profiling profiles

[catraveller]

I am willing to bet if there is one thing all of us members commonly enjoy it is taking a peek at each others’ profile. Be it while in a chat room or checking out who is from your local area or scanning down the “on line” member list on the home page, curiosity gets the better of us. – We just have to take a look. For me there are two observations of profiles I find particularly amusing enough to comment on and are the impetus for this thread:
The first grouping I call the Mushroom Forest effect. Geezzz, there are enough c*** shots in here to create a national park of old growth stands. But, too often, there is little else said.
The other grouping is the blank profile. – So sad. Come on guys and gals; this is your chance with complete anonymity to express yourself. Set free those feelings and thoughts that are shut inside your head.
So, I will now get to my point. If you are reading this thread and fall into one of the above groups, I want to encourage you add something about yourself to your profile, especially the latter group. Let us know about it by responding to this thread. I want to encourage the rest of us to be kind and comment what they wrote. Let’s see where this can lead.

Regards
Catraveller

[eddy10]

Ditto, what he said. At least it gives us a little to go by. Of course, mine is brief. But, it is a start.

[Annika L]

I've been trying to hold back from saying this for some time, because it's bound to be controversial and probably won't change anyone's mind or behavior. But with the number of threads on this kind of topic, I think it needs to be said.

If there is one thing most people agree on, it is the statement that "the world would be a better place if only there were more people like me." Everyone should be bisexual (in fact, many convince themselves that everyone really is, but isn't enlightened enough to realize it). Everyone should think more like women do (or if you're a man, more like men do). And by all means, everyone should have a profile just like mine.

Some insist that everyone should at least have one picture. Others insist that there should be at least one close-up of the face. Others insist that there should be at least one nude shot. Then there are those who think there are too many nude shots, or that they are too crude, or too basic. The list of conflicting demands goes on and on.

But what many people appear to forget is that each person creates their own profile (or chooses not to) to serve their own purposes...not necessarily the purposes of others. Some are looking to hook up. Some are looking for friends, close by or long-distance. Some don't give a damn about meeting anyone and just want to be here, or to read forums, or to chat occasionally. Therefore, the natures of profiles differ drastically...but each is an expression of who we are and how we think our interests will be served (complemented by how much time and thought we have to spare for putting together a profile).

If we could better appreciate the diversity of people in this world and their various experiences and interests, we might be better able to accept people as they are, and stop telling them how to be or what to do...certainly we could stop telling them what or how much to put in their profiles.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

lol You tell em, Annika Honey. My profile is open, honest and shows Me. I dont hide the fact that I am who I am, nor do I hide the fact that I'm not a Barbie or Beauty Queen. If people want to get to know me, they can see what they are getting...just plain Me. :} And I maintain the quote "What ya see is what ya get....if you're good" LOL

Some folks are content to be anonimous(sp) and thats ok too..each of us have our own individual lives, and sometimes descretion is the better part of valor...for many varied reasons: Family, jobs, ect. It just depends on the individule. For me a cock shot is boring, same as with a pussy shot (Pardon the common language today Ya'll)
It doesnt show me a thing, and I normally just think "Oh good, just another dick..mentally and figuratively"

I'm sure its fun and exciting you do those kind of shots, its just not for everybody. I much prefer to read about a person a little: at least age and local if they are from my state and area, this way I know just about the age range I'm dealing with and if I might have somethng in common with that person or persons.
My vote is, put at least a Little something on your profile that gives people a little perspective of what you are like, and what your looking for here. :}
Just my humble:2cents:
Cat

[coyotedude]

On the whole cock or pussy shot thing, I think it really depends on what someone is hunting for. If you're a guy hunting for online or in person sex with another guy, then a cock shot is perfect bait. But if you're looking for, say, a romantic relationship or just friends, then you probably are better off posting a photo that highlights a different aspect of yourself.

On the other hand, it's a free world, and each of us is allowed to display ourselves in whatever way we want. That's the beauty of this community. I don't think there should be any shame in posting a pic of a cock or pussy; sexuality is a part of who we are as human beings. I think that we'd all be better off if we celebrated our sexuality instead of hiding it away.

