're forgetting that not all bisexuals fall in love with both genders/sexes yet they are still bisexual. You don't have to fall in love or have what the APA calls "emotional or affectional attractions" to both sexes/genders to be bisexual.

Why are you bringing up pirate costumes or diapers? That's a total moot point and makes no sense at all as these are kinks and are not related to sexual orientation at all.

Despite all of this if a person is engaging in consensual sex with people of the
same sex/gender they are not heterosexual or straight by definition even if they want to be, wish that they really were heterosexual/straight, use the self label excuse, or self identify as heterosexual or straight when they are clearly not.

There's a saying that if you repeat a lie so often it becomes a truth in your own mind only and this is what people who are closeted and on the DL are trying to do even if it does not work that way when it comes to sexual orientation.

Bisexuals have no interest in coming out? WTF kind of bisexuals do you know? Or do you mean people on this site who are closeted and on the DL?

All of the male and female bisexuals I am friends with and who I've had
relationships with and who I know from bisexual discussion groups are out about being bisexual and they are not closeted or on the DL. Even most bisexuals who I have met online aside from the ones on this site which I've just joined are out and proud about who they are and are not closeted and on the DL like lots of the people on this site are. Then of course the people on here who are on the DL and closeted and vocal on this site say how society and even heterosexuals, lesbians, and gay men somehow do not like, accept, or understand bisexuals yet they are not out and do not even try to tell anyone else or educate anyone else about bisexuality and you do not see straight people or gay men or lesbians acting this way about their sexuality.

Perhaps it's only the vocal closeted and DL bisexuals on this site who you are
writing about when you say that they are somehow louder or somehow more prevalent because this is an internet site? The ones here on this site that make up and give excuses out of fear and disinterest and claim that it's somehow their right to stay closeted and on the DL because coming out of the closet is somehow telling other people about their sex life and their sexuality is nobody else's business when all of their excuses about why they need to stay closeted and on the DL are not true at all.

What I wrote about how if we bisexuals want more respect, visiBIlity, political power, recognition, and equality we have to be out and come out is true. Nothing is going to change for bisexuals or GLBT people if people stay complacent, apathetic, and stay closeted and on the DL and claim that it's somehow their "right" to stay closeted because their sexuality is nobody's business and coming out is somehow telling others about their personal sex life when it's not and these are just excuses to avoid coming out.

Most Heterosexuals know what it means to be gay and many do know what it means to be bisexual but are still very biphobic while gays and lesbians are not biphobic and are allies to bisexuals.

Where did I say that people who are closeted or on the DL are confused?

They know that they are not heterosexual and they are hiding in fear out of self loathing.

Granted yes people who are closeted and on the DL do wind up compartmentalizing their sexuality and doing some very fucked up things to themselves and the people who they love but they are not confused about their sexuality and do this stuff on purpose.

Men and women who are closeted or on the down low are not going to be out at all to their families or society, and are not publicly or politically vocal as much as out and proud bisexuals are because doing this would force them to come out.

Bisexuals who willingly stay on the DL or in the closet because of their own
selfish reasons, fears, apathy, or disintrest are hurting themselves and everyone else that's GLBT and out and proud and they give us all a bad name.

Yes there is a need for bisexuals to come out and to stop being on the DL and closeted even if those that are closeted and on the DL here are vocal about why it is best to stay in the closet, discreet, and on the DL about being bisexual.

Of course politics and being out as bisexual are connected, if everyone that is GLBT stayed in the closet or did nothing out of apathy and disinterest we bisexuals and GLBT people would have no rights or what limited equality we have now would not be here for us, and Conservatives would be in power and it would be a living hell compared to now when you're a 2nd class citizen and have been for the last 100 years if you are GLBT in America, compared to Heterosexuals and the rights they have that they take for granted.

People here will complain about political issues such as DADT, DOMA, passing ENDA but have any of you besides myself and a few others who are out actually written to the American president or other politicians and become visible and out as bisexual and told them how these policies need to change now and you want their support as a bisexual United States citizen?

