Who is better at cunnilingus, men or women?

[bemyonlyone]

Since someone else posted asking who is better at blowjobs, I thought I'd look into the flip side of that.

I personally have no experience either way, but from what I've read, women who have experienced both say women are better. I'm not saying that's for sure, just what I've gathered out of my own research.

So for women who are comfortable answering...who's better at it?

[DareMe]

I don't know, but I am willing to take part in the experiment. All you need is a few other recruits some blind folds (makes it interesting) and a few scoring sheets.

Any one want to join me?

my specialty :rotate:

nothing like langua action!

;)

Dm

[bemyonlyone]

*wants more answers*

[rissababynta]

Never had a chick go down on me yet...

anyone wanna help me out with that? ;) Ya know...for the sake of me being able to answer the question and all...:bigrin:

[Long Duck Dong]

I can not speak from experience as a lady, but based around what I have been told..... it depends on the males attitude towards oral sex......

some males rush in to it like a bull at a gate and other males perfer cream pies..but then you get the males that embrace it as a * journey *.... exploring every time and apparently they are better, as its not rushed and they can make oral sex a complete experience in itself.....

I have been told that I am very good at it.... but yeah, I enjoy the full experience, but I would not like to put myself on the level of a experienced lady that is skilled at oral.....

[bemyonlyone]

Never had a chick go down on me yet...

anyone wanna help me out with that? ;) Ya know...for the sake of me being able to answer the question and all...:bigrin:

I will! jk jk

The general idea I get is that men who are good at it are really, really good at it, because they enjoy it so much.

[someotherguy]

Men are better at it, but women often lack the good sense to appreciate the difference and will favor women just out of misguided gender loyalty. Then again, the men who are very bad at it tend to wreck the curve.

Reminder: Spit out your gum before you start.

[TwylaTwobits]

sorry I don't have any misguided gender loyalty....personally I think whatever oral sex you are into, it doesn't matter your gender, it matters if you really want to do it. If it's something you like to do you will naturally be better at it than someone who merely does it to please their partner.

[notsostr8]

Hmmmm,... I personally LOVE performing cunnilingus. I enjoy every sensation as the labia fill & expand, the juices flow,... I do "enjoy the journey" and can more reliably make my partner squirm with orgasm with my tongue than I've ever been able to do with my cock. Things I look forward to: trimmed pubes (on guys and gals) & brazilian bikini waxing is awesome!

Favorite moments: at a summer sleepover party, BBW hits on me all afternoon... we end up in bed... she shuddered thru two orgasms in a row and grabs my head from her snatch to make me stop... then we fucked.

Later in life I'm dating a Korean woman whom is a squirter. (First & only) truly enjoyed the baptism I got as I licked her while using a dildo on her...

I've been told that a lot of guys just aren't good at it, or they don't care to become good at it. stupid bastards... :tongue:

[12voltman59]

I was fortunate to have had an older, more mature female taught me how to perform oral sex on ladies----she told me to not be so rough, to take my time--to try different places and such and to rely upon the responses the lady receiving it was giving to things I was doing.

I will say once again like I basically said with fellatio---it depends on the skill and care of the individual giviing it--but like with guys giving oral to other guys I had said that perhaps guys did that best---I would suspect that women might have a better edge on performing the best cunillingus.

[bemyonlyone]

Men are better at it, but women often lack the good sense to appreciate the difference and will favor women just out of misguided gender loyalty. Then again, the men who are very bad at it tend to wreck the curve.

Reminder: Spit out your gum before you start.

Men are better at it? Okay...but I think I meant to direct this question at the women, I should have edited the title of my thread.

Plenty of men are terrible at it and some don't even bother, so I think you're being a bit...biased? I think it depends more on the enthusiasm of the person doing it than the gender.

[DareMe]

I will! jk jk

The general idea I get is that men who are good at it are really, really good at it, because they enjoy it so much.

You know I am persuaded that the mental image plays a big role. If you know a man is going down on you as oppose to a woman you will unconsciously have predispositions on how it feels. If we want to run a really clinical survey, I would insist on the usage of blindfolds.

It's just like guys who say that other men give better blowjobs. Could it be that the "Taboo" of having a same sex partner going down on you plays in your mind and makes for a more gratifying situation, again, in your mind? Let's not forget that the brain is our biggest sex organ.

DM

[bemyonlyone]

Stereotypically speaking, I expect women to be gentler and men rougher.

And yeah, the taboo definitely plays a role.

[Lady_Passion]

I used to believe women were always better until I met my current BF. He feels like ME doing exactly what I want and how I would if I could. Have to say he is truly as good and better than some women I've been with. Now I'm convinced it depends upon interest, passion and an innate sense of correct touch. Interest, because anyone can learn.

