Bicurious, the next step?

[sheppy]

Hi! :)

I'm quite new to this forum (& also quite new bi in general). So first off I'd like to say hi. I've read quite a few posts on these forums and hence I'm quite confident that this is the best place to pose this question.

Right well basically my dilemma, which I'm sure will sound like quite a simple one, is that after some time I have come to the conclusion that I am at least bi-curious, if not actually bisexual, however I have actually no idea on how I should go about to test this theory. Or rather where the best places are to find like minded people, of around the same age, (I'm 21) etc. Being quite new to this I just don't know where to start!

Any advice that can be given would be appreciated .
Thanks,
Sheppy

[jeancarleo]

find other bisexual or gay on website n meet n find out

[Realist]

Hi Shep, Welcome to the site.

If you'd ask my advice, I'd say cement your idea of what you'd like to experience and how you'd like to go about it, then through bi-friendly sites, try to locate someone with your same interests and goals.

Writing, sharing ideas, interests and mutual feelings, then maybe calling, and finally meeting in a public place for some eye-ball contact, is a natural progression of relationships.

In my way of thinking, taking time to build trust and developing mutual interests is important and usually has worked better for me than just "jumping in the water without looking".

Don't settle for less than you want, or you'll never find the pleasure and maybe love, that you desire. I've done that and know what I'm talking about.

Good luck, I hope it's a great path for you....ah, to be 21 again!

[bigbadmax]

Hi,

I assume(not checked your location...yet) that you may be in a rural area.

firstly its bad enouth not being/feeling the norm ie hetro,add to that lack of contact with like minded local peeps and the frustration,confusion and feeling of solitude is ten times worse.

I come from rural area but the only place i feel at ease is here. I get a rush from walking past gay bars in london but never feel confident to enter.

my only suggestion is that above.....try and talk with peeps on this site,meet if needs must......but dont feel pressured into anything...ive had meats but walked away after a pint because didnt feel right.

be yourself...and someone will catch your eye...and maybe jump your bone!

big hugs

P

[2fucked]

Maybe see how comfortable you are with seeing a guys cock in straight porn, or guys in gay porn? If you like watching both, then surely you must be at least bi curious. But if you want to try sex with another guy, then actually do it, you could lose the curious part of the tag.

[tenni]

I agree with a lot of what others have posted. I'd like to pick up on what Realist stated. You do not know if you are going to enjoy it or not. A little thinking ahead of time may help. You may want to just be naked with another guy as a first step. You may want to jerk off with another man as a start. You may just want to touch another man's cock. From there you may want more.

Your fantasy of being with a man may or may not meet the reality. Would you be comfortable having impersonal sex or do you want to be comfortable and feel relaxed or even like the guy before you do anything?

Be aware that you may feel guilt immediately after having an orgasm with another guy. That doesn't mean that you are not bi though. You may not depending upon how comfortable you are with the idea of having sex with a man. If you do and in a few weeks later you start to think about it again, know that you need to become more comfortable with yourself about it but you probably are bisexual.

I would suggest that you make sure that you are relaxed with the other person and your comfort level may be better. Being 21, none of this may matter if you are horny enough...lol

[sheppy]

Thanks for all the responses guys, it's all really helpful stuff.


Maybe see how comfortable you are with seeing a guys cock in straight porn, or guys in gay porn? If you like watching both, then surely you must be at least bi curious. But if you want to try sex with another guy, then actually do it, you could lose the curious part of the tag.

I originally came to the conclusion I must be at least Bi-Curious, after watching some gay porn, which has now brought me to the point of which I wish to explore further.

I think being comfortable will definitely help me progress.

[MagikSpaceFries]

I am new to these forums as well! So welcome!

Since you are 21 I would try heading out to a gay bar. There are a wide variety of people who go there & you'd be able to meet & talk to them! The bars, in my opinions, always seem to be very open & relaxed with no pressures so you can feel more comfortable with yourself & the people around you. Give it a try! You might find your curiosities are well intended :)

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Like others have said, Hon. Go explore and see what all you can find. Gay bars can be a blast, but dont let anyone talk you into anything you dont feel like your ready for...until you Are.
Explore, play, experiance, but be safe At All Costs.;)
Have fun.
Cat

[jamieknyc]

The first tiem you do it, you may feel a little funny actually doing it. Don't let that bother you, or cause you to back out.

Remember also that if you try it and don't like it, you aren't obligated to do it again. Some people try it and decide it isn't for them.

[Pasadenacpl2]

Many men who are bicurious find it helpful to have a woman they are close to as a part of their first few experiences. you might want to consider that as an option. It's far easier, I've found, to explore when you don't have to be the center of the attention. It helped me, anyway.

Pasa

[69luvr]

Thanks for all the responses guys, it's all really helpful stuff.



I originally came to the conclusion I must be at least Bi-Curious, after watching some gay porn, which has now brought me to the point of which I wish to explore further.

I think being comfortable will definitely help me progress.

welcome to the board. Be yourself! If you have the urge to explore, just do it. Don't look back. If ,after trying it, you enjoy it, you will be happy. if you try it and do not like it, at least you tried it and satisfied your bi-curiosity. Just do not be pushed by anyone into doing something you do not really want to do.