how did you explore your adolescent curiosity/sexuality

[biplayfulcouple]

1) How did you first learn about sex.

2) How did you first explore and experiment, with others?

2) Do you think that it contributed to the way (hetero/homo/bi) you are now?

We are a long time married, man and wife. totally straight and monogamous for the first 18 years. We began in the lifestyle 10 years ago as soft swingers and my wife discovered and enjoyed bi-play. The last few years, i have also engaged in bi play with my wife and other couples. We both fantasize about future sexual and bi-sexual encounters, with other couples.

I first learned about sex from a neighborhood boy. We were both around 11/12 years old. He and his sisters had found some of his parents porn magazines and had discussed it with his older sisters. He shared this information with me and when i didnt believe him; showed me one of the magazines. I dont know, how he knew, how to masturbate, but i didnt have a clue; and he taught me. We would meet at my house after school while my parent were away and "play". We'd take our pants and underwear off and play "you touch mine and i'll touch yours". Which led to mutual masturbation. And we both tried penile/anal penetration on each other, lots of times; to no avail. Strangely; we never sucked or licked each others dick or balls, out of fear of being labeled "queer". I remember that the feelings were incredibly intense and exciting! Feeling his little hard dick and balls felt so good!

We proceeded to talk to some of the other guys about it and found out, that they too had discovered masturbation. (I believe my buddy had been giving them lessons on the side too, LOL). I can remember two or three of us, joining in mutual masturbation, several times. Sometimes at my house, sometimes in the woods, at the end of the street.

None of us had girlfriends at that time and the "talk" was always centered around girls that we had crushes on. I also had several "touching and showing" experiences with two of my cousins (one male and one female), around the same age. By the time i reached 13 y/o, i no longer experimented with boys. And i dont know if they continued doing so or not. I started dating girls in 9th grade, but didnt really have any sexual experiences with them, until i was in 11th; and didnt experience intercourse, until i was 18.

Until a steamy night in a hot tub with another couple and the wives daring us; I had never thought of, or considered playing with a male, again! In fact I guess I was pretty much a homophobe, but not an asshole. (deep apologies to the LGBT community). Now, I flash back, to some of those first experiences and wonder if that set me up, for the way i am now. It was all good except the tremendous guilt and fear, as a child.

[esttxbiguy]

It was with two of my male cousins at first they were a couple y/o than me out camping one day we played show me yours when one cousin told me to suck his or i wasnt in the club lol well what a club it was then tnhey went anal on me, but no i know it wasnt that cause i was alreeady interested in cock i used to stare at my brothers but today i wouldnt trade my bisexuality for nothing there isnt nothing better than having the best of both worlds.<<<<<<<:male::wiggle2:

[innaminka]

1. I had a big sister who got boobs, pubic hair and menstruated quite early. Lots of questions answered.

2. I didn't! It was solo all the way until well into teenage years.

3. No! I was who I am since birth. Only I didn't recognise it. (which gave me heaps of fun along the way!! :tong:)

[ganix22]

:male: : I REALLY liked to wrestle as a kid, I usually lost ,but never found an issue with that. I liked the feeling of having someone, anyone, on top and dominating me. I did play the show me yours game when I was little and at about 10-12 when I first started to hit puberty I discovered porn and my friends and I would watch it together and masturbate. We never played with each others and at first we weren't shy about showing our pieces to each other, but after about a year or so we shied up. But in the end, I got most of my kicks, wrestling. Lol even now it's my favorite porn fetish. >_>

[darkeyes]

..very enjoyably...:bigrin:

[Focker]

Okay this should be fun trying to recall all of this from memory.

#1. How did I first learn about sex?
I'm sure I got it from other kids in the neighborhood and school.

#2. How did I first explore/experience with others?
Here's where it gets a little weird. I was always a horny kid, jerking off for any reason what so ever. At about the age of 13, my sister who was 3 yrs older had herself a boyfriend. He and I were pretty good pals, he would spend time with me playing ball and such. I thought he was fucking my sister but was not sure, until one night. He just lived down the street so he was at our house quite a bit.

One night my parents went out to a party and would not be home until late. Guess who showed up, yep my sisters BF. They of course pretty much left me alone and went to her room. I went to my room and did what I always did,,,,played with myself.

Maybe 30-45 mins later, he came into my room. I covered myself, but he knew what I was doing. He said that my sister was asleep and he did not want to go home yet, could he stay with me? I said sure, I don't care.

He hopped on the bed beside me and asked me if I was jerking off. I told him no, but he was too smart for that. He said okay, but I was going to let you smell my fingers. Wow, a light went off in my head and I said ok yeah I was jerking off, could I please smell your fingers.

