Long Duck Dong
Oct 28, 2009, 12:41 AM
a conversation with a few friends about issues with bisexuals, started with the normal things like discrimination and health care...etc..... but were quickly shot down as non bisexual exclusive issues and bisexuals are not the only people to deal with those issues....
the conversation was about starting a exclusive bisexual support group.... or in simple terms, they had issues with gay and lesbian people involved in and running the local alternative sexuality group
I was asked to step in as a counsellor / therapist ( despite the way I post in bisexual.com, I did counselling work for a number of years and was strictly neutral and unbiased, something that managed to piss off a number of LGBT people that did not like my * we are one people * attitude instead of siding with their * us v's them * attitude *
I have declined to be involved with the group, stating clearly that I will not be involved in a elitist / seperatist group that wants to have a strict criteria for evaluating * true * bisexuals for membership in the group
according to their criteria....
a bisexual is a person over the age of 20 and of fully functioning sexual capabilities.
a bisexual is of equal attraction to both sexes and not in a monogamous relationship but a open relationship.
a bisexual is not married / in a relationshop with a straight partner as this causes conflict with sexual contact.
a bisexual is sexually active with both genders, not bi curious
my reaction was swift and blunt....
its not a support group, its a fuckin swingers group, a meatmarket and excluding a lot of the people that need support, advice or help
but honestly it did get me thinking.... about the way we define bisexuality
now in the site we define it as attraction to both genders..... but thats as vague as bill clintons * I did not have sexual relations with that woman.... but I have a dress fetish and made out with her dress *
but what actually is the bisexual criteria
a bi curious ?
a gay / lesbian person with bi curious tendancies...
a hetero with a same gender fetish / interest....
a people that has same gender attractions
a transgender that has a direct / indirect parth to self change but mixed attractions
I have on a number of occasions, referred to myself as a pansexual as my attraction is more than a dual gender....
but to be honest and fair, a attraction to genders is not really a fair indication and is actualy a very blurry line
I will use a term that people may choke on, to make my point clearly
beastiality is sex contact with animals.... zoophilia is the attraction to animals which can be sexual or non sexual.....
BUT the key aspect of zoophilia is not sexual contact but the treatment of a animal as more than just a animal...
you give your pet a hug and that has crossed the line between a animal / owner and by defination, become a part of zoophilia.....
now recently in bisexual.com, I saw a post that stated ( paraphrased ), a gay person will not nor will have had a interest or attraction to the opposite gender *
it got me thinking about a remark by one of my friends.... who IDed as hetero
" I want anal sex, I want to be fucked hard in the ass, fully and deeply...but I have no interest or desire to have another man touch me at all.... I am not homophobic, I am just not interest in male / male sex, but nor do I enjoy dildoes or toys in my ass *
now he got his desire, a intersex lady as a partner, with a working penis.
and he ID's as hetero... correctly
now the question is raised, if a person is in a relationship with a partner of the opposite gender, but is able to have both types of gender sex ( male / male & male female or female / male & female female )
are they bisexual or hetero....
using the idea of bisexual attraction as the rule of thumb, a lot of bisexuals have indicated they have no desire to form a relationship with a person of the same gender, they want a cock to suck, a ass to fuck etc etc.....
and I therefore ask the question is the term bisexual correct.... in some cases
it would appear that some bisexuals ID as bisexual not cos they are attracted to the same gender but that the same gender have the * bits and pieces * that are enjoyed
now lets put down the pitchforks and the burning torchs, this is not a witch hunt, nor a attempt to *force * people to correctly id themselves but to look at how blurred the defination of bisexual is...and how all too often, we challenge peoples labels without actually having a clear knowledge of what bisexuality actually is
so I pose the following questions......
1 ) if you have a opposite gender partner with both sexual organs, could you be monogamous with them alone...
2 ) if you have a opposite gender partner with both sexual organs, could that satisfy your desires and needs
3 ) if you have a opposite gender partner with both sexual organs, would you id as hetero / bisexual or undefined sexuality
4 ) if you have a opposite gender partner with both sexual organs, would you define your bisexual attraction to the same gender aspect as a fetish / genetalia interest and not a attraction to the same gender
5 ) do you define your sexuality as a attraction to both genders, a attraction to sexual contact with both genders, or a desire to be a partner with both genders.
