BooBooKittie
Jan 2, 2010, 7:56 PM
I've had a very close friend for the past 7+ years. She is my best friend, my sister [not blood related], and my backbone. I love her with all my heart. I have never been as close with anyone as I am with her... but I think it might be all over.
A while ago she invited me & my guy over just to have a few drinks, play video games and such. It was just the four of us [me & my fiance & her & her husband]. We grew up together, so naturally we have a million inside jokes, including the "i had her first" joke to our significant others and "omg i feel ssooo lesbian right now" Being that she's straight it's hilarious cause it's not like anything would ever happen... right ?
Years ago she went through her curious phase and dated a mutual friend of ours. Knowing her like I do I knew it wouldn't last long, which it didn't. We all stayed friends and they went on to their heterosexual ways. However, this night, somehow it came up and she admitted to me that they never tried anything, though she wanted to. We had been drinking by that point and all the emotions started pouring out and the conversation jumped from one thing to another and by the end of it I had admitted that I had a crush on her in high school and was jealous of her "relationship" with our friend and she had admitted how beautiful she thought I was and if she were to ever do anything she'd want it to be with me. I can hold my wine a bit better than her, but I was still flattered. When we met back up with the boys they knew something was up and then the unthinkable happened...
She kissed me... in front of them... she kissed me...
And I don't mean a shy peck on the cheek. She ran her fringers into my hair and slammed a passionate kiss on my lips. I hadn't been with a woman in quite a while [2 long term relationships w/ men back-to-back] and I just couldn't help myself. If I had a penis I would've came in my pants - I was SO stoked. I couldn't help but give it right back to her. Naturally it progressed and got pretty hot n heavy. We all tried to have fun with it, but when it became apparent that we were more into each other than our men I stopped it and took my guy aside and finished it that way.
When I woke up the next morning all I could do was laugh like "wow, did that really happen?" I didn't have time to even talk to her or her husband before we left that morning [yay work] which didn't seem important at the time. As the day went on and all these questions were arising... "What's she going to say?" "Does she even remember?" "Will my baby leave me?" "What have I done?!" Being that I'm pretty comfortable with my sexuality it wasn't a big deal to me at first, just an extremely stupid, intoxicated night. I don't know what I would do if I lost her friendship. I haven't seen her in 2 weeks, she doesn't text me unless I text her. She just wants to forget it ever happened. She told me she cried when her husband told her everything and she only has bits and peices. I admit I was a little hurt by her reaction, but I honestly don't know how she feels about me anymore. Who knows what she thinks I think of her. I'm not interested in being romantically invovled with her at all. And to top it all off I'm pretty sure I've made my guy insecure about "dating a 'bi' chick". The experience woke something up in me that I hadn't felt in so long and now I feel so utterly guilty and I have no idea how to handle this. I honestly don't know which would hurt more. Loosing her or him. I'm trying to be patient and let her come to me if she still wants to be friends, but I'm still so anxious I have a panic attach every other day. I'm not really sure if I'm asking for advice or just wanted to tell someone. I feel so alone in this.
A while ago she invited me & my guy over just to have a few drinks, play video games and such. It was just the four of us [me & my fiance & her & her husband]. We grew up together, so naturally we have a million inside jokes, including the "i had her first" joke to our significant others and "omg i feel ssooo lesbian right now" Being that she's straight it's hilarious cause it's not like anything would ever happen... right ?
Years ago she went through her curious phase and dated a mutual friend of ours. Knowing her like I do I knew it wouldn't last long, which it didn't. We all stayed friends and they went on to their heterosexual ways. However, this night, somehow it came up and she admitted to me that they never tried anything, though she wanted to. We had been drinking by that point and all the emotions started pouring out and the conversation jumped from one thing to another and by the end of it I had admitted that I had a crush on her in high school and was jealous of her "relationship" with our friend and she had admitted how beautiful she thought I was and if she were to ever do anything she'd want it to be with me. I can hold my wine a bit better than her, but I was still flattered. When we met back up with the boys they knew something was up and then the unthinkable happened...
She kissed me... in front of them... she kissed me...
And I don't mean a shy peck on the cheek. She ran her fringers into my hair and slammed a passionate kiss on my lips. I hadn't been with a woman in quite a while [2 long term relationships w/ men back-to-back] and I just couldn't help myself. If I had a penis I would've came in my pants - I was SO stoked. I couldn't help but give it right back to her. Naturally it progressed and got pretty hot n heavy. We all tried to have fun with it, but when it became apparent that we were more into each other than our men I stopped it and took my guy aside and finished it that way.
When I woke up the next morning all I could do was laugh like "wow, did that really happen?" I didn't have time to even talk to her or her husband before we left that morning [yay work] which didn't seem important at the time. As the day went on and all these questions were arising... "What's she going to say?" "Does she even remember?" "Will my baby leave me?" "What have I done?!" Being that I'm pretty comfortable with my sexuality it wasn't a big deal to me at first, just an extremely stupid, intoxicated night. I don't know what I would do if I lost her friendship. I haven't seen her in 2 weeks, she doesn't text me unless I text her. She just wants to forget it ever happened. She told me she cried when her husband told her everything and she only has bits and peices. I admit I was a little hurt by her reaction, but I honestly don't know how she feels about me anymore. Who knows what she thinks I think of her. I'm not interested in being romantically invovled with her at all. And to top it all off I'm pretty sure I've made my guy insecure about "dating a 'bi' chick". The experience woke something up in me that I hadn't felt in so long and now I feel so utterly guilty and I have no idea how to handle this. I honestly don't know which would hurt more. Loosing her or him. I'm trying to be patient and let her come to me if she still wants to be friends, but I'm still so anxious I have a panic attach every other day. I'm not really sure if I'm asking for advice or just wanted to tell someone. I feel so alone in this.