making that first move

[Jimmy Splash]

hi, i always have fantasies about sucking a mans cock and taking his load. I've never ever done it before but deep down i know i'd love to.
i'm just worried what i might think of myself afterwards

[MrDeville]

If you're like me, you might feel funny afterwards like you had just done something totally wrong but you soon get over it. So enjoy yourself and do what you want to do.

[rutemptedalso]

Well, for me one wasn't enough. I couldn't wait to do it again and again and again and again. Can't get enough!

[Realist]

It's not uncommon to have doubts and guilt feelings, anytime you do something out of the ordinary for you...or, experienced things that you may have heard negative things about.

I began young and for some time had no problems with what I'd been part of. That is, until I began to mature and listened to other's morals, religious teachings, and prejudices. I went through a period of self-doubt and guilt, too, but finally realized that's who I was and accepted myself.

You have to begin somewhere and, if you find you like being bisexual, fine. You may find that it's not for you....if so, just chalk it up to being a learning process, then move on.

[bdbear53]

I always wanted to try a cock ever since i was in my 20s, ended up not doing it till i was 45, felt a little funny at first just had to go for it and am now glad I did

[HappyHedonic]

I experimented with gay sex when I was a shy, confused teen. It was not the best scenario to experiment...giving a blowjob to a much older guy in his car at night in the park...I was very worried about the repercussions of being labeled a "fag" so during and afterward I felt weird about this "gay side" to me. A year after that I finally had sex with a girl and pursued women for twelve years trying to convince myself that I was totally straight. Then, in my early 30's, I found myself in bed with a guy my age who I was actually attracted to. The moment his cock was in my mouth I said in my head (and I knew in my heart) "this is right, this is good, I want this". Every guy I have had sex with since then I have not regretted or felt weird afterward. I still am attracted to women but men are also on my radar, too and I know that they belong there. I can't say that your experience will be the same, but if you never follow your curiosity, you'll never know,will you?

[ErosUrge]

It's not uncommon to have doubts and guilt feelings, anytime you do something out of the ordinary for you...or, experienced things that you may have heard negative things about.

I began young and for some time had no problems with what I'd been part of. That is, until I began to mature and listened to other's morals, religious teachings, and prejudices. I went through a period of self-doubt and guilt, too, but finally realized that's who I was and accepted myself.

You have to begin somewhere and, if you find you like being bisexual, fine. You may find that it's not for you....if so, just chalk it up to being a learning process, then move on.

Lots of wisdom in all that Realist has to say. I can only add a little to this from my own experience. When I first became active sexually which was at age 13 with another male who was 14 and also with a couple of other guys at my junior high school, I didn't really give it much thought. There was always the conversations with guys where the talk was always negative about being "queer" and how that was something to avoid. But there was always talk in the dressing room of the gym about jacking off but not with each other....I am sure a lot of these guys were doing it with each other but would dare not admit it. And even talk about masturbating was sometimes received with negative comments.
Anyhow, when I reached 18 and 19, I embraced being bi for numerous reasons and was very open about it until age 22 and then became fearful of it. I went into deep denial about it but the urges and feelings to be sexual with males never went away though I adored the women I was with and the sex with them too. I allowed the comments of some people and society, religion, et al to impact me. And since I adored women, I just couldn't understand why I had interest in men sexually...I was very confused about it and every time I acted out with a guy sexually, I always carried this terrible burden of guilt for it. This went on for years until I just couldn't stand it anymore. I finally resolved it by digging in deep to make a decision. And that was to accept it once and for all.
Now I'm not suggesting you take my experience and do the same; not at all.
This is something that only you can come to terms with and as was said, it might not be something that you ultimately will want for yourself. And that's really alright. Just be gentle with yourself and know that either way it will be good as long as you're at peace with it. Hopefully you won't drag yourself through many years as I did to make peace. The best to you with whatever you decide.

[Bisexual Explorer]

After the first time I sucked and swallowed, I thought that I was a real jerk for waiting so long for something that wonderful. Then I thought wow, I want to do it again, and again, and.... I'm still sucking, swallowing, and loving it. Don't think about it too much, just do it.
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[Bi2Talk]

Just focus on having done something you always wanted to do. For me it, was a little awkward getting started and I wasn't really sure if I'd go all the way with it. It ended up being great fun and a pleasent surprise ;)

[Daviecurious]

If my situation is any indication, you really won't know until you try. In my case, I made contact w/another member of this site, and a series of e-mail and phone contacts followed. My travel plans allowed us to meet and we 'connected' right away. His was the first cock I ever put my lips on, and we had a great time, both out and about town and at home after the door was closed.

Emboldened by this, I made contact w/another guy on another site. We met right away, and went to a motel. Turned into a 'blow and go' and I remember how cheap and used I felt as I left. Carefull reflection showed me what not to do, and my feeleings were totally my responsibility, based on my actions.

Third contact was more like the first. Initial e-mails and PM's, a meeting in a public place to get to know each other, and eventual private contact. That was much better than Situation Two.

My advice: Find a person who you can connect to, who has a similar sexual viewpoint, and see what happens. And Good Luck!!!!!

[lilbitsva]

i'm sure that at first it will be a little awkard but once you get that over with you nerviousness will go away and then you will be able to really enjoy it. Even if the first experience isn't that great do it again because then you know more about what is going to happen and will be able to really enjoy it a little bit better

[ready5858]

I was drinking the first time I did it, which made it a whole lot easier and fun. It made me feel a little wierd at first but the second time (later the same evening) and I was hooked and that was the start of many enjoyable nights and some days. Even had 5 guys one evening needless to say I was full when I left!..lol