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Stinger78
Jun 4, 2010, 11:28 AM
Okay, so lemme start by saying that I'm not particularly asking a question or looking for advice or anything. Mostly I'm just after comments, similar happenings from you, and/or conversation.

So, it's like this... I've lived here in Albuquerque almost 6 years. The 2nd year I was here I met and made friends with...we'll call him 'Dan'. I mean, not like any of you would know him if I used his real name, but heh, whatever... So long story short, in the past when Dan has used my computer he's browsed what porn I have downloaded and various web sites and sometimes my bookmarks. In doing so, he would see links to gay and/or bisexual porn sites and first said nothing. I had lied and said I was burning some gay porn cd's for my friend Tony. Anyway, without going on into useless yet informative details, Dan recently asked me in a rather polite and 'I don't care, you're still my friend' way if I was bi. At first I said no, I make cd's for Tony, then reluctantly told the truth and said yes. About a week later, I went over to his house to help him repair his computer and some time later in the night he, in so many words, asked me if I'd be cool with him experimenting. I didn't want to at first cause we'd been friends for like almost 3 years, but eventually I did for his sake. I should mention that Dan is at anyone's first glance, straight. He does date and chase women, and like I said, I believe it to be experimentation. He's in his late 30's. I'm 31. 32 in November. Okay, before I lose track of my original intent and point, over time we've done a lil sumthin (no anal) probably 3 or 4 times. Now, here's what I wanted to get to... His size is... Well, as mean as it may come off, lol, when I was going down on him, I kept thinking to myself, 'Imagine it's a nipple...' over and over. When it was hard, I think it was like...I'd guess 3". Hell, that's just about what I am soft! Ha! Anyway, I'm gonna say that during our times I didn't get turned on, but sometimes I'd mentally get bored and more or less keep it up for him and his curiosity. I mean, like, I'm not all about big dicks, but his size, or lack thereof was sorta turning me off. Mostly because with it being small, I can't get into it and do what I do. I'd never tell him that of course, but has a lack of endowment ever turned any of you off and left you finding yourself continuing for the sake of the other person? I'm not worried about it being or seeming mean or rude... I suppose in a way it is, but, anyway... Yah, so that's about it....

Scratchy
Albuquerque, NM

SophiaBee
Jun 4, 2010, 11:34 AM
I think you'd be best off returning the relationship to where it began. Tell you'd rather keep it on a friends level. You dont have to tell him why.

mikey3000
Jun 4, 2010, 12:04 PM
I've had the opposite experience. My friend was too big for my oral satisfaction and I always ended up with a sore jaw. Never said anything either, just kept at it for his benefit. It's not like they could help it, so why mention it.

Realist
Jun 4, 2010, 12:07 PM
I agree, if he's that small, he may have a complex about it and saying anything about it may humiliate him; that can't be good. If you're turned off by his size, keep it to yourself. You can tell him you're interested in someone else, or that you just don't want to continue being intimate with him.

Personally, having a small penis is not a barrier to me at all Two of the best male lovers I ever had were not very well endowed at all. Having mutual interests, the ability to communicate, and the desire is what drew us together.

I'm glad that you're polite and do not want to hurt his feelings. But, if you are not attracted to him, you'll be smart to end the relationship before he begins to feel that you and he are a couple.

Good luck with this!

Cherokee_Mountaincat
Jun 4, 2010, 1:21 PM
I had a lover like that. He was very small in the penis arena but he had a mouth that rivaled mine! lol And he was very 'digitally' mastered as well..lol Please he was just fun to play with, and we worked around the being less endowded dept. :}
Cat

richarddennis
Jun 4, 2010, 5:50 PM
The biggest sexual organ is always between your ears...

Thinking more is better is about as goofy as the grass is greener,etc,etc,etc...

but..don't you dare tell this "friend" of your prejudices.

Stinger78
Jun 5, 2010, 5:56 AM
Hey, thank you everybody for your comments, suggestions, and replies. I think next time he brings it up, I think I will somehow politely decline and fail to mention the reason why. Thanks again everybody.

Scratchy