Question for the married bi's out there...

[mikey3000]

Even though you may be in an open relationship, and you love your spouse dearly, do you develop feelings for the others you are sleeping with? How far do you let it go? or how do you prevent these feelings from taling over?

[spsbihm65]

:rolleyes: nope sex w/ men is just that sex...

[JP1986UM]

I don't develop long hard feelings with them that much because I relate to a female emotionally more than men.

I do become attached, but not too romantically.

[Matelot21]

I like my friend very much, and appreciate his friendship as well as what he does to my body ( which he does oh so well!!)


Peter

[Laken]

I guess I see myself as emotionally monogamous. I married my husband because I feel like he fullfills me emotionally. I know that if sex were out of the picture, there would be no one else that would make me as happy as he does. I don't really connect sex and emotion. Not love, anyway. I don't have to be in love with someone to have sex with them and enjoy myself. I like watching him having a good time and seeing others be pleased by what I get to enjoy all the time! I like being able to fulfill my desire for women, at least sexually...and as a side bonus get to be with other guys too! haha. Sex with others is just for fun, and really, it enhances the sex I have with my husband. At the end of the day, it's a lot of fun having sex with other people...but nobody knows how to please me like the hubster! haha.

[Realist]

I will only have a sexual relationship with those I know well, have grown to feel comfortable with, and trust. Mutual attraction, and interests are very important, too.

[onewhocares]

Some relationships that are not long term may hold little emotional connection. But when I find a man with whom I have much common interests, find him intellectually interesting, humorous, and a gentleman, Yes I have become emotionally connected to him. Has this always worked out well...for the most part yes, but a couple have broken my heart. One my husband fell in love with, and to this day, even though he is out of our lives, he would go back to him in an instant if he called. For me, knowing that my husband loves another man, a man who is married, never really made me jealous. I guess I love my husband so much as my friend, that if he found someone that filled a void in his life I could not be but happy for him.

Belle

[HelloToYou]

Well, I'm monogamous... for now. And I'm not too interested in sex without the emotional connection as well, so if I ever decide to become non-monogamous, I will develop some kind of feelings for the other person involved. I will always keep the relationship between my husband and me as the primary relationship and if anyone ever gets in the way of that, the new person will be the one to go.

[mikey3000]

Some relationships that are not long term may hold little emotional connection. But when I find a man with whom I have much common interests, find him intellectually interesting, humorous, and a gentleman, Yes I have become emotionally connected to him. Has this always worked out well...for the most part yes, but a couple have broken my heart. One my husband fell in love with, and to this day, even though he is out of our lives, he would go back to him in an instant if he called. For me, knowing that my husband loves another man, a man who is married, never really made me jealous. I guess I love my husband so much as my friend, that if he found someone that filled a void in his life I could not be but happy for him.

Belle

Wow. You are special, and just like my wife. She knows that I'm developing feelings for this guy, and she encourages me to explore them. She knows that I'll never leave her, and told me that she knows I can love two people. And if he fills a certain void, I should just go with the feelings. That's why I married her. She's a star!!! I'll just see where this all goes. I know there is a special woman that my wife has had her eye on for quite a while now, who will be unattached soon, and of course I will extend the same encouragement to her too.

[robin39]

I am not married, but I think it is possible to be in love with more than one person. I enjoy exploring the feelings I have with men. It is the most important part of a relationship to me.

[rissababynta]

I've never been with a woman before like that, but from the few that I have began a small relationship with, yes of course I get emotionally attached. In the long run, my husband knows that he is the only man in my life and that is all that matters to the both of us.

[mikey3000]

I prefer to have some feelings for the guys I'm with. If not, for me, it looses all meaning. I just gotta make sure they don't get too deep. I've been down that road and it wasn't pretty.