For myself, I see no need to post a photo of my cock here. But I'm not going to judge you if you choose otherwise.

Posting a photo of a coyote (as I have done) may seem like a cop-out, but for me the coyote is highly symbolic of who I am. Plus, it's fun - and we all need to have a little fun in our lives from time to time...

Peace

[catraveller]

Thanks for the thoughtful and well expressed replies. - please keep it them coming. I knew when I wrote the thread it had the potential to go in several directions aside from the original intent and the response may not even share my perspective. - That is exactly what is so great about expressing thought in written form. It allows for critical assesment and response, but most of all, initates group interaction on ideas.

Regards
Catraveller

[parker123]

I guess I'm in the minority: I don't get turned on by a cock or pussy shot as much as I get "informed" by a good head/shoulders or full clothed body shot. The words of the profile are far more important the snappy photos that may be staged or faked. Reason is that I try to get to the other person's personality, interests, experience, sense of honesty, etc. that could turn me on to the cock or pussy after we're comfortable and compatible. Sorry if that makes me a square stick but I'm not looking for a quick suck/fuck gubye no return arrangement. Most real sex is 90% mind anyhow, nor big tits and 10" cocks.

[Long Duck Dong]

as I have said before in other threads.... you can say anything you want in a profile..... its what people post on the forums or in chat, that really reveals the true person and their true nature......

even my profile is misleading.... people will read it and assume what I am.... and thats when it gets lost in translation....but only by talking with me or reading my posts, do people really start to get a idea about the real me... not a attempt to reveal a lil about me in a profile that can not truely reveal the true me

[Donkey_burger]

But what many people appear to forget is that each person creates their own profile (or chooses not to) to serve their own purposes...not necessarily the purposes of others. Some are looking to hook up. Some are looking for friends, close by or long-distance. Some don't give a damn about meeting anyone and just want to be here, or to read forums, or to chat occasionally. Therefore, the natures of profiles differ drastically...but each is an expression of who we are and how we think our interests will be served (complemented by how much time and thought we have to spare for putting together a profile).

If we could better appreciate the diversity of people in this world and their various experiences and interests, we might be better able to accept people as they are, and stop telling them how to be or what to do...certainly we could stop telling them what or how much to put in their profiles.

I just wanted to say I like this response. Thanks, Annika.

DB :bipride:

[12voltman59]

On this site--for some reason I really cannot explain why--I have never really felt compelled to post either a face or "cock shot" of myself on here----

I feel that from all of my rambling rants on the forum and chatting on here--and by posting many of my pics on here--I have pretty much exposed a fair degree about myself on here----at least in the things I like, think about and all of that--but I have not centered on anything physical at all on here.

I have met some people on here in the real world and have "hooked up with" some over the nearly four years I have been coming to this site.

There are at least a few more people on here---- that if time and money allowed--I would like to meet as well, so at least so we could be 'friends!" if nothing else.

As much as anything---I come here out of a sense that even if we are at least a tad dysfuncutional--we are a community of sorts---but then again--the whole goddammed world is pretty well dysfunctional as well--so-in that regard-----this place isn't much different than the 'real world!" :bigrin::bigrin:

[rissababynta]

I've been trying to hold back from saying this for some time, because it's bound to be controversial and probably won't change anyone's mind or behavior. But with the number of threads on this kind of topic, I think it needs to be said.

If there is one thing most people agree on, it is the statement that "the world would be a better place if only there were more people like me." Everyone should be bisexual (in fact, many convince themselves that everyone really is, but isn't enlightened enough to realize it). Everyone should think more like women do (or if you're a man, more like men do). And by all means, everyone should have a profile just like mine.

Some insist that everyone should at least have one picture. Others insist that there should be at least one close-up of the face. Others insist that there should be at least one nude shot. Then there are those who think there are too many nude shots, or that they are too crude, or too basic. The list of conflicting demands goes on and on.