I can not help but notice the near identical attitude and indeed sentences you make.... that are eerily similar, if not identical to the same statements made by other members in the site...... the only difference between them and you.... is they were all the same person.... our resident troll

Cherokee_Mountaincat

Jul 1, 2010, 3:00 AM

DuckiesDarling

Jul 1, 2010, 5:05 AM

I'm actually amused since the thread title is "How would you label yourself and why? Without judging anyone else’s label or answers." Can people not abide by a simple request from the OP?

And babe, I disagree, the only diffrence between N2b&d and the other posters who used the same terminology is they are banned and he isn't.....

darkeyes

Jul 1, 2010, 5:14 AM

Anyone who claims that they're attracted to the same gender sexually and has had sex with the same gender and is somehow straight or heterosexual is in complete denial and a closet case on the down low.

Oh here we go, Ladies and Gents. And some of the famous words are in there too. :rolleyes: The only words Not used (Yet) are Obese, Fat, and Ugly. But the time is young yet.
Cat, awaiting attack...lol

Indeed cat... familiar huh?

And what he/she/it says isnt true anyway.. twice in my life I have been with women who quite simply hated it..one had tried it because they felt they should and she was pretty and sexy, so thought I'd help out:bigrin:.. the other was ok until we got back to my flat and I could see that she was becoming increasingly nervous. Thats not unusual, but as we began to make love she tensed up to such a degree that it became obvious to me that it wasnt for her. People try all sorts of things in their lives.. I tried liver as a kid but hated it.. I worked in an office but hated it...trying or doing something doesnt necessarily mean we like it or are something.. but both instances with these girls were a right blow to the Fran ego I can tellya..:(

Long Duck Dong

Jul 1, 2010, 6:14 AM

how would I label myself ??? mmm I would do it with one of those sticker things..... cos using the staple gun fuckin hurts.....

oh... you mean that type of label..???? sighs......

mmmmmm pansexual is the best term..... tho I have thought about being a ME sexual...... :tong:

a mesexual is a person that is always being told to go fuck themselves.... and tries to do it..... a while

RobUK

Jul 1, 2010, 6:58 AM

I don't particularly like labels. If the Kinsey Scale is the best method of measuring sexuality, than the logical extension is that sexuality is a spectrum, with infinitesimal combinations.

Personally, if I prefer to just define myself as me. Everyone is a unique individual - there's only one 'me'.

:flag4:Rob

:cool:

goldenfinger

Jul 1, 2010, 8:36 AM

My label says "Gentle hand wash only":bigrin:

Jessicaknight

Jul 1, 2010, 12:01 PM

Straights or heterosexuals don't have sexual attractions to people of the same gender/sex.

Anyone who claims that they're attracted to the same gender sexually and has had sex with the same gender and is somehow straight or heterosexual is in complete denial and a closet case on the down low.

As for what people claim or self identify as their sexuality not being their real sexuality that too is true.

Just look at the people who are closeted or confused about their sexuality who thinks that they are straight or label themselves as straight does not mean that they really are straight or heterosexual.

There are even men who are completely gay who call themselves bisexual just because they are married to a woman or because they can perform sexually with a woman but they are homosexual since they do not really have any sexual attraction to both genders at all and are only attracted to men so they are gay.

It's 2010 people should not be so closeted and living in fear like it's the 50S with homosexuality illegal and two of the most notorious closet cases J. Edgar Hoover, Joseph McCarthy, and Roy Cohn arresting homosexual men.

Fuck the closet and more bisexuals and gay men should come out and be who they are if they want respect, equality, visibility, and political and personal power.

I agree and many other will also. And others will not.

Closeted can be a cop-out for people who live by what society judgments.
We know how that can become a very long debate. (And it's great that we can get into expressing our views)

My question is "How would you label yourself and why?"
The reason I asked is, we need to accept ourselves so we can accept others. When someone is born in the USA, and asked "what's your Nationality, Most Will answer what their roots are. Like Scottish, Italian or whatever. And it's accepted. I want to ask my question and let it be without anyone Judging or giving others labels.

