Where is the pleasure in anal sex? [Archive]

miamiuu

Nov 8, 2009, 10:59 AM

chriss223

Nov 8, 2009, 11:11 AM

Some men can orgasm by having their prostrate stroked by a penis or vibrator inserted in their ass and some can't. It's a matter of physics. I would compare it to the fact that some women can orgasm during intercourse and some can't. Intercourse is glorious for those men that can orgasm multiple times while getting screwed.

cutebutt37

Nov 8, 2009, 11:15 AM

Try a different position. It is good to hear that you are actually having anal sex. Some people are just too rough, men and some women with strap ons can be too fast too soon. Plenty of lube guys and gals.
The prostate should be stimulated, like the clitoris, very sensitive.
Maybe get your male friend to finger your G-spot first.
If you lie back on top of him, when he is up your ass, he could mastrbate you at the same time...heaven.
Women love that position too with a vibro up their pussy at the same time... Have fun...

nudeorphic

Nov 8, 2009, 12:07 PM

Depending if you have a high riding or low riding prostate. If you have a high riding prostate a longer penis would be required to stimulate that organ. Those who enjoy anal sex tremendously are those whose prostate is getting stimulated at a maximum level.

miamiuu

Nov 8, 2009, 12:17 PM

I do not even think my prostate is even being stimulated during anal. It is just like I do not feel anything once the penis is inserted. And I see a lot of videos showing guys getting anal and having a good time, but for me I might as well be sleeping.

foreverbi

Nov 8, 2009, 12:27 PM

You might try (if you haven't already) laying on your back & throwing your legs on your partners shoulders. This way - I feel he can go much deeper & he will have a better chance of massaging you "magic button". It works for me. Good luck:2cents:;)

12voltman59

Nov 8, 2009, 6:39 PM

Miami--I think your enjoyment of anal sex or lack thereof is really more a mental thing than a physical one-----I know many writers, philosophers and the like who have pondered the nature of sex throughout history, with them holding that enjoyment of sex is at least 90 percent mental and only ten percent physical.

I would suggest you strongly consider your feelings, thoughts, etc regarding sex in general and receiving anal sex in particular.

It might be for you that you could never enjoy the physical aspect of it since you don't really enjoy or appreciate the more cerebral aspects of it.

It does seem to me that you are more focused upon the purely physical aspects of receiving anal sex and are not opening yourself to the other aspects of it. that are enjoyable--at least to my way of seeing things are pleasurable.

I say--broaden your perspective regarding it and not be so focused on the physical aspects of anal sex--doing so is getting in the way of your really enjoying it.

From the purely physical aspect of it--it can only be so enjoyable since we don't have by design, all that many receptors down there that provide pleasure for getting it--in fact--what sensory imputs we do receive from "down there" tell us if we really listen to and don't override them---"that thing you allowed in there should not be in there--this hurts--stop this--- NOW!!"

dickhand

Nov 9, 2009, 9:13 AM

I must have a low riding prostate then , because I enjoy anal a great deal and will cum from it nearly everytime . This may explain why my cousin didn't enjoy it , our cocks being approximately the same size . We started playing young and were doing tit for tat in the beginning . You do me and then i'll do you type of thing . As we got older I ended up being his bottom because he just didn't enjoy receiving anal like I did . Since I would usually cum while he was fucking me , it wasn't an issue .

mikey3000

Nov 9, 2009, 12:45 PM

Never had anal before, but am anxious to try it, and the time is comming up very soon!!!:bigrin: We'll see how it goes.

shaver6

Nov 9, 2009, 12:52 PM

I have experimented with anal sex (receiving) over the years, but I can't say I really got a lot of physical pleasure out of it. I seem to be very tight back there, and perhaps if I found someone with a very slender penis that might make it easier. I have used various anal "toys', that were of a fairly small diameter, and these felt pretty good, especially when they touched the prostate. I also found when using these toys during masturbation...it brought on a climax much sooner. Some guys have a mental hang up about being fucked..however I find the idea to be a turn-on, its just that I can't handle the physical part of it.