But what many people appear to forget is that each person creates their own profile (or chooses not to) to serve their own purposes...not necessarily the purposes of others. Some are looking to hook up. Some are looking for friends, close by or long-distance. Some don't give a damn about meeting anyone and just want to be here, or to read forums, or to chat occasionally. Therefore, the natures of profiles differ drastically...but each is an expression of who we are and how we think our interests will be served (complemented by how much time and thought we have to spare for putting together a profile).

If we could better appreciate the diversity of people in this world and their various experiences and interests, we might be better able to accept people as they are, and stop telling them how to be or what to do...certainly we could stop telling them what or how much to put in their profiles.

Two thumbs up. Personally, I've found that having a profile barely matters anymore since people (mainly guys) never read it anyway. But still, if you are a cool person and I get along with you, I don't give a flying shit what a few paragraphs have to say.

I'm just personally getting tired of all the bitching about profiles.

[littlerayofsunshine]

I had a profile up! That was up until I had my profile used as as a personal attack upon me in the forums and until I realized that we had a stalker here that follows people to different forums by their handle names and yahoo & AIM and Skype handles by using search engines. So I took down my pics, took down my profile and sort of like it that way.. I don't mind getting down to a more personal level through email and messenger.... those who know me here, know I am female, know what I look like... I have cammed and phoned (clean and dirty), and it wasn't cause I said 'this or that' in my ad or had 'this sort of picture' in my profile. It was because we got to know each other through chat, forums and PM.


I don't care what people do..... Just be real with it......

[roy m cox]

heh it's funny but i like looking at others profiles and i don't mind seeing others goody's cuzz i want to know what they look like if i ever hooked up with any one and i don't like nasty surprises like the one i had 3yrs ago on a site ill never go to again if i would have been able to see what this girl had id never have gone with her she had the nastiest looking gen,wort's and i mean the type you can get from others,,

so yeah i hope people will post all their stuff in their profile, id even would like to see a butt shot or two :male::female:

:bipride::bipride::bipride::bipride:

[rissababynta]

I had a profile up! That was up until I had my profile used as as a personal attack upon me in the forums and until I realized that we had a stalker here that follows people to different forums by their handle names and yahoo & AIM and Skype handles by using search engines. So I took down my pics, took down my profile and sort of like it that way.. I don't mind getting down to a more personal level through email and messenger.... those who know me here, know I am female, know what I look like... I have cammed and phoned (clean and dirty), and it wasn't cause I said 'this or that' in my ad or had 'this sort of picture' in my profile. It was because we got to know each other through chat, forums and PM.


I don't care what people do..... Just be real with it......

ooo i remember that. that was fucked up.

[FalconAngel]

This is one of the things that we have complained about as well.

And there have been a gamut of excuses why people don't complete profiles; mostly pure BS, the way I see it, since they are on this site. If you won't come out on this site, then don't bother to come out at all, if you are here to meet people.

If you are not here to meet people, live or online, then why are you here at all? That is what I often wonder.

On the ones that only seem to show pics of their cocks, well, they don't understand that this site is NOT JUST another meet and fuck site. It's kind of stupid when one reads through some of the threads and still doesn't get it.

Either way, both the blank profilers and the dick pic profilers are not worth talking to, as far as I see it.

[catraveller]

I............ had a stalker here that follows people ....

I had not considered the malfeasance of others, but your point is clear. It is sad that a few individuals and their actions can disrupt an entire community such as this, but thinking about it, they often do the same on the outside world. As we do on the outside world, the best remedy is to root them out. - They hate light of exposure for who they are.

[rissababynta]

This is one of the things that we have complained about as well.

And there have been a gamut of excuses why people don't complete profiles; mostly pure BS, the way I see it, since they are on this site. If you won't come out on this site, then don't bother to come out at all, if you are here to meet people.

If you are not here to meet people, live or online, then why are you here at all? That is what I often wonder.

On the ones that only seem to show pics of their cocks, well, they don't understand that this site is NOT JUST another meet and fuck site. It's kind of stupid when one reads through some of the threads and still doesn't get it.

Either way, both the blank profilers and the dick pic profilers are not worth talking to, as far as I see it.