He let me, and the smell was like nothing I had ever smelled before. It was like perfume to my nose, which made my dick stand at attention.

He saw me rubbing my dick through the bed covers and told me it was ok to do it in front of him. So I uncovered myself, then he asked me if he could jerk off with me. He said he was so horny since all he got to do was finger my sister. I said, sure.

There we were, on my bed naked, jerking off and watching each other. I could not help but look at his dick, it was much bigger than mine. Then he said he wanted to taste my dick, and would I taste his? With a huge lump in my throat I said, "I guess so". I was scared to death, but curious too.

Next thing I know, he had his mouth on my dick and it was the best feeling I had ever had. So I thought, this aint so bad. I went down on him and began sucking his dick, it was actually turning me on.

We got ourselves into a 69 position with him on top of course. I was being smothered by his balls and ass and I was about to blow my wad, and so was he. We started to cum at almost the same time, but I think I was first.

He shot a load in my mouth and I swallowed every drop. He got a pretty nice shot of boy cum from me too. It was the first time I had ever had sex with another person. All I had done to this point was jerk off.

Well heck, from then on, every time he came over we would repeat that episode when ever we could. This went on for about a year or so.

Then I got myself a GF, yes sir yee, I was ready for some pussy. And I tore into her like a pro. It was awesome, this feeling of being a man and getting pussy. We fucked so much that sometimes my dick would be raw.

Problem was, I kept thinking about my sisters BF and how much I enjoyed sucking his dick. How can this be? Am I a queer? What am I? Who am I?

The years went by and so did the GF's, but I always had one. But I always wanted to do it again with another boy, that feeling would not go away.
I was marked for life, the stage was set for who I would grow up to be.

# 3. Do I think that it contributed to the way (hetero/homo/bi) I am now?
Hell yes it did, without a doubt. It did not make me who I am today, but it played a huge roll. I'm sure I would have felt the urge to do that at some point in my life, but it came at such an early age that it had a lasting impact on me.

Sometimes I wonder if I had been with a girl first, would I have ever done that with a boy. But the reality is that I had my first sexual experience with a boy, and the effect it had on me was profound. There were times when I actually hated myself for what I had done, thinking I had distorted my way of thinking and become this freak.

But the truth is, we are all who we were meant to be. It is a genetic code that you cannot deny......personally, I think we are all BI. :cool:

[53bimale]

Oh gosh, what memories.

I was raised in a strict home where sex was never mentioned. That was taboo. I can never remember not being curious about sex. Is being bi genetic, learned, or what? I do not argue the case. All I can tell you is the first man I ever saw naked at a very young age, I wanted to touch and hold his mantool. To me, it was a desireable thing. And also,the first woman I ever saw naked, I wanted to touch and explore. Now you did not even dare to mention anything sexual on our home.
Even when my childhood buddies would talk of sexual things, I found most of them did not think like I did. I could not bring up the fact I wanted guys as much as girls....so I learned not everyone is bi quickly.
I had to keep my desires for men hidden from family and friends. I did finally meet a guy who thought like I did....and we began a long term friendship and enjoyed bi sex with each other. I was in my teens by then.
It is quite frustrating being bi as long as you can remember and not having those around you who think of it as a good thing. For me, it was natural. To everone else, I was wierd. But when I thought on sex, I thought of men and women and would masturbate thinking of both. One thing about being a guy, I did get to see many guys naked. And each time I saw one, I would get exicted sexually and desire to have sex with them. So I had to keep all that secret. I had to learn it all on my own. Thanks to my buddy who was bi to learn and develope my disires. There is not room here to share all the feelings......but all I can tell you is even today, I still love sex with men and women at the age of 57. Some call it a curse, but to me, it is a desireable thing.

Sorry got lost in memories......I was and am bi, I learned with a guy buddy and a lady in the neighborhood.

I am still actively bi and just love sex to the fullest.

[Realist]

My early life was a mirror image of 53BIMALE's.....as was my first wife's.

We both were very curious at an early age. But, our home environment (as with BIMALE's) was not conducive to exploring. Going to small schools with close supervision and, having no young neighbors, also prevented any interaction with inquisitive children.

Other than some rare moments with a couple of very precocious female cousins, I was mostly in the dark about why I was so compelled to look, touch, and get excited by both genders.

When my 1st wife was 13, she was seduced by an older lady and they remained lovers for as long as the lady lived. Soon after my 14th birthday, I was also seduced by an older male neighbor.

Lucky for us both, we were not taken violently, coerced, or scared into it. I know I allowed my seducer to give my first orgasm, because I craved it. He had talked to me for almost a year about sexuality and allowed me to determine if I wanted to let him take my virginity. When I was ready he was waiting and willing to take me to my first level of exploring my sexuality.

