Is it love or is it jst sex?

[mikey3000]

In chatting with a new friend on here, we discovered a new point of question.

Can a person actually have the capacity to truly love, and be loved, by another person of the same sex (even though they are still very happily married) or is it just the taboo/excitment of having gay sex that makes one bisexual?

[Long Duck Dong]

lol.... do you desire ice cream or is it just the fact that its supposedly to be a guilty pleasure that draws you to eat it...

the answer is different for each person.....but in most cases, people would say, they ate it as kids cos it tasted nice.... then they learnt later in life that there were * rules and guidelines * to icecream

now with your question.... ask a gay person if they can love another person, ask a hetero person if they can love another person...and ask a bisexual person if they can love another person....and the answer again, will vary depending on the person.....

but there are two general statements by bisexuals that you will find more often than not.....

1 ) we love the sex, we do not have a emotional attachment....

2 ) we have long term lovers of the same gender as well as a partner of the opposite sex....

and the third which is the one you do not hear as much

3 ) we have two lovers, our same sex partner and our opposite sex partner and we are a trinity that love each other equally.....

but honestly for the most part, you see and hear people say, its about the sex, sucking cocks and eating pussy.... tho discernment and discretion play a part in that for a lot of people..... they perfer to get with people that they know, trust and feel comfortable with....

[eddy10]

I believe you can love someone without sex. I also believe you can have sex without love. You are truly blessed if you have both with the same person.

[mikey3000]

but there are two general statements by bisexuals that you will find more often than not.....

1 ) we love the sex, we do not have a emotional attachment....

2 ) we have long term lovers of the same gender as well as a partner of the opposite sex....

and the third which is the one you do not hear as much

3 ) we have two lovers, our same sex partner and our opposite sex partner and we are a trinity that love each other equally.....

but honestly for the most part, you see and hear people say, its about the sex, sucking cocks and eating pussy.... tho discernment and discretion play a part in that for a lot of people..... they perfer to get with people that they know, trust and feel comfortable with....

Thanks. That actually makes sense. For me I know it's not about just the sex. For me it #2 and idealy #3.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Well said Eddy, thats my sentiments exactly. Sex is sex, and it often times doesnt have anything to Do with emotional love. I love sex for itself. I may love the event, I may love the person involved, but it doesnt necessarly mean I'm In love.
Biiiig difference. :}
Its up to the individual to decide if they are in love, or lust.
I personally choose Lust..its alot easier to deal with and a Hell of alot less complicated! lol
Cat

[Donkey_burger]

I'll be very interested to hear from people who more experienced than I. :bibounce:

I think you can have a very intimate, deep, perhaps even romantic relationship and not have sex. The reverse is also true in that you can just pick up a near-stranger at a bar, have sex in them, and never see them again.

DB :flag2:

[buck-rogers]

or is it just the taboo/excitment of having gay sex that makes one bisexual?

hmmm... I don't know. But I do know that the taboo and excitement of doing something "wrong" makes homosex more fun, but if you took that away i'd still seek it out. And I'm young so I kinda get that feeling from all sex. I haven't experienced love so I can't say what thats like, but I can say that I love sex and it is very much seperate from loving someone. But I wish I knew what love was like.

What's it like Ron?
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[mikey3000]

...But I wish I knew what love was like.




Really? Dude, when you find the right person (or persons) it really is the most wonderful feeling on the planet. To know that you mean the world to someone, and that someone is your world, priceless :three:

[tenni]

Yes I just recalled today about a psychological study that hypothesized about seven or nine different forms of bisexuality. It is possible to desire sex with same gender but only have emotional attachment to the opposite sex. It is also possible that another form of bisexuality has emotional attachment as well as physical for both genders.

If I had to take a guess, I'd expect that more males than females are inclined to have physical relations with other guys but not have emotional attachments. I may be wrong though. Culturally in the western world, I think that we are socialized to adopt attitudes that might encourage such approaches.