That's all well and good but sometimes people leave profiles blank because they are here for support and guidance through their confusion and don't feel comfortable creating one yet. Not all belong to people that just want to meet others and sometimes are very worth getting to know. There is more to a person than a profile.

[Donkey_burger]

I'm just personally getting tired of all the bitching about profiles.

Me too!


I had a profile up! That was up until I had my profile used as as a personal attack upon me in the forums and until I realized that we had a stalker here that follows people to different forums by their handle names and yahoo & AIM and Skype handles by using search engines. So I took down my pics, took down my profile and sort of like it that way.. I don't mind getting down to a more personal level through email and messenger.... those who know me here, know I am female, know what I look like... I have cammed and phoned (clean and dirty), and it wasn't cause I said 'this or that' in my ad or had 'this sort of picture' in my profile. It was because we got to know each other through chat, forums and PM.


That's one good reason not to have a profile.

DB :bipride:

[djones]

"i'll tell you all my secrets, but i lie about my past" - Tom Waits. Just thought I'd throw that in here for levity.

The more open and honest the profile, the more engaging it is. that said, my profile is fairly brief as this is all new to me. i suspect I am not alone in that. I also suspect that I am not alone in thinking - with time and an increased comfort level - I will expand my profile.

just my two cents

[quiet1fornow]

Annika, my dear you have so aptly captured what I may be so bold as to say is what many of us share as thoughts on respective profiles and what they are "supposed" ( didn't get the memo on this) to contain... having an opportunity to let a bit of ourselves be exposed as we desire is all it is about...or to me anyway...

I do look at profiles and even pics...there are some obvious reasons some of the pics are displayed WoW nicely endowed or preserved or attended too....mine, was recently posted as a teaser to simply head off the heat for no pic after all of this time....the body is real.....if one has not passed out or thrown up after viewing it, I assume the written portion has not yet taken a first victim!

every time I chat, every time I post, every time I am here is just another glimpse into me ....I love so many people here and the down side is I could walk past them and never know...especially if there was just a cock or pussy shot to ID them from!!!

I believe we are allowed to provide that which we desire...if it awakens a curiosity....great ask for what you need to feel more completed in your understanding or vision of the person, engage them....isn't that the real purpose here to engage on what levels we wish...ones that we are comfortable revealing?? Or sharing???

I am not the one that would be great in an wild, nsa orgy...I could cater one and all would be satisfied.....now having said that I would stand a better chance were I to have had the opportunity to see you as you wanted me too first, maybe!

I am rambling a bit here....that, wordiness is my style as well ...TMI if anything enjoy and appreciate the profiles and wonderful people we have here ....I conclude if there are to be rules I have to follow to be outside the rules then I am confused and concerned...make any sense??

OK...thanks!:cool:

[**Peg**]

...If you are not here to meet people, live or online, then why are you here at all? That is what I often wonder....

ordinarily I'd let the question pass, because I've been asked many times why I'm here. So... unaccustomed as I am to explaining my reasons for anything to anyone... I will say I'm not here to meet up with anyone in real life, nor do I feel the need to publically discuss my sexual orientation.

I am here for two reasons:

1. I was invited by a friend, and the chat room is about the only opportunity I ever get to see my friend.

2. I have no family and live in a small community and so I come here for fun, lively and intelligent conversation in the chat room, and company from time to time.

[FalconAngel]

ordinarily I'd let the question pass, because I've been asked many times why I'm here. So... unaccustomed as I am to explaining my reasons for anything to anyone... I will say I'm not here to meet up with anyone in real life, nor do I feel the need to publically discuss my sexual orientation.

I am here for two reasons:

1. I was invited by a friend, and the chat room is about the only opportunity I ever get to see my friend.

2. I have no family and live in a small community and so I come here for fun, lively and intelligent conversation in the chat room, and company from time to time.


You do realize that it was a rhetorical question, right? And even though you quote-mined it a bit (taken out of context), it is still a legitimate question.

But even with that, we each need to explore our individual reasons for being on a particular site; not just this site.

