Where's The Best Place To Move As A Bi Male?

[happylife]

Hi everybody, I been on this site a few times just reading threads. So I joined now because I really need advice from other bi people.

I am 23 years old (turning 24 this month) black male. I am finally accepting myself as bi and want to "come out" however, I also want to start my life "over" if you know what I mean. So I am planning on moving to a city where I don't know anyone and start a new life. I come to a point in my life where I need to be alone (away from my family) and begin to start living life as me and really get to know me. I am big on positive thinking and positive vibes. Whenever I am around my family (everyday) they totally kill that vibe I have. My passions are food, poker, and poetry. (in that order)

Where is the best city to move to for a young black bisexual male that have my passions available?

I am looking for a big city that's not in Florida. Must have tons of places to try different foods, a casino to play poker, and maybe a place to listen to people do spoken word. Pretty much a multicultural city because I prefer a multiracial partner :female: or :male:

Thank you all for your help.

[Realist]

Happy,

I understand completely; getting away from my family, was the most liberating thing I ever did!!

Other than Tampa, or Miami, I don't think anywhere in Florida would be as good as Philadelphia, PA. I lived in PA for 10 years and Philly seemed extremely gay/bi friendly to me. Several cities in California, New York, should provide a good choice of mates. Atlanta, New Orleans, etc, have populations of sexually liberal folks.

I'm sure that job availability is a big requirement, too.

Good luck....you're smart to plan ahead.

[Eddie altamonte]

Miami is wonderful for us bi guys, Actually awesome, Love Haulove Beach

[mikey3000]

And if you want to go a bit further, Toronto is an excellent choice. One of the most multicultural cities in the world. And if you find that right guy, you can marry him here legally. No questions asked. And raise a family too. I love my city!!! Research it.

[jamiehue]

where u can find a JOB!!!

[Bicuriousity]

Always heard NYC was the best place for bisexuals. I met one outstanding lady from this site that lives there. Hi if you are reading this and hope you are doing well.

To be honest though in many ways bisexuals are either lumped into the gay or straight world.

Wish there was truly a bi bar.

[jem_is_bi]

where u can find a JOB!!!

I definitely agree with that!
At the moment, that is unlikely to be in Michigan.

[IllinoisGuy]

I'd even suggest a place like Las Vegas. The problem with moving to places like New York, Toronto or even Chicago is that if you are originally from a warm environment like Florida, moving to a place that gets extremely cold and snowy in the winter can be quite a wake up call! Phoenix is a city that I've heard is pretty good as well.

[peterock]

You could find happiness right where you are right now.



True. I cant speak for him, but i get the impresion that he wants to move for reasons other that him having trouble finding a mate in florida.

This is acctually a really good question, sometimes i feel like getting away as well.

[happylife]

Happy,

I understand completely; getting away from my family, was the most liberating thing I ever did!!

Other than Tampa, or Miami, I don't think anywhere in Florida would be as good as Philadelphia, PA. I lived in PA for 10 years and Philly seemed extremely gay/bi friendly to me. Several cities in California, New York, should provide a good choice of mates. Atlanta, New Orleans, etc, have populations of sexually liberal folks.

I'm sure that job availability is a big requirement, too.

Good luck....you're smart to plan ahead.

Hi Realist, Thank you for understanding. Philadelphia is one of my picks along with California. My only problem with Philly is winter since im from Florida.

Job availability is not a problem for me as I run an online business.

Thanks.... Better safe than sorry, you know?


Miami is wonderful for us bi guys, Actually awesome, Love Haulove Beach

lol, I live right outside of Miami. That's why I said a big city not in Florida. Haulove Beach is pretty fun.


And if you want to go a bit further, Toronto is an excellent choice. One of the most multicultural cities in the world. And if you find that right guy, you can marry him here legally. No questions asked. And raise a family too. I love my city!!! Research it.

I have a friend in Canada. I am going on vacation to Canada in the summer. Way too cold in the winter for me to live there.


where u can find a JOB!!!

I run a business so a job isn't a issue.


Always heard NYC was the best place for bisexuals. I met one outstanding lady from this site that lives there. Hi if you are reading this and hope you are doing well.

To be honest though in many ways bisexuals are either lumped into the gay or straight world.

Wish there was truly a bi bar.

Way to cold in the winter for me to live there.

You are so right, we always in either straight or gay because its hard to find a bi hang out.


I definitely agree with that!
At the moment, that is unlikely to be in Michigan.

