I'm scared and shocked all at the same time

[rissababynta]

My husband just found out today that his unit is more than likely going on a rapid deployment to Haiti to help out. At first, he told me that I was not to tell anyone becaues even he wasn't supposed to know but someone leaked the information out to the soldiers. However, considering that the president was even on TV talking about how we were sending a bunch of people over there to help and stuff, I fail to see how it even matters anymore.

Anyways, I'm completely freaked out right now. I can handle my husband deploying because, well, I have no choice. However, to get a phone call saying that by the end of the week my husband could be gone...wow...I've barely been able to proccess this. I haven't even given thought into how I'm going to tell the kids. I haven't prepared myself mentally or emotionally for this.

However, the past few hours I've thought of a few positives which is making this much easier to deal with if he ends up going.

1) He's going to provide help to people who desperately need it.
2) He's not going to Afghanistan or Iraq to fight in the war, he's just going to provide relief.
3) We will be getting deployment money, which we could desperately use right now to pay off debts and such.
4) If I want to mop my floors at 2:00 am, I can do that without having to worry about him bitching at me for being crazy.

So anyway, I hope that if this does happen (which the soldiers all think it is since his LT is making them all stay late tonight to do heavy duty maintenance on all vehicles, machines, weapons, and make lists of what weapons need to be packed up and such) I hope that you all don't mind me coming to some of you to be a shoulder to cry on every so often. Because no matter how much I try to look at it as a good thing, it still doesn't take the hurt of having my other half away from my side.

[darkeyes]

*offers shoulder*

Riss. ya kno wot me thinks a the military hun.. but wot they r doin this time round is a worthy thing. The world hasta pull togetha, military an civilian, or 1 a the poorest mos mizzy places on earth will become THE poorest mos mizzy place. Ur hubbie may well b a part a the mos important thing 'e will ev do no matta wot cums 'is way in future or how successful 'e becums.. thats the satisfaction.. helpin those unable 2 help themsels..an helpin prevent an even gr8er humanitarian catastrophe than currently exists..

Thots wivya luffly 1.. ur hubbie an all from all countries who will begin 2 help Haiti begin 2 recover from a gr8 tragedy.:)

Kissie.

[_Joe_]

Looks like someone's going to be in chat more with their second family.

[12voltman59]

Well--Rissa----I feel for ya--deployments can be rough on family members--but then again--standard military operations can take your loved one away from you for long stretches of time too.

Now--among the sorts of things that our military does do--this is a good thing--our military does have the equipment, resources, and especially--the dedicated and knowledgable men and women who will do thier jobs well----our military is probably one of the best assets and resources that our nation has----thankfully--we can use this great machine for uses other than making war.

Your hubby and his fellow service members will be doing good down there--I know-- I have put my time down there---read the post to that effect.

Be glad he is going down there. His work will be appreciated, you can be sure!!

May he and his fellow service members be blessed with the work they are going to do and that they remain safe.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Rissa-Honey, you know those of us from military background will be at your back, and your side. :}
The one consolation is that he's not being deployed to a battle zone, even tho it Looks like it there right now. And, he'll be doing so much for those who have virtually Nothing right now.
Funny how stuff like this makes all of the bad times in Our lives seem so mundane....
Keep you chin up, Babygirl. Your extended family is right here, or as close as the phone, or computer. Bigggg Hugs and open arms anytime..;)
Yer Cat

[Canticle]

Rissa, I know you will still worry about your husband, but at least you will know that he and his colleagues will be out in Haiti to help people. They will be joined by professional people, trained in different avenues, from all over the world. Let's hope that they can all make swift progress with what needs to be done to alleviate the misery and plight of the poor people of Haiti.

Blessings to them all

[rissababynta]

Well, what little calmness I had went right out the window when he came home and told me how his NCO's were explaining what it could be like if they go there. They said that in Haiti, they don't like Americans, and though most will embrace the help, some will be a problem. Also, the prison collapsed and they are unable to account for some of the people, so no one knows how bad of a situation that could be. They were also told that they are going to be bringing food and such over, and not all of the people there will be understanding of the concept that they will be fed like everyone else. Some people, especially in survival mode, might try to rob or attack them. Also, they could still be having tremors and such.

Yeah...I didn't even think about any of this. All I could think of was at least he wasn't going to be around terrorists or anything like that. But it turns out that even though it may not be Afghanistan kind of dangerous, it's still going to be dangerous.

But at least people are going to get help in the end, cause they sure need it...

[Karasel]

I know how you feel. I've had friends deployed into Afghanistan and I worried a lot about that, but they are all still happy and healthy. At least your husband will be helping people in need.

I have friends in the marines right now, and I wonder if they are going to be sent too. But I am proud of them.

I can understand your worry, though.

[rissababynta]

Well, today hubby came home telling me that they don't have any definite orders, but they are on standby so whether it is this weekend, next week, or later they may be getting the call to pick up and go. So, now we are just playing the waiting game.

[roy m cox]

aww hugs and hope every thing will go smooth for your hubby over their and then his safe return home ,,

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[rissababynta]

Well it's official, hubby got a text tonight to pack his bags for deployment. They said there is no set timeline yet so we don't know what day he is going yet, but sometime next week, maybe sooner since things can change.

His company has the joy of moving dead bodies. Eh, someone's gotta do it.

I'm going to be spending as much time with my family as I can over the weekend and up into next week so I probably won't be around much.

[eddy10]

Hey Rissa,

I am a 20 year veteran. I hate to say this to you, but I must ... it is his job and chosen way of life, get used to it. And, as deployments go, he must feel good to be part of such a humanitarian effort.

Hang in there