I'm bisexual but sometimes I'm 100% gay. When I'm with my wife I can be straight or Bi. But that's for me to decide. Not for anyone to come and say "you get fucked and you suck dick. That makes you Gay."

I told everyone what my I label myself and why.
Now let’s hear yours. You have already been labeled as one of “our resident trolls” And with respect to you, I don’t think you’re a troll, YET. You came into my thread to give your opinion. But it’s the wrong one for the question. If you ask me “How old are you?” I’m not going to answer. Pickles go great with cheeseburgers. I know that’s stupid but look back to your answer to my question.

How would you label yourself and why? Without judging anyone else’s label or answers?

Oh, and please read some of the other answers may-be you can find respect for your peers as well as recover some for yourself.

Cherokee_Mountaincat

Jul 1, 2010, 12:02 PM

Jessicaknight

Jul 1, 2010, 12:03 PM

Fuck the closet and more bisexuals and gay men should come out and be who they are if they want respect, equality, visiBIlity, and political and personal power.

And my short answer to yours
Don’t you think that’s what this thread is all about?

just4mefc

Jul 1, 2010, 12:19 PM

I can not help but notice the near identical attitude and indeed sentences you make.... that are eerily similar, if not identical to the same statements made by other members in the site...... the only difference between them and you.... is they were all the same person.... our resident troll

At first I was going to respond to this with a long explanation as to how N2 had not even read what I wrote. I was going to try and clarify and as I started to type it hit me... WAIT a minute I have been to this circus before and although the wig might be different this is the same clown that always pops outta that little box or crawls out from under it might be more accurate.

Mark Twain - "Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to tell the diference"

just4mefc

Jul 1, 2010, 12:34 PM

If you ask me “How old are you?” ... Pickles go great with cheeseburgers.

On behalf of n2b&d...

No they don't. Pickles must come forward or they are not really pickles they are only cucumbers in denial. Fuck pickles. How in fuck are pickles ever to be taken as seriously as tomatoes on a burger if they are so confused as to think they are still cucumbers? Only I have actually sent a jar of pickles to the President of the WORLD. In fact only people who eat burgers with pickles are allowed to even have or say they like burgers! All bow down to me, the great leader and only expert on all things WaHaHa
:rolleyes:

just4mefc

Jul 1, 2010, 12:43 PM

LOL I aint got no label. :( I had a sweetie look Alll over me, and he said he couldnt find one Anywhere. So I guess I dont have one. :rolleyes:

We don' need no stinkin labels, loves. We're people that love people...of both genders. We're BiSexuals. That's all anyone needs to know. .:bigrin:;):tongue:
Cat

Cat, they often hide the labels in the cracks, better let me take a look for you :tongue:

Wait your label is right on the tip of my tongue :eek: gonna have to keep trying it will cum to me soon, perhaps I need one more guy to check the other crack just be sure. Well don't just lay there, you might as well check a woman here for any missing labels while we search. :grouphug:

just4mefc

Jul 1, 2010, 12:46 PM

I want to put a label tattoo inside my lower lip...

Cum Here Often!

:bigrin:

Jessicaknight

Jul 1, 2010, 1:00 PM

On behalf of n2b&d...

No they don't. Pickles must come forward or they are not really pickles they are only cucumbers in denial. Fuck pickles. How in fuck are pickles ever to be taken as seriously as tomatoes on a burger if they are so confused as to think they are still cucumbers? Only I have actually sent a jar of pickles to the President of the WORLD. In fact only people who eat burgers with pickles are allowed to even have or say they like burgers! All bow down to me, the great leader and only expert on all things WaHaHa
:rolleyes:

LOL. that's cute. I like that. But still, if I ask you to jump, will you run instead?

Make me LOL again master WaHaHa.

XOX

csreef

Jul 1, 2010, 1:36 PM

We don' need no stinkin labels, loves. We're people that love people...of both genders. We're BiSexuals. That's all anyone needs to know. .:bigrin:;):tongue:
Cat[/QUOTE]

I couldn't have said it better myself...Thanks Cat ;)

Jessicaknight

Jul 1, 2010, 3:07 PM

To close the subject, I think I choose the wrong words

May-be the word LABEL hurts too many people.