Most of the people here started here for one of a small handful of reasons;

1. Find a hookup, thinking that this was another hookup site and afterward discovered that it was far more than just that.

2. Find others who have been or are going through discovery and questions about bisexuality, either for for themselves, a partner or friend/relative.

3. To socialize with other Bisexuals and Bi-friendly people that share common interests.

4. Variations and combinations of any or all of the above.

Then there is the minority of folks that join; the trolls and con artists, thinking that we will be easy pickings for their brand of stupidity. They soon discover that we are a community that will not sit for that kind of thing.

Most fill out profiles and participate in chat, forums or both, but some do not.
The minority of those that choose not to fill one out, do so for a reason that is far less insidious, whether it is a reasonable and realistic reason is up to the individual and, with the exception of people in secure fields or those visiting sites that they shouldn't at work, it is generated by the fear of being outed.

Some folks have a real reason for that fear, but some do not.

We should encourage those that are timid to fill out profiles as completely as they can. Let them know that they have very little to worry about here.

[**Peg**]

...If you are not here to meet people, live or online, then why are you here at all? ...

doesn't seem to be out of context to me... seems like a direct question.... so tell me how could it be out of context when, after all, I quoted you?


...You do realize that it was a rhetorical question, right? And even though you quote-mined it a bit (taken out of context), it is still a legitimate question....

well... as far as realization is concerned, I'm confused... exactly which is it? a rhetorical question, or a legitimate question?

anywayyyyy... my reply was not necessarily to you personally but was an explanation to the people who (occasionally) ask me why I'm here.

I am long past the stage where I "need to explore my reason for being on a particular site; not just this site."

Yeah... I'm a live and let-live type of woman who's done a lot of living and even more chatting and encouraging. I never was fond of telling other people how to live their lives, and I expect the same courtesy back from them.

so far, so good ! :bigrin:

[FalconAngel]

doesn't seem to be out of context to me... seems like a direct question.... so tell me how could it be out of context when, after all, I quoted you?



well... as far as realization is concerned, I'm confused... exactly which is it? a rhetorical question, or a legitimate question?

anywayyyyy... my reply was not necessarily to you personally but was an explanation to the people who (occasionally) ask me why I'm here.

I am long past the stage where I "need to explore my reason for being on a particular site; not just this site."

Yeah... I'm a live and let-live type of woman who's done a lot of living and even more chatting and encouraging. I never was fond of telling other people how to live their lives, and I expect the same courtesy back from them.

so far, so good ! :bigrin:

You appear to want something to grouse about, so let's have at it.

Quoting only one sentence in a statement is taking it out of the context of the entire statement. Or more commonly, out of context. That is a method of deception often called "Quote-mining".

The practice of quoting out of context, sometimes referred to as "contextomy" or "quote mining", is a logical fallacy and type of false attribution in which a passage is removed from its surrounding matter in such a way as to distort its intended meaning.[1]

Arguments based on this fallacy typically take two forms. As a straw man argument, which is frequently found in politics, it involves quoting an opponent out of context in order to misrepresent their position (typically to make it seem more simplistic or extreme) in order to make it easier to refute. As an appeal to authority, it involves quoting an authority on the subject out of context, in order to misrepresent that authority as supporting some position.[2]

The question is only legitimate, as I said, for us to ask ourselves and not as a question for the whole to answer in the forums in this instance. And again, you removed part of the context of what I said, therefore removing it from the context of the entire statement and making it seem as though I am saying something other than I am.
That is common action by people trying to support an argument that cannot be won without the deception of quote-mining.

Please don't do that. When one gets called on it, it destroys their argument's legitimacy.

And I have not been saying that people should "live their lives" in any particular way, only to self-examine their personal motivations for certain things that they do here, as it pertains to why they do not fill out their profiles, and to be aware of why and possibly how that absolute anonymity can adversely affect how they are looked at by many of us here.

[mbigtim]

I have several reasons for not wanting to provide a profile. I have no security concerns as everybody who is anybody in my life knows my true sexual orientation so I can't be hurt by what they hear from someone out to hurt me.