The following summer, his 40 year old married daughter was my first female sexual partner. However, neither the father, or daughter, ever knew about my participating, sexually, with the other one.

Did these two cause my life's direction become bisexual? I think not....someone would have come along later, with whom I would have developed my sensual life, but I was lucky to have mature teachers to begin with.

[sterculius]

At about 14 or 15 my best friend Larry and I were sitting in his fathers car one summer evening just bullshitting and we got to talking about our developing interest in sex. We hadn't done anything with girls yet but we thought about it all the time. We decided to jerk off together which over the next few weeks, led to giving each other hand jobs and then inevitably, blowjobs. I was surprised to discover that I really liked sucking his cock which was considerably bigger than mine. I enjoyed the taste and texture of his cum and I liked swallowing it. He would reluctantly give me a blowjob in return because he felt that he owed me but after a while he stopped blowing me and I became his own personal cocksucker. I would blow him almost every day after school for about two years until we graduated from high school and he went away to college. My primary sexual interest has always been women but ever since my early experiences with my best friend, I have also always had an obsessive need to suck cock.

[ablewon]

when i was about 14 we lived in the country and the only male youth nearby was about 16, we would go exploring through the fields and woods. it just happened while we were in the wood , he threw me to the ground just for fun and we wrestled, he had me pinned down pressing against me, i got hard and came in my pants, i was in a mess took off my pants and wiped self with grass, he laughed at me told me to look at him as he pulled out his cock and masturbated in front of me. we were sex buddies for about a yr after that.

[Nadir]

Well,I think the process was a normal one for me. Knew about sex when I was little (around eight years old or so I knew that adults had to do "something" to actually get pregnant and have kids, pregnancies dont appear out of nowhere). I really was somewhat of a precocious kids, by that age I was already trying to fondel my older cousins´ breasts (and I was sometimes scolded because of that,but most times they didnt take it seriously). I was also prone to watch several "mature" films (I remember watching "Showgirls" at nine or so years of age and literally couldnt take my eyes off the screen...Elizabeth Berkley and Gina Gerson really were (and still are) really beautiful women). At eleven years old I had my first masturbation and orgasm,as I have explained in another thread. The only time I have ever done it in front of another guy was my best mate, a couple of months later than I discovered it. I wanted to show him the "new thing" I had learnt. He was quick to tell me that lots of guy did that and it was nothing new. We never had any contact between ourselves, but, as he was more experienced than me in sexual matters, he explained several things to me, becoming a "teacher" of sorts. In the years that followed we used to watch porn togegher (althought without masturbating in front of each other,still). At age 15, I had my first kiss (and more experiences) with one of my older cousins, then at 16 I fell in love with a girl for the first time. At 17 I had an experience with my friend´s mother (and began to be called "Stifler" because of that) and then at 18 I had my first girlfriend, and at 19 I lost my virginity (yeah, I know,sort of a late starter,but well,I was late for almost everything). And the rest, as people usually say,its history.

[snakkie]

1) How did you first learn about sex.
I don't remember very well, i only know that i was one of the first to know what that whas between my friends.

2) How did you first explore and experiment, with others?

i think the very first time i experimented, was with a big friend of mine when we were 6. we touched each other.
But the more sexual thing was at 8 maybe, we (the same friend) were quite advanced in sexual information, and sometimes just for fun, we brought some condoms to school. someday, we at home started to play with each other and suck each others cock - that lasted until we were 12 (when he lost his virginity with a girl) we never talked again about that, and he is quite homophobic now...
At 14, me and my actually best friend, started talking about sex (and he knew about what i did with my other friend), so one day we decided to try with each other - we sucked each other, and i penetrated him a litle.
then he told me about another friend of us that also like to play (lets call him the third guy).
I started to play with this 3rd guy, had some interesting experiences until my 17/18 years.

i had some girlfriends, some good experiences with girls, and had sex once with one. then i had two bad experiences in a row (to much alcohol intake=no erection) that kind of traumatised me =X and that makes me afraid of having sex with girls.
but, yeah, i love guys mucchhh more (i think now i'm abou "70% gay")



3) Do you think that it contributed to the way (hetero/homo/bi) you are now?
well, maybe yes...

[Realist]

When I was in my 20s, I had a young Portuguese lover. He was a beautiful, short, chubby guy, who was very virile and extremely sensual. His family was in the fishing business, near Boston. When I see television stories about Portugal, I look for Portuguese guys, who look like him...a stupid thing to do, I know...but he was a sweet boy!