All I wanted to ask is how do you see yourself and not get into all this crap that some people love so much. A simple question that can only have one answer, (That is your own) turns into an argument.

A question that when answered would give me incite on the people I spend time chatting with. And I can appreciate and say to myself, I’m good with my sexual desires. Not that I need this site to tell me that. I already know what I like and what I do. I know that I am respected in my community and hopefully respected here.

Thank you to everyone that has answered my question. With respect and appreciation to you, I will continue to read and write on our site.

As for the subject of what others think everyone else should be
Whether it is Bi, Gay, Pickle or Tomatoes with your Cheeseburgers.
I ask the question YOU want to answer.

How do YOU see people in THEIR lives?
With respect because I haven’t said R-E-S-P-E-C-T enough.

Jessicaknight

Jul 1, 2010, 3:44 PM

**Peg**

Jul 1, 2010, 6:30 PM

I label myself as a person who doesn't label people

Annika L

Jul 1, 2010, 9:16 PM

I'm confused (no, that's not my label)...are we supposed to be labeling *ourselves* or our sexuality?

If we're supposed to be labeling only our sexuality, then I am bisexual...'cause I'm sexually attracted to both males and females.

But the title of the thread is "How would you label yourself...." and I am certainly much more than my sexuality. If I am to label my entire self, then I must follow Wrenn and use the label Goddess (and the Goddess knows what I mean by that *smile*). Or if you are monotheistic and can only accept one Goddess, then (since Wrenn got there first :mad:) I suppose I'd have to label myself Complex.

just4mefc

Jul 2, 2010, 12:36 PM

.... I suppose I'd have to label myself Complex.

You? Noooo not you :tongue:

Annika L

Jul 2, 2010, 3:40 PM

You? Noooo not you :tongue:

Was that a crack? *huge grin*

My label of preference remains Goddess, you know!

just4mefc

Jul 2, 2010, 3:41 PM

Was that a crack? *huge grin*

My label of preference remains Goddess, you know!

more of an acknowledgement to the complex part :tongue:

BiByNature

Jul 2, 2010, 3:47 PM

I usually consider myself bisexual. But since all I want from a guy is to blow him, no recip. needed or wanted. Maybe I'm straight with an oral fetish. Maybe I'm bisexual with limitations. Maybe I'm just me.

kinsey4

Jul 2, 2010, 4:51 PM

Hi people, newbie here.

I used to go by gay, cos I was really wrapped up in the gay community and while I was, I was only attracted to guys because guys were all I knew. Lesbians often stay away from the gay men, at least where I live, and I don't know any bi's at all.

Nowadays I usually go by bi/bisexual cos it's easier, and sometimes it's true, I like 'manly' men and 'femme' women, it's really polarised. But I have been known to get crushes on trans guys and butch girls, so I guess queer is probably a better label for me.

:flag1:

MrBisex

Jul 2, 2010, 6:45 PM

I think it is a little bit silly all this labeling, because everybody are who they.

Some like men, other like women, and others again like both.

Basically does it really matter to have some sort of label the society gives you?

Is it not just a queation about being who you are ? and of like yourself for who you are without having a label on you, like you were popping out a food factory!

Just a thought

ohbimale

Jul 3, 2010, 2:38 AM

If I had to pick a label it would be bisexual. Because I am attracted to both sexes. I have had both physical and emotional relationships with both sexes. :male::bibounce::male::male:

lovescum2

Jul 3, 2010, 5:48 AM

Ok I'm Bisexual, meaning I love women and I'm attracted to them, but I have had sex with men in the past and do enjoy that to, but on a physical level. Different attractions for different reasons.

silentboxer

Oct 9, 2010, 4:10 AM

Str8 and 20% gay

coyotedude

Oct 9, 2010, 9:27 PM

I have always considered myself bisexual. But I find myself quite intrigued by the pansexual label. It's not quite a comfortable fit yet, but it's probably a more accurate label if I really think about it.