I answered
1 ) yes I can be, provided I am compatable in a long term relationship with the person
2 ) no, I would still have the desire to have contact with the same gender and the opposite gender
3 ) I would ID as bisexual
4 ) I would class it as a attraction to the same gender
5 ) a desire to be a partner with both genders....
the conversation was about starting a exclusive bisexual support group.... or in simple terms, they had issues with gay and lesbian people involved in and running the local alternative sexuality group
I was asked to step in as a counsellor / therapist ( despite the way I post in bisexual.com, I did counselling work for a number of years and was strictly neutral and unbiased, something that managed to piss off a number of LGBT people that did not like my * we are one people * attitude instead of siding with their * us v's them * attitude *
I have declined to be involved with the group, stating clearly that I will not be involved in a elitist / seperatist group that wants to have a strict criteria for evaluating * true * bisexuals for membership in the group
according to their criteria....
a bisexual is a person over the age of 20 and of fully functioning sexual capabilities.
a bisexual is of equal attraction to both sexes and not in a monogamous relationship but a open relationship.
a bisexual is not married / in a relationshop with a straight partner as this causes conflict with sexual contact.
a bisexual is sexually active with both genders, not bi curious
my reaction was swift and blunt....
its not a support group, its a fuckin swingers group, a meatmarket and excluding a lot of the people that need support, advice or help
but honestly it did get me thinking.... about the way we define bisexuality
now in the site we define it as attraction to both genders..... but thats as vague as bill clintons * I did not have sexual relations with that woman.... but I have a dress fetish and made out with her dress *
but what actually is the bisexual criteria
a bi curious ?
a gay / lesbian person with bi curious tendancies...
a hetero with a same gender fetish / interest....
a people that has same gender attractions
a transgender that has a direct / indirect parth to self change but mixed attractions
I have on a number of occasions, referred to myself as a pansexual as my attraction is more than a dual gender....
but to be honest and fair, a attraction to genders is not really a fair indication and is actualy a very blurry line
I will use a term that people may choke on, to make my point clearly
beastiality is sex contact with animals.... zoophilia is the attraction to animals which can be sexual or non sexual.....
BUT the key aspect of zoophilia is not sexual contact but the treatment of a animal as more than just a animal...
you give your pet a hug and that has crossed the line between a animal / owner and by defination, become a part of zoophilia.....
now recently in bisexual.com, I saw a post that stated ( paraphrased ), a gay person will not nor will have had a interest or attraction to the opposite gender *
it got me thinking about a remark by one of my friends.... who IDed as hetero
" I want anal sex, I want to be fucked hard in the ass, fully and deeply...but I have no interest or desire to have another man touch me at all.... I am not homophobic, I am just not interest in male / male sex, but nor do I enjoy dildoes or toys in my ass *
now he got his desire, a intersex lady as a partner, with a working penis.
and he ID's as hetero... correctly
now the question is raised, if a person is in a relationship with a partner of the opposite gender, but is able to have both types of gender sex ( male / male & male female or female / male & female female )
are they bisexual or hetero....
using the idea of bisexual attraction as the rule of thumb, a lot of bisexuals have indicated they have no desire to form a relationship with a person of the same gender, they want a cock to suck, a ass to fuck etc etc.....
and I therefore ask the question is the term bisexual correct.... in some cases
it would appear that some bisexuals ID as bisexual not cos they are attracted to the same gender but that the same gender have the * bits and pieces * that are enjoyed
now lets put down the pitchforks and the burning torchs, this is not a witch hunt, nor a attempt to *force * people to correctly id themselves but to look at how blurred the defination of bisexual is...and how all too often, we challenge peoples labels without actually having a clear knowledge of what bisexuality actually is
so I pose the following questions......
1 ) if you have a opposite gender partner with both sexual organs, could you be monogamous with them alone...
2 ) if you have a opposite gender partner with both sexual organs, could that satisfy your desires and needs
3 ) if you have a opposite gender partner with both sexual organs, would you id as hetero / bisexual or undefined sexuality
4 ) if you have a opposite gender partner with both sexual organs, would you define your bisexual attraction to the same gender aspect as a fetish / genetalia interest and not a attraction to the same gender
5 ) do you define your sexuality as a attraction to both genders, a attraction to sexual contact with both genders, or a desire to be a partner with both genders.
I answered
1 ) yes I can be, provided I am compatable in a long term relationship with the person
2 ) no, I would still have the desire to have contact with the same gender and the opposite gender
3 ) I would ID as bisexual
4 ) I would class it as a attraction to the same gender
5 ) a desire to be a partner with both genders....