Profiles are very liquid in nature as they can be changed at will. In the two days that I have been here, I have seen several posts made by members who say that they are either checking other members profiles in order to find inconsistancies in how the members represent themselves, thus hurting their credibility, or members wanting others to check particular profiles in order to discredit the ones who are trying to discredit them. This to me is a useless feat since all the person who's profile is used against them has to do is change it to discredit those who seek to discredit them. That makes the whole discredit effort just a petty action and wastes time that could be spent on bettering this site.

It has been mentioned that if a member is not here to meet people, then why would they be here. I am not here to meet or hook up with anybody. I am here to try and enrich myself with knowledge that I can't get anywhere else, also I hope to help enrich other members and this board with my presence. But I do not need to meet people in order to accomplish this.

I have no interest in checking out other peoples' profiles just as other people really have no need to check out mine. Anything and everything anyone here needs to know about me can be learned simply by reading my posts. I don't hold anything that people here would need to know about me back. I try to speak my mind. Sometimes what I say will tick people off, but generally my posts will be well received. So for anybody who wants to know about me, just read up and enjoy. Also anything specific can always just be asked. To me this is easier than just posting non-specific stuff in a profile which means very little anyways.

[FalconAngel]

Profiles are very liquid in nature as they can be changed at will. In the two days that I have been here, I have seen several posts made by members who say that they are either checking other members profiles in order to find inconsistancies in how the members represent themselves, thus hurting their credibility, or members wanting others to check particular profiles in order to discredit the ones who are trying to discredit them. This to me is a useless feat since all the person who's profile is used against them has to do is change it to discredit those who seek to discredit them. That makes the whole discredit effort just a petty action and wastes time that could be spent on bettering this site.

Both very good points and people do sometimes change their profiles for various reasons; things in their life change, they get older, get married, divorced, any of which requires the occasional profile update. Life happens while we are making other plans.


It has been mentioned that if a member is not here to meet people, then why would they be here. I am not here to meet or hook up with anybody. I am here to try and enrich myself with knowledge that I can't get anywhere else, also I hope to help enrich other members and this board with my presence. But I do not need to meet people in order to accomplish this.

That was me that mentioned that, but in my defense, I posted that while a bit tired, so it was a rather shorter than necessary and not 100% clear statement. But a lot of people do come here, thinking that this is a good site to meet new friends/lovers, and learn that a complete profile is the best way to achieve that goal.


I have no interest in checking out other peoples' profiles just as other people really have no need to check out mine. Anything and everything anyone here needs to know about me can be learned simply by reading my posts.

You say that now, but you may find yourself re-thinking that as time goes on here and you get to know more people.



I don't hold anything that people here would need to know about me back. I try to speak my mind. Sometimes what I say will tick people off, but generally my posts will be well received. So for anybody who wants to know about me, just read up and enjoy. Also anything specific can always just be asked. To me this is easier than just posting non-specific stuff in a profile which means very little anyways.


Actually, a well thought out and filled out profile can tell a lot more about a person than you may think.....as long as you are willing to read between the lines from time to time, a lot of folks tell a lot about themselves based on what they don't say in their profiles or by how they say what they do in their profile. It is also the reason that if the only pics they post are their dick, then we pretty much can figure out their story.

But, as I said, see if you don't start to change you mind about it a little bit over time.

[FalconAngel]

Should I post a picture of my cock in my profile? Or how about an image of my gaping hole? :tongue:

Just so long as those are not the only pics you post. Some of us like more than just that about a person. :tong:

[jamiehue]

old growth forest....lol

[mbigtim]

Should I post a picture of my cock in my profile? Or how about an image of my gaping hole? :tongue:

:eek: And how would we know for sure that it is your cock and hole? :tong:

I have picked up from this topic that pics of that type are what many people use in their profiles. I have never understood someone's need to just show their hard dick, gaping open pussy or ass. Anyone who wants to meet someone based on just that type of pic IMO has problems. If people want to post pics in order to attract others should post a full body, whether clothed or nude. Don't post a pic of a hard dick or gaping hole and expect any quality replies. In fact reading here that there are so many pics like that in the profiles is enough in itself to keep me from looking at them. I can see that kind of thing just pulling either my wife's or my pants down and looking. Plus I know who the dick or gaping holes actually belong to. It is not just some pic I found on the Internet. :tong:

[mbigtim]

That was me that mentioned that, but in my defense, I posted that while a bit tired, so it was a rather shorter than necessary and not 100% clear statement. But a lot of people do come here, thinking that this is a good site to meet new friends/lovers, and learn that a complete profile is the best way to achieve that goal.
No defense neccesary as someone else already brought up the point that it was a valid question.

This site is designed as a place for like minded people to meet, and probably a majority of the people who are here are looking for just that. So for someone who is here for that purpose to ask why someone else is NOT here for that purpose is understandable. If this were a place like Adult Friend Finders, which is designed ONLY for helping people "hook up", then I too would be questioning why people are here and not willing to post profiles. But since I am not in the market for new partners, then a profile for me means very little. If I just happen to make any new friends, it will be because someone gets to know me based on my posting. To me, that is where you really get to know what someone is about. Not from a sugar-coated profile. :tong:




You say that now, but you may find yourself re-thinking that as time goes on here and you get to know more people.
Not likely! :)



Actually, a well thought out and filled out profile can tell a lot more about a person than you may think.....as long as you are willing to read between the lines from time to time, a lot of folks tell a lot about themselves based on what they don't say in their profiles or by how they say what they do in their profile. It is also the reason that if the only pics they post are their dick, then we pretty much can figure out their story.



Reading between the lines a lot of times is where problems occur. People are all too willing to MISREAD between the lines, thus creating more problems for you than just reading what is in front of you. There have been many people who have read between the lines with me and assumed that I was gay, which I am not, all because I had problems in High School finding dates. So people assumed that the reason I wasn't dating was because I wasn't interested in my female classmates. My female classmates were turning me down because they even thought I was gay. It wasn't until my 10 year reunion that they realized how wrong they were. I didn't even realize until then that it was the reason I had so many social problems in High School. So reading between the lines to me is problematical at best.

[Donkey_burger]

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Reading between the lines a lot of times is where problems occur. People are all too willing to MISREAD between the lines, thus creating more problems for you than just reading what is in front of you. There have been many people who have read between the lines with me and assumed that I was gay, which I am not, all because I had problems in High School finding dates. So people assumed that the reason I wasn't dating was because I wasn't interested in my female classmates. My female classmates were turning me down because they even thought I was gay. It wasn't until my 10 year reunion that they realized how wrong they were. I didn't even realize until then that it was the reason I had so many social problems in High School. So reading between the lines to me is problematical at best.

Yeah, reading between the lines is a HUGE problem for me as well. A lot of people have thought I have cognitive disabilities that I don't have (mental retardation or dyslexia, usually). Not that having cognitive disabilities is wrong, but assuming, and misreading between the lines is.

DB :bipride:

[mbigtim]

Yeah, reading between the lines is a HUGE problem for me as well. A lot of people have thought I have cognitive disabilities that I don't have (mental retardation or dyslexia, usually). Not that having cognitive disabilities is wrong, but assuming, and misreading between the lines is.

DB :bipride:

Great example! Another great example of reading between the lines is when someone posts and has extremely bad spelling and grammer. Reading between the lines, a majority of people write these people off as being uneducated, dumb, and/or lazy. When in fact they live in a non-English speaking country and trying to communicate on an English language board. :tong:

[Holmes]

When I first joined the site it was after I came to realize that I was bi. I just wanted some place I coould find some answers. I have no picture because I tend to be very shy. In the year I have been here I have made some chat friends and have met with one other person that made me feel welcome and ok with the direction my life is going. I would like a localbi friend I can talk to and maybe hang out with from time to time. I am not hiding anything but also don't wantto expose myself to just anyone who goes looking through thesite to see if there is anyone they recognize. Maybe as I get bolder I may put a facepic ,but for now I am happy sharing with those few indviduals that I have made a connection with.