Peace

billy_campbell

Oct 10, 2010, 11:15 AM

I read the book Full Exposure by Susie Bright and I like what she says in her book.

Susie Bright: Next time someone asks you what you "are" sexually, tell them that nouns will not do. Deliver a story of the last time you were sexual, or imagined an erotic fantasy; and this description will be full of verbs and adjectives and even material that almost defies words. You may have to show it with your hands. Labels, every on of them, should be saved strictly for protest signs and sandwich boards.

;)

campfireresident

Oct 10, 2010, 2:33 PM

We don' need no stinkin labels, loves. We're people that love people...of both genders. We're BiSexuals. That's all anyone needs to know. .
Cat

Absolutely! I removed mine under penalty of law! LOL

alli_smiles

Oct 11, 2010, 3:49 AM

I would label myself as pansexual....I have been drawn to those that were female, male, intersex, trans. What drew me to them was not their x or y chromosomes....It was a certain invisible something???! Some of the most beautiful women I have met are trans, just as some of the most handsome men I have met were women. I think it makes me appreciate everyone more, and my world is a happier place cuz i see some aspect of beauty in almost everyone.:2cents: Oh, and in case anyone wondered: I am a woman, born, identify as one, but my little wish is that I could change bodies like suits of clothes, and just decide each day, hmmm who would I like to be today? That would be very cool....So failing that, - I just flirt with whomever I feel like as me- the short chubby redhead!:compuser:

Thomas_The_Rhymer

Oct 11, 2010, 4:45 AM

I don't worry about labels myself. I love women and I find myself attracted to men from time to time. The way I look at it is that I take pleasure where I can find it and love whenever I can. Ambisexual is my label if I have to chose one but I dislike labels.

risika413

Oct 11, 2010, 7:08 AM

80% Gay
19% Straight
1% I don't know what gender you are but you're hot.

bityme

Nov 14, 2010, 11:24 PM

Labels can depend on a lot of things, orientation, behavior, perception, and necessity. 40+ years ago when I was still in the military and my wife and I started swinging I would not have even labeled myself as a swinger. When we both started to engage in bisexual activity, it was the same. We were a monogamous, heterosexual couple as far as the world was concerned. If I had been open about anything else, I would have been discharged on the spot.

Later, we adopted two labels. We were bisexual to those with whom we engaged in bisexual activity and to everyone else it was "That's really none of your business, unless, of course, you are hitting on me." It stayed that way for the 18 years we were together, until she passed away.

When I remarried, to another wonderful bi lady, we continued the use of the dual labels. And, after she passed away in 2007, I have continued to use the same descriptions.

As to my perception of myself, I think of myself as bisexual because I engaged in sexual activity with adult women and men as well as any gender descriptions in between.

Interestingly, I recent took the Flexuality Test found in one of the other threads and the results came out as ambisexual. While the definition of ambisexual given for the test might be more descriptive of my behavior, if I started telling people I was ambisexual, then I would probably have to go into an explanation to educate them. Since the term bisexual is a little more universal in what people think it means, I guess I'll continue to use bisexual and avoid having to teach a lesson every time I strike up a conversation.

To the general public and those not in the lifestyle, my label is still "It's none of your business."

falcondfw

Nov 15, 2010, 12:54 AM

I would label myself as a good, caring, kind person. That is all that matters.

Zamaria

Nov 15, 2010, 10:46 AM

Hmmm. I think my label would have to be just plain old sexual. Not much turns me off, and a whole lot turns me on. Great question! You made me stop and think about it!