Michigan is not my choice for 2 reasons. Too cold and I have family there.


I'd even suggest a place like Las Vegas. The problem with moving to places like New York, Toronto or even Chicago is that if you are originally from a warm environment like Florida, moving to a place that gets extremely cold and snowy in the winter can be quite a wake up call! Phoenix is a city that I've heard is pretty good as well.

lol awesome man, Vegas is my number one choice for the moment. You right about that. I am trying to stay away from cold places. I will make sure to do a little research on Phoenix.


There is no one magical place where it is best to be a bisexual or even a gay male.

You could find happiness right where you are right now.

Even if you are in small town you can still find happiness and meet compatible people and partners.

I have met some of the best hook ups and male fuckbuds and sex partners of both genders while living in small towns.

I know there's no one magical place. I just want to find a city that best fits me. Truthfully, I can't be happy where I am at right now. Being here play a part in killing my 3 year relationship. I lived in small cities my whole life and its time for a change. Finding a partner is never a problem for me. :bigrin:


True. I cant speak for him, but i get the impresion that he wants to move for reasons other that him having trouble finding a mate in florida.

This is acctually a really good question, sometimes i feel like getting away as well.

You are completely right about that. Me planning to move is about life not about finding a partner or a hookups. I think we all need to get away at some time.



Thank you all for your advice. I have some new city/state ideas I can research.

[Realist]

You definitely have your stuff together! I wish I had the sense to plan ahead and focus on what I really needed, at your age. I think you'll do well where ever you go.

Have you thought about Hawaii, Virgin Islands, Jamaica?

Oh, to be young again!

[fredtyg]

Have you thought about Hawaii, Virgin Islands, Jamaica?

I believe I've heard from a couple of sources that Jamaica is a VERY anti- homo place to be.

[mikey3000]

Um, yeah. Jamaica is very anti gay with gay bashing and murders often making front page news, and the perps rarely being prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. Stay away.

[12voltman59]

Um, yeah. Jamaica is very anti gay with gay bashing and murders often making front page news, and the perps rarely being prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. Stay away.

A year or so ago--I saw a documentary film from the CBC about gay Jamaicans who had to flee in fear of their lives to Toronto-----

They apparently have roving gangs of thugs armed with AKs and machetes who do their dirty work with impugnity from the law--in fact--in some cases it was documented-----the cops are around making sure that no one interferes with these gangs while they kill people they even suspect are gay.

Jamaica might be gay friendly in the confines of some of the fancy tourist resorts---but if you are GLBT and venture too far beyond such enclaves----you take your life in your hands!

There are many third or developing world sorts of places like that.

[jeancarleo]

san diego, california. best weather. beach, casinos, hillcrest ( gay zone ), many restaurants, home of comic con. very gay friendly, multi-cultural. not cold, not hot. i love it here! do some research and you'll see this city has it all

[djones]

New York is the BEST city for everything !

You can try Los Angeles, it is a little more like the Florida lifestyle, but it is a place i really don't like ! Close to LA is Long Beach - very diverse and a fun place as well (currently living in Long Beach for a time).

:2cents:

[Kentbi]

Portland, Oregon...most liberal city I've ever been in....

[gfofbiguy]

Hi Happy,

Bisexualnewbie and I live in Las Vegas, and while it's a cool town to party in and even to live in (especially since you do have a job - which are difficult to come by in this town currently), it is not the best place to be a bisexual male, from our standpoint at least. It's a cool place to party and all, obviously has the gambling/poker that you like as well as tons of places for a foodie (not too sure about the poetry), but it is an extremely conservative place oddly enough. Lots of conservative Mormons as well as other religious groups, and even the LGBT center is really geared more towards Lesbian and Gay, and do not have anything for Bisexuals there (we have checked with them periodically).

Good luck to you!!

~~Gfofbiguy


lol awesome man, Vegas is my number one choice for the moment. You right about that. I am trying to stay away from cold places. I will make sure to do a little research on Phoenix.



I know there's no one magical place. I just want to find a city that best fits me. Truthfully, I can't be happy where I am at right now. Being here play a part in killing my 3 year relationship. I lived in small cities my whole life and its time for a change. Finding a partner is never a problem for me. :bigrin:

[curiousnlooking83]

Best place to move as a Bi Male? In-and-out of a pussy, up-and-down on a cock!

Seriously though, NYC.

[Realist]

Whoa! I didn't know about Jamaica!