I have noticed that in porn videos...most of the guys getting fucked are usually not erect, and in most cases...totally flacid. However the guys who really seem to like the feeling of getting fucked...usually have a full erection during the session.

cannibal4

Nov 9, 2009, 1:00 PM

I've only done it three times. I enjoy it! Twice now feeling that penis hitting my prostate is wow. It's wild when I cum without even touching myself. That penis hitting my prostate and I start cumming like a water faucet. The biggest loads I've ever blown! Feels great to me, I enjoy it!!

elian

Nov 9, 2009, 5:42 PM

miamiuu - have you tried using your own toys and fingers? Does that feel any better to you? With toys you can experiment - tensing or relaxing certain muscles - different positions - and yeah, it doesn't feel like much at first - it took a toy, some lube and about 50-100 strokes, but after that it was worth it. It also seems to help to be aroused and interested first.

For some reason I find the tension I have to hold in my muscles to lift my legs off a flat surface seems to improve things..I guess it could be that with my legs in the air I might be hitting a better angle for the massage...

<blushes> - geesh.

In any event - just like other things in life some people like it and some don't.

-E

Matelot21

Nov 9, 2009, 10:26 PM

I am sorry to hear that you don't like it so much. My first guy seduced me when I was a boy, he took his time over many weeks, reaching the stage of fingering my bum for a week or more before the night he took my cherry. I was not scared, I guess I was really waiting for it, it didn't hurt at all and I can clearly the remember the first time , and the unexpected "double bump" I felt as his hard knob eased through the two rings of my sphincter.
I opened myself to his cock as it invaded my body, I felt I wanted it all so deep inside me. I was slim back then and I was able to feel his wiry pubic hair against my distended ring ( he took me doggy style).
He was kind and considerate, and boarded at our house (sharing my bedroom)
for about 18 months. During that time he fucked me almost every night, he particularly liked to suck my cock and then use my semen as lube for his cock.
I learned to suck his cock and sometimes he would cum in my mouth but usually he liked to spurt it as deep inside me as he could get it. Sometimes I would wake in the morning to find that he was slowly and gently easing his hard knob into me for a quick mornig fuck. He would fuck me in every way he could think of, and yes, it is so nice to have one's prostate massaged by a nice hard knob.

Matelot21

Nov 9, 2009, 10:28 PM

I am sorry to hear that you don't like it so much. My first guy seduced me when I was a boy, he took his time over many weeks, reaching the stage of fingering my bum for a week or more before the night he took my cherry. I was not scared, I guess I was really waiting for it, it didn't hurt at all and I can clearly the remember the first time , and the unexpected "double bump" I felt as his hard knob eased through the two rings of my sphincter.
I opened myself to his cock as it invaded my body, I felt I wanted it all so deep inside me. I was slim back then and I was able to feel his wiry pubic hair against my distended ring ( he took me doggy style).
He was kind and considerate, and boarded at our house (sharing my bedroom)
for about 18 months. During that time he fucked me almost every night, he particularly liked to suck my cock and then use my semen as lube for his cock.
I learned to suck his cock and sometimes he would cum in my mouth but usually he liked to spurt it as deep inside me as he could get it. Sometimes I would wake in the morning to find that he was slowly and gently easing his hard knob into me for a quick morning fuck. He would fuck me in every way he could think of, and yes, it is so nice to have one's prostate massaged by a nice hard knob.

jamiehue

Nov 13, 2009, 3:44 PM

in time youll say dont stop jus like madonna!

mikey3000

Nov 13, 2009, 9:48 PM

I was totally surprised to learn of the many gay men who aren't into anal, and the many straight couples who are. Learn something new every day.

richarddennis

Nov 13, 2009, 10:31 PM

You might google "prostate massage" for starters.

http://learnprostatepleasure.com/

The prostate IS the male "G" spot...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1oJ_lvkBa5s&feature=related

Proper prostat stimulation is simply incredible, but a learned activity that takes practice and patience...

