knowing Your Partner

[goldenfinger]

As a spin off the the much heated "cheating" tread" I ask, just how well do you know your partner, what can you freely talk about, and what can you not. What are the early signs about what you can and can not talk about. Are some jokes and subject off limits?. Have your partner changed their view on subject since you got together, or still the same. How much do they like/dislike talking about sexuality and sex. When I married my "good " girl, not in my wildest dream could I have dreamt how good she would turn out to be.
So, what are the early signs of how your partner stand on certain subject.:eek:

[roy m cox]

hmmm i know that he's about the best boy friend i ever had and we are both in an open relationship tho i feel bad for him cuzz he only likes guys wear i like both,, but he's cool with it :) i can't under stand how people get so upset and or jealous about seeing other people unless you are marred then thats different you should stay with one mate ,

and we both love joking around about sex its fun we both play with sex toys and other goody's,,


:three::three::three::three::three:

[Long Duck Dong]

I am gonna kick myself for replying here... cos I am quaranteed to get mymyself in the shit

my partner twyla, knows that I am a asshole.... there are times I would not openly talk about things that are on my mind.... but on the other side of the coin, I will converse freely about things that get my attention.......

as twyla has noticed, I know no limits and boundries with my level of thinking and thought provoking sessions.... much to her shock... I once spent about 3 weeks in depth, talking about and rationalising the mental state of mind of people that has sex with animals and the pros and cons of it, as a sexuality, a form of emotional attachment, and a way to express love and commitment on a level that they may not be able to find with humans..... and I looked at it from many points of view......

I have the point of view that in order to comment and lay judgement to something, as close to absolute understanding is required on the subject......
thats something that I reckon, does worry the hell outta a lot of my friends...and my partner.... but it has also given me a wider range of friends that fell more secure about talking to me on a wider range of subjects as I do have a ( for the most part ) open minded and curious nature...

I have the opinion that what is one persons offensive action, is another persons love and pleasure.......

I think the only thing that me and twyla do actually agree 100% on, without any doubt, is that pedophiles need the death penalty........ everything else, we talk about and rationalise.....

now to sum us both up in a single sentence, we do not know each other that well at all.... cos we are both changing every day and relearning about each other.... and I would say the same about every couple

[goldenfinger]

Is your wife frigid or a prude?
What?????????

[TwylaTwobits]

With LDD, I can talk about anything. We have had many conversations on many topics and yes we do 100% agree pedophiles should be dealt with harshly, I can say that we about 75% disagree on a couple things. We know it, we are working on a compromise, and I'm sure we'll reach one. Why?? Because we actually have communication. I talk TO him he talks TO me. We don't talk AT each other.

And he really does have no embarrassment, I will never forget the walking through town and him just remarking on something his flatmate said. Then he tells me his flatmate heard the bed...... I wasn't sure how many shades of red I could turn and blame it on the cold.

I have found someone that at times yes, is an asshole. But I am free to tell him he's being an asshole. We fight but then we get to make up. I wouldn't trade having a partner I can communicate with for the world.

[rissababynta]

There is nothing that I haven't been able to talk to my husband about. We know more about each other than anyone else. We tell each other things that we know the other won't like, but needs to be said anyway. We talk about sex, love, money, politics, religion, food, you name it, we've talked about it. And we are still just as much in love as the day we met.

[Giggles100]

hmmm i know that he's about the best boy friend i ever had and we are both in an open relationship tho i feel bad for him cuzz he only likes guys wear i like both,, but he's cool with it :) i can't under stand how people get so upset and or jealous about seeing other people unless you are marred then thats different you should stay with one mate ,

and we both love joking around about sex its fun we both play with sex toys and other goody's,,


:three::three::three::three::three:

When ya finished with him give him my number:bigrin:.

[roy m cox]

When ya finished with him give him my number:bigrin:.

:bigrin: well i have about 4 yrs to live so yeah i could do that :tongue:

[darkeyes]

There was a time, which now seems so long ago when I kept things back for pretty much selfish reasons. I learned my lesson. Now we are what we should be. True partners.. lovers.. best friends.... confidantes.. we discuss just about everything. Everything that matters anyway. Certainly we talk about things on our minds.. our cares and worries.. our hopes and dreams.. our children.. We unwind at the table after a hard day, where we map out our lives, and laugh and sometimes we cry and often let loose our frustrations..

Of course we argue, and at times we find fault with each other, sometimes justifiably at others out of pique.. we criticise, hopefully constructively, but not always so. But it is surprising that as we stay together longer, we are able almost to read each others minds. We know when we need our own space, and when to leave each other alone.

Still we have much to learn about each other. I doubt we shall ever know it all. I hope not, because I love when I am surprised by something she says or does. I think I know her, and find out not as well as I should. We will never know each that well. She never bores me. In so many ways she is a mystery, and unravelling that mystery is my life's task.... I think.. or at least hope, she feels the same way about me..:)