I knew a wonderful bisexual Jamaican girl, one time. She often spoke of her lovers in the island, but nothing about the gay-bashing, there.

Yeah, scratch that one off your list!

[SAMotorcycleCpl]

Austin TX is a great place if you are bi. Also, Houston just voted in their first openly gay mayor. :grouphug:

[MissLadybug]

I suggest anywhere in the North east, since that area is accepting same sex marriages more and more. NYC is definitely a place that would be accepting.

I live in Pittsburgh and never have experienced problems with my sexuality. I've brought my ex bfs(that were bi) and ex gfs up there before to visit and never had harassment or nasty stares ever.

When I did live in Florida and North Carolina, I definitely notice that the south isn't AS accepting to people that are non-sexual. Not saying all southerners are like that but definitely some that still believe in the " Non-straights are going to hell" attitude.

[happylife]

You definitely have your stuff together! I wish I had the sense to plan ahead and focus on what I really needed, at your age. I think you'll do well where ever you go.

Have you thought about Hawaii, Virgin Islands, Jamaica?

Oh, to be young again!

Hawaii - I want to visit but not to live there.

Virgin Islands - Sounds great to visit, don't really want to live on a island.

Jamaica - Got friends from there. Not the place a gay/bi person want to be.


san diego, california. best weather. beach, casinos, hillcrest ( gay zone ), many restaurants, home of comic con. very gay friendly, multi-cultural. not cold, not hot. i love it here! do some research and you'll see this city has it all

I will surely do some research on San Diego. Thanks.


New York is the BEST city for everything !

You can try Los Angeles, it is a little more like the Florida lifestyle, but it is a place i really don't like ! Close to LA is Long Beach - very diverse and a fun place as well (currently living in Long Beach for a time).

:2cents:

New York is far too cold for me.

If LA is like Florida. I surely don't want to live there. I am looking for something different.


Portland, Oregon...most liberal city I've ever been in....

OMG, I hear the food there is sooo good. I will do more research on Portland.


Hi Happy,

Bisexualnewbie and I live in Las Vegas, and while it's a cool town to party in and even to live in (especially since you do have a job - which are difficult to come by in this town currently), it is not the best place to be a bisexual male, from our standpoint at least. It's a cool place to party and all, obviously has the gambling/poker that you like as well as tons of places for a foodie (not too sure about the poetry), but it is an extremely conservative place oddly enough. Lots of conservative Mormons as well as other religious groups, and even the LGBT center is really geared more towards Lesbian and Gay, and do not have anything for Bisexuals there (we have checked with them periodically).

Good luck to you!!

~~Gfofbiguy

Thanks for taking the time to give me the full details. :) I am not a religious person so that wouldn't get to me and as for the LGBT center. I have never been to one and most likely never will.


I have friends that live in Atlanta and they love it.

What sort of work do you do online? There are lots of tech jobs in ATL.

Too many people from Florida is moving to Atl. It would be like staying here.

I run a network of websites and blogs. I will not need a job where ever I go since I run my own business. :bigrin:


Best place to move as a Bi Male? In-and-out of a pussy, up-and-down on a cock!

Seriously though, NYC.

lol that's funny. NYC is too cold for me.


Austin TX is a great place if you are bi. Also, Houston just voted in their first openly gay mayor. :grouphug:

Cool, on social networks like myspace, bgclive, and etc. I keep getting beautiful people contacting me from those cities. Might be a smart move to pick one of them. ;)


I suggest anywhere in the North east, since that area is accepting same sex marriages more and more. NYC is definitely a place that would be accepting.

I live in Pittsburgh and never have experienced problems with my sexuality. I've brought my ex bfs(that were bi) and ex gfs up there before to visit and never had harassment or nasty stares ever.

When I did live in Florida and North Carolina, I definitely notice that the south isn't AS accepting to people that are non-sexual. Not saying all southerners are like that but definitely some that still believe in the " Non-straights are going to hell" attitude.

I am pretty young so marriage is far from my mind at the moment. NYC is far too cold for me being from south Florida. Ill do some research on Pittsburgh. Thanks for the suggest.

I don't know anything about North Carolina but it really depends on what part of Florida you are in. Most females in south Florida are bi these days. (seems that way) Since I was 16 years old until now I still can count on one hand the amount of females I had a relationship or hookup with that was completely straight.

