dealing with sex after prostate cancer

[slider23]

Dealing with the "ups and downs" of surviving prostate cancer after five years. I am grateful to have been diagnosed just in time as the cancer was beginning to spread, and major surgery saved my life. Dealing with the challenge of saving my sex life with the help of viagra and a wild imagination. I'm interested in hereing from other survivors about how they have dealt with this situation. Also considering having a "pump" inserted to avoid taking e.d. pills. Would appreciate your advice and comments. I now always look at the glass half full in life. Thanks.

[rissababynta]

I'm sorry that I can not relate to your experience, but I just wanted to say that I think it is absolutely wonderful that you are able to see life in such a positive way right now. And congratulations on the battle you have won! I hope things get better for you soon and someone, somewhere, can give you the answers you are looking for.

[slider23]

I'm sorry that I can not relate to your experience, but I just wanted to say that I think it is absolutely wonderful that you are able to see life in such a positive way right now. And congratulations on the battle you have won! I hope things get better for you soon and someone, somewhere, can give you the answers you are looking for.

Thanks for your support, I'm am very positive and enjoy every moment,especially the hot passionate ones, lol

[onewhocares]

So happy to hear that you are on the mend from such a battle. You have such a great attitude that I am sure you will do well. While I have little experience personally, I know one fellow who was in your shoes. Some rather creative foreplay much enjoyment was had by he and his lover.

Belle

[roy m cox]

aww sorry "hugs"

[mariersa]

I'm just curious, I have been "overly" friendly with an elderly man for a few years (just fun, mind you). Curiousity has to make me ask, your doctor did he give you alternatives such as the seed, freezing the cancer or so many more,
which may have delayed the e.d., althought these procedures in reality cant help it, I wonder, where they offered?

[Realist]

Slider,

Congratulations for beating cancer!

I'm watching this thread closely and am interested in the responses. Although, at 69, I am lucky to still be able to function (although, virility is reduced from my youth). I know the time is coming when I may not be able to fill my much younger GF's physical needs. So, the alternatives available will increasingly be an interest to me.

[chick_a_dee]

I'm almost 2 years post op prostate removal after discovering a couple non aggressive cancer cells. Viagra and the other pills worked and sometimes didn't plus the cost was getting to be too expensive. I've gone with the penile injections. I know what you're thinking, OMG! a shot in the cock! Actually it's not that bad. Be glad to discuss with anyone. My sex life functions are improving as time goes on. Jim;)

[Realist]

I've used shots...not bad at all ........and man, the erections were like when I was a teenager!

[eddy10]

I was diagnosed with prostate cancer a few years back. Took external beam radiation which did a good job. Have had a slight problem with ED as a result. Then, about a year ago the doc started me on blood pressure medication which worsened the condition. This week he gave me a prescription for levitra. Have not experimented with it yet. Maybe this week end. We will see how well it works.

[bi4asplay]

I am starting proton therapy on the 28 th of May. It is the best treatment going right now. Does less damage that any other. Instead of going all of the way through and destroying cells in it's path like photon radiation, the proton goes to the spot and releases it's energy there. I do have to be 300 miles from home for 8 weeks. My older brother went through it about 10 years ago. He had had ED for a few years before, caused by the cancer. Within a couple of months afterwards the ED was gone. He thought it was going to cause him a divorce. His wife thought she was done with that.

I looked at all of the other treatments and could not get a doctor to give me an idea of how likely was to be cured and not have to wear a bag the rest of my life. The Doctor at UF Proton Therapy Institute in Jacksonville Florida said WE will cure you. I got this. I have it beat.

[jancharles]

hmmm...interesting..hi, i'am 72..with diabetes..starting in 07..right pinky was amputated..i was thrilled i still had my foot..in 09 recieved a notice from primary that my psa was 11/ 1/2...visit to a urologist..the plan was proton beam ..with implanted seeds to be accurate..we did 39 days of radiation..with a 70/30 % ..everything worked for a while..then did the injection tri mix..it only worked about half an erection..just enough to play with..the emotional roller coaster was hell all the while being a caregiver for my mother..who was 22 yrs older than I...cancer finally got her at 92 1/2..now my psa is .0001..ha beat the cancer...the only thing that bothers me is finding someone whom will tolerate..the lack of an erection..i do so enjoy oral..i'am bi and comfortable with it.at this point i'am grateful to still be alive cancer free..however the damage is done..i do the best that i can under the circumstances..any thought would be appreciated..

[CuriousAboutBi]

II am 3, or maybe it's 4 years post-prostatectomy. DaVinci nerve sparing procedure. No pumps or injections. Can get hard although Cialis definitely helps. Can and do have orgasms but, of course, no actual cum. I miss that but hey, less mess, :-)

[Love_nylon_panty]

I'm 78. Just joined bisexual.com and found this thread. Live near Toms River, NJ. Twenty years ago I had my prostate removed. Seeds were only other option then and urologist discouraged. Cancer in the margin, so I knew it was likely to come back, but no chemo or radiation needed then. Ten years later PSA doubling time too short so I did 40 radiation treatments. Now PSA climbing again and I'm facing hormone therapy.
Over the years my ability to get erect had gradually diminished to where I can't get hard, no matter the stimulus. At the same time my fem desires have really escalated. I've had a nylon lingerie fetish since I was preteen. Have worn panties and nighties for years, but now want to underdress completely (bra, slip or camisole, garter belt. stockings). I've got man boobs with gynecomastia in one, and I have a constant urge to fondle them. I really wish they would grow. I'm also increasingly interested in experiencing sex with another man, preferably another CD.
Have any of you prostate cancer survivors experienced similar physical or psychological changes?

[Rest85]

I was diagnosed with prostate cancer more than a decade ago. I had a prostatectomy by robotic surgery and the surgery left me with ED issues that are helped by taking Cialis, but it is hit and miss. Sometimes it works well but other times not so much. I also have incontinence issues and have to wear a pad every day. As such, I don't seek to have the favor returned when I suck someone off.
I was sucking cock before my diagnosis but now when I connect with someone I express my interest in giving head with no recip. I actually love being a no recip submissive cocksucker so that part is no problem for me.
Anyone who has had prostate cancer, I wish you the best and hope that you can be clear of it going forward. My best to all.