Many men finger their prostate til they have multiple orgasms, some haven't learned how.

Take the time to learn.

Many that receive anal intercourse, just lay there and take it, but others have mastered how to use the ultra strong gluteal muscles enabling them to do things during passive anal sex that tend to make the whole experience more active than passive.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gluteal_muscles

Acquiring the skills to become a good or even decent lover are often over-looked, because of lack of interpersonal communicative skills[learn to ASK for exactly what you desire].

Expecting others to read your mind is naive...if you get the most pleasure from the entry/exit movements during passive anal sex,then by all means, please ASK for more,etc...

bi4asplay

Dec 15, 2013, 2:39 PM

I am a male and I have started having anal sex with guys. The thing is there is sometimes pleasure when the penis is first inserted, or reinserted into my rear. Once the penis is in and the person is f*cking me I do not feel much of anything going on in there. Any suggestions? I am thinking of not even bothering with anal sex.

There are so many things that I crave about taking it in the ass, be it a man or being pegged. I have several anal Os almost every time. In fact since reading this I am going to go ride my hot seat.

curmwm57

Dec 15, 2013, 2:42 PM

I am a male and I have started having anal sex with guys. The thing is there is sometimes pleasure when the penis is first inserted, or reinserted into my rear. Once the penis is in and the person is f*cking me I do not feel much of anything going on in there. Any suggestions? I am thinking of not even bothering with anal sex.

Try different angle of insertion...Point him towards your pubic bone...

Dunmor

Dec 16, 2013, 9:12 AM

For me its all about pleasing my partner, making him cum...its that simple

biforareason

Dec 18, 2013, 5:20 AM

Anal for me is a very intense experience for me. My regular knows how to take his time and making us both feel good. Most of the time when he is pumping his cock into my hole it makes me cum so hard its hard to explain. It really turns my wife on when she see's me squirming and moaning when I cum.

mikeyd270

Dec 18, 2013, 1:05 PM

All I know is since I started having anal I have become a real bottom. I like having a dick up my ass.

ErosUrge

Dec 19, 2013, 1:14 AM

All I know is since I started having anal I have become a real bottom. I like having a dick up my ass.

Yep...you and I both Mikeyd....and to think there was once a time I loathed it. My girlfriend obliges me constantly by using toys up my ass as she sucks and fucks me with a toy at the same time....of course, it isn't the same as having an actual cock but it still feels great

Top fucker

Dec 19, 2013, 1:27 AM

Yep...you and I both Mikeyd....and to think there was once a time I loathed it. My girlfriend obliges me constantly by using toys up my ass as she sucks and fucks me with a toy at the same time....of course, it isn't the same as having an actual cock but it still feels great If u want an actual hard penis up your ass why not date, have a relationship, or partner with a man instead of a woman???

ErosUrge

Dec 19, 2013, 3:27 AM

If u want an actual hard penis up your ass why not date, have a relationship, or partner with a man instead of a woman???

you know, it's comments like this that attempt to peg who or what a bisexual person is supposed to be according to their view and idea...I have the freedom to be with a man when I want to....I don't want an involved relationship with a man and that is what have with my girlfriend....the men I am sexual with are my friends but we're not involved in a serious relationship; that's our choice and no one can dictate that for us....well you can if you like, but we do what we do...

Fzmr9t

Dec 19, 2013, 12:11 PM

I've only had it once and he wasn't overly large, and I think what did it for me, and will probably continue to do it for me, is (a) the intimacy between us, we can't get any closer than having another human being or, part of them, inside you. Feeling him rub against me, having his hands on me, rubbing me, touching me. Listening to his pleasure sounds.

And (b) the taboo nature of doing something that isn't, well, "acceptable behavior" is also a major turn on to me.