Most men seem to not realize at all how tender and sensitive the flesh is there. Or that it can be so much more worthwhile if they spent more time. One of the most annoying practices is total focus on the clit and little or no attention to the entire area. There are different types and degrees of orgasm. I enjoy the tantric approach to cunnilingus. Lingering all over, side-to-side, up and down the full length of the labia, long smooth, circular tongue strokes... roughness or hit and run doesn't work for me. To be fair, there are pillow princesses who are just as lacking in skill or interest. Good intentions and wishful thinking definitely don't get the job done :.)

[Luffly1]

Those who perform oral sex the best are the ones willing to take the time to ask what their partner likes :)

[bemyonlyone]

Hmm. I wonder why the men didn't hesitate (most of them) to say men were better at giving fellatio, but women seem more charitable...lol.

[bemyonlyone]

bumping this again, and wondering why more women didn't reply to this...is this site just mostly men?

[Devin]

I’d guess a lot of women are better than men on going down, from what I’ve heard and read from women. I believe the the same goes for men giving head. A person knows his or her own body and sex best. However, there’s no rule without an exception.

[bemyonlyone]

The men who really enjoy it tend to be good at it, from what I've read.

[rochester69ny]

The men who really enjoy it tend to be good at it, from what I've read.

I would be willing to volunteer my services if you ever wanted to conduct your own personal expirement! :tong:

[bwitme]

from my experience so far men are better at bjs havent had a great woman yet so until then its men for me?

[bemyonlyone]

from my experience so far men are better at bjs havent had a great woman yet so until then its men for me?

Oops, you posted to the wrong thread.

I was thinking, though...maybe women don't realize how good it feels to men, ESPECIALLY if the man never goes down on her. How can she understand unless he at least gives her oral sex? Men who expect blowjobs but never reciprocate are likely to get less-than-stellar ones, I think. Not only is a woman already at a disadvantage by not having a penis and therefore unable to understand exactly how it feels, but she doesn't even get to understand how good it feels to a woman.

I know that if I was with a man (or woman) who never went down on me I would grow resentful really fast and I would probably find excuses not to go south.

I think that sometimes men dislike giving a woman oral the same way women dislike giving men a blowjob. In the same way that a woman can't deal with having a penis in her mouth, trying not to gag and her eyes watering because he didn't even have the courtesy to shower beforehand (and worse still, if he's shoving it in), men are scared of being that intimate with a woman. Sure, it feels good to put his penis inside, but when's the last time he really took a good look at a woman down there and didn't feel fear or apprehension? There are men who don't even know where the clitoris is. Some think the vagina is a scary cave. Some are just embarrassed that they'll do it wrong and embarrass themselves. Some don't want a woman to tell them they don't know or they're doing it incorrectly, because in all other areas of the relationship they think they have all the answers.

People have to get over these issues and I think everyone will be happier and more sexually fulfilled. Everyone deserves to receive oral sex that they enjoy and don't just sit through and count the minutes until it ends.

[clovermoon]

Simple fact, tell us what you want. Tell us what you like. Men: Listen and do it.

[chub-bi]

Because women are born with vaginas, one would think that naturally they would perform cunnilingus better because they know what feels good to them.
Likewise, guys should give better blowjobs since they are more familiar with the parts.
In my experience, oral sex is best performed by people that genuinely like to please their partners. People who take the time to learn what their partner enjoys.
I love giving and getting oral sex to and from both.
I'm also amazed at the number of friends I have that say they can't stand eating pussy, they just do it for a few seconds and then expect a blowjob in return.
I've always thought that if you take your time down there and experiment with your lips and tongue, eventually you will find a rhythm that your partner will enjoy.
Women have given me some awesome blowjobs, and if I had to rank them 1
through 10 I would say 6 of the best BJs I have ever gotten were given by women.
And for pussy eating, I'd be willing to bet I'm in a lot of womens top 10 also.

[69luvr]

Those who perform oral sex the best are the ones willing to take the time to ask what their partner likes :)

agreed. It makes no difference who is doing oral IF they enjoy what they are doing and want to please their partner. I luv oral sex with both men and women.:bipride:

[wildwestgoob]

... and a few scoring sheets.



I prefer silk sheets....:tong:

[Michele Mayelle]

*wants more answers*
I believe that any man can suck another man better than a woman, but this only applies if the man is Bi or Gay, unless she is taught just where the really sensitive part is on a hard cock & just how to get the right movement with her tongue sliding back & forth & from left to right as it slides in & out between her lips. If the man is only straight, then just the thought & sight of the woman sucking him, even with very little or no experience, he will still enjoy every moment of it. I think this also applies if your Bi/Lesbian or straight. A woman KNOWS just where to put her lips & tongue, how hard to lick, how hard to suck & just the right moment to either lick faster or to suck harder & to ease off at the right time after her partner has cum due to her clitoris becoming so sensitive.