chillin33

Nov 15, 2010, 12:35 PM

Good question.......I came up with the label non-heterosexual. I only have sex with females and enjoy it allot, but, i also have attraction to males,but, not in a lustful (what like to fu@k) way (like with women), more on a-picking up on the male-magnetism and eyecontact desire sort of way, If that makes any sense at all. I can find a guy handsome or "cute" sometimes, and may catch myself glancing and having that involuntary pause kick in (afterwhich i usually just look away and go about my business). My attraction to other males is valid, but, not enough to want to do anything sexual with one. And besides the female body is so sexy, thats all i really need. I dont fantasize about gay sex , dream about or have a strong desire for gay sex, but i dont feel comfortable enough about how my eyes sometimes lock onto other guys to condsider myself straight. Oh and there was the one gay experience i had when i was around 10, which was my first "sexual experience".
I dont obstain from doing anything sexual with a guy because im necessarily closeted or for religous reasons, they just dont turn me on enough to want to go there. And though ive tried on occasion, i just cant get myself to go through with watching a gay porn video. So to make a long story, less long....for now i'll just say "non-hetero" or non-practicing bisexual with a much stronger desire for women. And if anybody can help me define it more id appreciate the input.

12voltman59

Nov 15, 2010, 12:43 PM

It does seem that as human beings--we do have an intrinsic need to label, categorize, quantify, etc. the things we experience in the world.

I think that the way we categorize sexuality in all its forms is pretty narrow, confining and pretty much incorrect----but based on this most imperfect system of sexual categorization---the term "bisexuality" (at least in the way I define it for myself) does seem to best describe what I am.

I am surely not 100% straight and neither am I 100% "gay".

Drkluvtheory99

Nov 15, 2010, 1:30 PM

That is a hard one for me I havent been able to describe myself yet. I am a FtM so for some people it is very complicated tryna figure out my sexuality which i keep tellin dem to stop. the best way to describe me would say Pansexual. Before I started my transition i didnt mess with guys at all. I thought about it and love watchin gay porn it turns me on. When I moved out of my hometown i felt the freedom to be the real ME. I love a fem gay male or Queen whatever you want to call them. I find they have so much confidence to be who they are and when they walk with that switch in there hips OMG sexy!! Then again I always love my women and there softness, curves, hips, tits, thighs everything. I just love all people!! I spread my love and dont care just have confidence, be funny, and intelligent. So I am a pansexual or I just tell people i am a LOVER.

liberlib

Nov 15, 2010, 2:13 PM

I am going to try to answer the original question as asked.

I currently label my self "Bi-curious" because I hae been developing a desire to engage in M2M sex but have too limited experience to know if that is valid for me or just a hyper-active fantasy.

But I actually like part of one of Cat's responses better--
"Do not think so little of me as to grant me your tolerance. Allow me your acceptance and understanding of who and what I am with the love, respect and dignity with which I do you. "

I was diagnosed as an adolescent as having an "Identity Crisis". I literally didn't realize until my recent research into what I am feeling that what was actually happening was that my parents thought I might be a developing homosexual. It turns out that I wasn't but I don't present strongly as a man but neither am I effeminate. I am a father, brother, son, husband, friend, teacher, and mentor. I am capable and have given love, comfort, excitement, and friendship to women and to a lesser extent men. My label "bi-curious" is a stage I am passing through and will change, possibly for each person I meet on that journey. But above all, I am what I am.

ubersmack

Nov 15, 2010, 9:18 PM

I am just going to put it out there like this. I am bisexual, meaning I will have sex with a man or a woman. I am not attracted to men in an emotional way, but I do like a man's body. So really I am attracted to the human form, I guess you could say. :bigrin:

darkeyes

Nov 15, 2010, 9:40 PM

But I actually like part of one of Cat's responses better--
"Do not think so little of me as to grant me your tolerance. Allow me your acceptance and understanding of who and what I am with the love, respect and dignity with which I do you. "

She sed that?? Awwww me luffly...ya ole copy cat ya... muuuuuuuah!

Paragon

Nov 16, 2010, 11:05 AM

Pretty anti-labels all around but most people would slap me with the Bi label. Why? Because I absolutely love cock. Only thing is I don't really like guys so its kind of odd. I much prefer the company of women and sex with women is phenomenal.

Would never go on a date with a dude or hold hands or anything like that. Even holding the hips or ass during BJs feels like a big step, and I have been oral with men for seven years.

I don't believe in 'acting' one way or another though. Anything ingenuine is obnoxious.