[happylife]

Ok, I know I been away for a long time. I been a bit busy with business. I set my date to move but I am still having troubles on picking a city. However, Denver, CO is at the top of my list for business reasons.

Have anyone lived in Denver?

[nothings5d]

Always heard NYC was the best place for bisexuals. I met one outstanding lady from this site that lives there. Hi if you are reading this and hope you are doing well.

To be honest though in many ways bisexuals are either lumped into the gay or straight world.

Wish there was truly a bi bar.

Well "fairly" near to where I live, about an hour drive, is Huntington, West Virginia. There's a bar there I've never been to but several friends have told me it's advertised as being a bi bar. I wish I could remember what it's called. Anyway if West Virginia has a bi bar, there's probably one somewhere in Illinois.

[SJ37AndSteph]

HappyLife, i and a few others are in or around the Denver area and i haven't ever heard of anyone say bad things about living here. i know for myself i love living close to denver.. but yes there are some of us that like i said either live in denver or around close to denver..

SweetJuices37

[richarddennis]

Have you considered a foreign country?

Thailand, most of Europe, UK all have bi friendly areas.

[happylife]

HappyLife, i and a few others are in or around the Denver area and i haven't ever heard of anyone say bad things about living here. i know for myself i love living close to denver.. but yes there are some of us that like i said either live in denver or around close to denver..

SweetJuices37
Good to hear. Let the girls and guys come my way. :three: lol Can't wait to learn how to snowboard. :bigrin:


Have you considered a foreign country?

Thailand, most of Europe, UK all have bi friendly areas.

Ummm... I would have to visit them first. However, this is my first time moving into new a city and apartment all by myself without family or girlfriend. So I would prefer to stay in the states for this.

[welickit]

We will probably get bashed for our reply, here we go anyway. You want to start over where you can be yourself. Far away in a big city. You aren't starting over, you are running away. Distance will not shield you even though you assume it will. You only live once so live your life as who you are. Blacks can't hide being black, Mexicans can't hide being Mexican and bisexuals can't hide either. Accept who you are and live your life for you. Obviously there will be bumps in the road, do they really matter? If someone can't accept you are they really worth the effort? Running away doesn't work. No offense intended but you need to accept who you are, where you are.:bipride: :2cents:

[OmegaGray]

Sadly, living in Michigan and Ohio my whole life, I have little to contribute (I wouldn't particularly recommend either), but I have heard nice things about Denver and Portland. I have a friend in Denver who loves it and my best friend has family in Eugene, Oregon and always espouses the tolerance and openness of Oregon. If you choose Portland though, I hope you like vegetarian :bigrin: Conversely, how is Florida for the LGBT community? I have a brother in Miami and am looking for a change of scenery myself (read: escape from these Narnian-esque winters). Sorry to piggy-back your thread, but it seemed too pertinent to start my own :) <3 Best of luck with your selection and the move! <3

[happylife]

We will probably get bashed for our reply, here we go anyway. You want to start over where you can be yourself. Far away in a big city. You aren't starting over, you are running away. Distance will not shield you even though you assume it will. You only live once so live your life as who you are. Blacks can't hide being black, Mexicans can't hide being Mexican and bisexuals can't hide either. Accept who you are and live your life for you. Obviously there will be bumps in the road, do they really matter? If someone can't accept you are they really worth the effort? Running away doesn't work. No offense intended but you need to accept who you are, where you are.:bipride: :2cents:

Thanks for your reply. If you read my OP I said I am accepting who I am and need to be alone. I am not running away. I am getting away from the "negative" mindset of my family. I spent all my life in Florida and its time for a change.


Sadly, living in Michigan and Ohio my whole life, I have little to contribute (I wouldn't particularly recommend either), but I have heard nice things about Denver and Portland. I have a friend in Denver who loves it and my best friend has family in Eugene, Oregon and always espouses the tolerance and openness of Oregon. If you choose Portland though, I hope you like vegetarian :bigrin: Conversely, how is Florida for the LGBT community? I have a brother in Miami and am looking for a change of scenery myself (read: escape from these Narnian-esque winters). Sorry to piggy-back your thread, but it seemed too pertinent to start my own :) <3 Best of luck with your selection and the move! <3

No problem, everybody should benefit from this thread. I think you would enjoy it in Miami. So many places to enjoy yourself but I live here all my life so a change is best for me.

[69luvr]

I have lived in NYC and San Jose , Ca. IMO the absolute best place for bi guys is TAMPA FLORIDA.