[bemyonlyone]

I believe that any man can suck another man better than a woman, but this only applies if the man is Bi or Gay, unless she is taught just where the really sensitive part is on a hard cock & just how to get the right movement with her tongue sliding back & forth & from left to right as it slides in & out between her lips. If the man is only straight, then just the thought & sight of the woman sucking him, even with very little or no experience, he will still enjoy every moment of it. I think this also applies if your Bi/Lesbian or straight. A woman KNOWS just where to put her lips & tongue, how hard to lick, how hard to suck & just the right moment to either lick faster or to suck harder & to ease off at the right time after her partner has cum due to her clitoris becoming so sensitive.

Hmm...I don't know. I think straight men could be good at it if they let go of their hangups. I imagine they could please a man as well as any bi/gay man, most of them would just never go that far. I do know there are some straight men who will receive a blowjob from a man. I see enough ads in craigslist to prove that, haha. At least they get to experience that.

I really wish more men could be open to their sexuality.

[Michele Mayelle]

Hmm...I don't know. I think straight men could be good at it if they let go of their hangups. I imagine they could please a man as well as any bi/gay man, most of them would just never go that far. I do know there are some straight men who will receive a blowjob from a man. I see enough ads in craigslist to prove that, haha. At least they get to experience that.

I really wish more men could be open to their sexuality.

I just cannot see any really straight man even thinking of sucking another man. I did not realise that I was Bi until late in life & the thought of sucking another man up until then would never have entered my head as I thought this to be absolutely disgusting, that was until something clicked that changed my mind, then I found new pleasure in being Bisexual & now thoroughly enjoy the feel of a hard cock sliding between my lips. Having said that, I still prefer a pair of smooth shaved womans lips to slide my tongue between to lick & suck, as I believe there is no better afrodisiac than the taste of a hot womans juice, it makes me SO hard. Aint it just great to be Bi, all the "so" called straight men & women dont know just what they are missing. Dont you agree

[bemyonlyone]

just felt like bumping this...

[csrakate]

Really...what good does this thread really serve other than causing friction? To each his/her own...enjoy what you have and more power to you! Does it really matter what gender does it best??? Incidentally, I feel the same way about the "who gives better blow job" thread.

[bemyonlyone]

This is part of why I miss the forum I was on before where it was only women. Most of this thread has been men saying men are better, men talking about their wives, etc.

I wish I could get some real answers from women about this, I directed the question at bi women. *sighs*

[csrakate]

Maybe...just maybe women don't talk the same way as men...maybe women don't find it necessary to put men down in order to make themselves feel better about their sexual performance...I don't know the reason. And I really don't see where most of the men who have posted here have said they were better at it so I don't get why you are saying that. But in the grand scheme of things...does it really matter WHO is better? Looks like you're promoting a female vs. male mentality here...and that just ain't gonna fly.

[bemyonlyone]

No, I'm not.

And furthermore, why is the person who started the "who is better at blowjobs" thread not being lectured, but I am? What the hell? Come on.

I never said it mattered who was better, but this is a thread just like the blowjob thread is a thread. Please don't lecture me or try to make me feel bad for starting a thread that was meant to be thought provoking.

[csrakate]

No, I'm not.

And furthermore, why is the person who started the "who is better at blowjobs" thread not being lectured, but I am? What the hell? Come on.

I never said it mattered who was better, but this is a thread just like the blowjob thread is a thread. Please don't lecture me or try to make me feel bad for starting a thread that was meant to be thought provoking.

You're right....I have not made a comment to the individuals who have started the blow job threads although I've been tempted...but I couldn't contain myself on this thread because you keep bumping it back to the top and because you keep complaining because you're not getting the answers you seek. I fail to see how a discussion that debates the issue as to which gender is better at a certain sexual act is "thought provoking". I'm not lecturing you...I'm just giving MY opinion about your thread.

[chub-bi]

The whole idea of threads starting with who's better is very subjective.
Opinions are like assholes...everybody has one.
Bi-Men will say men give better head and Bi-Women will say women give better head.
Just like people in Massachusetts will prefer the Red Sox over the Yankees.

But you definitley have the right to start any thread you want as long as
you follow the rules.

[csrakate]

I never meant to imply that the OP didn't have the right to post this thread...but she keeps bumping it to the top and complaining that women aren't answering and that men are answering, quite unlike the previous ALL female site she frequented. Imagine that....maybe it's because this is a bisexual site.

[bemyonlyone]

I do think that maybe bi men are better at it than most straight guys, some of whom are horrible and some who can't be bothered to do it at all.

So the men here might be slightly better at it than the general male population. But guys in general better at it? Nah.