Santa

[Confused4life]

My oldest daughter is almost 11. Recently she asked my husband if Santa is real. He told her the truth about Santa (and the tooth fairy and Easter Bunny). She took it really well and promised to keep the "secret" from her younger sister. The problem is that I wasn't ready for her to find out. I was heartbroken about this. I know that she is about the same age that I was when I discovered the truth. It just seems to me that her finding this out has forced her to grow up a little faster. Am I over-reacting? I know I can't keep my kids little and innocent forever, but I can't help wishing it would have lasted a little longer. My husband says its no big deal, that its not like she is going to be driving, swearing and having sex tomorrow just because she knows the truth about Santa. He said he told her that if she ever had any questions about anything at all that he would be completely honest with her. I love that about their relationship.

Just had to get that off my chest....feeling a little better.

C4L

[Karasel]

I never believed in Santa Claus, he creeped me out and my parents never encouraged that I believed in Santa Claus anyway. Though I had a strong belief in magic and fairies, and still maintains a bit of that belief, I could never get behind Santa, the tooth fairy, or the Easter Bunny. I understand that you see that as a sign that she is getting older and further away from childhood, but you still have plenty of years left to share in her innocent years with her. I know I am an aunt of 3, one just turned 13 last June.

You could just tell your daughter that Santa Claus was modeled after Saint Nicholas who was born around c. 270 A.D and was a Patron Saint of children. On Christmas day he would tell the kids to hang stockings on the fireplace and at night he would put presents in it.. Just little dolls and things that he made. He would also put bits of money in shoes if you left them sitting out.

It is the truth and it really happened, maybe that will help with your problem. She would think it interesting.. maybe.

[Georgie_Girl]

Just because she knows the truth about the Santa thing now doesn't mean she's any less a kid. I was told from the time I was very young there was no Santa, and I turned out ok. :) Now you can include her in the fun of playing Santa.

[Realist]

The important thing is SHE asked and then was told the TRUTH.

When a child knows she will not be told a lie, now, she should be more confidant that you will tell her the truth about more controversial and important things, later on.

She's growing up, even though you wish she wouldn't!

Puppies, kittens and kids...they all grow up. The best you can do it be up front and honest with them and hope they make the right decisions in life, for them!

[tenni]

Eleven is actually fairly old to really still believe in Santa. Most kids around six or seven begin to doubt the Santa story. Kids talk...lol She has known about the rumour but wanted confirmation. She waited longer than most kids. She may have thought that the gifts would keep coming if she didn't ask or she may have sensed her mother's feelings on the matter.

[graniteman1953]

You mean.....you mean, sniffle, sniffle, the Easter Bunny's not REAL? Bwwwaaaahhh!

[Annika L]

You mean.....you mean, sniffle, sniffle, the Easter Bunny's not REAL? Bwwwaaaahhh!

There there. She didn't say the Easter Bunny isn't real! She said her husband told her daughter the *truth* about the Easter Bunny. Shhh, shhh.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Now thats just not true! The tooth Fairie works in the dental office next to my Dentist. And his name is Maurice. He goes shopping with us girls, and is our sober drover on Girls Night Out.....Snicker. :rainbow::color::upside:
Bad Cat

[llllllllll]

Wait just a dog gone minute! there is no santa? WTF! and no easter bunny? please someone talk me down from the ledge..This absolutely floors me..OMG! I can't believe this.Someone say it isn't so,please! sniff sniff

So who's lap was was I sitting on all these years?(I'm gonna miss that).


Merry Christmas hehehe

[the sacred night]

I never believed in Santa, either. It is kinda scary to me that so many people lie to their children about it. Not only are you setting them up for a crushing realization at some point, you are also showing them you have no problem lying to them. Plenty of people have told me they are sad that I never believed in Santa and that makes me a deprived child, but I'm GLAD I was never fed that load of bull. I still had fun with the Santas in the mall and reading The Night Before Christmas, I just knew it was a fairytale just like Cinderella, The Little Mermaid, Snow White, and all the other stories I enjoyed without believing they were real.

[roy m cox]

My oldest daughter is almost 11. Recently she asked my husband if Santa is real. He told her the truth about Santa (and the tooth fairy and Easter Bunny). She took it really well and promised to keep the "secret" from her younger sister. The problem is that I wasn't ready for her to find out. I was heartbroken about this. I know that she is about the same age that I was when I discovered the truth. It just seems to me that her finding this out has forced her to grow up a little faster. Am I over-reacting? I know I can't keep my kids little and innocent forever, but I can't help wishing it would have lasted a little longer. My husband says its no big deal, that its not like she is going to be driving, swearing and having sex tomorrow just because she knows the truth about Santa. He said he told her that if she ever had any questions about anything at all that he would be completely honest with her. I love that about their relationship.

Just had to get that off my chest....feeling a little better.

C4L

LOL what do you mean we are not real yes we are
LOL

[TwylaTwobits]

Awww I know the feeling....but kids grow up way too fast nowadays. I love the fact that your daughter can ask your husband anything and get an honest answer. And the way she promised to keep it a secret from younger sibling shows more maturity than some kids have at 18.

I remember when my oldest found out Santa wasn't real, it wasn't because he was told by his parents, it was because some snot nosed brat at school thought it made him look cool to ruin it for the other 3rd graders. He came to me and I couldn't lie but I could tell him that sometimes things appear at Xmas that mom and dad don't buy....well that's the truth, but he didn't need to know that Papaw was Santa.