Sexual/Masturbatory Fantasies

[childofwinter]

Ever since I was a teenager, a lot of my sexual and masturbatory fantasies have revolved around the idea of me being a woman. Not all of my fantasies are, but I would say at least half are. I've never had sex, so I can't tell you about that side of my sexuality.

Even the women I'm attracted to often have similar features to myself (light skin, blue eyes and dark hair), although not all women I'm attracted to have these features.

I am slightly overweight, so I do have a bit of a moob situation, and I often like to grope them when masturbating. Many of my fantasies (mostly, but not always when I'm fantasising about being a woman) include being raped, dominated, enslaved or just being restrained in some way.

I'm neither very masculine or feminine, but sort of lightly masculine. My appearance is that of an average masculine man.

I don't wish to offend anyone, but is this a normal bisexual thing, or does it have nothing to do with bisexuality?

[diget]

i cant count all the fantasies i have had about being female and being raped, dominated, and enslaved. really i have no idea whether strait guys have these fantasies though i do believe this must be "maybe not exclusively" a bi thing. i don't think many strait guys have had fantasies about being ass raped as a female. i have had quite a few of those though.:bigrin:

[FalconAngel]

I have had tons of sexual fantasies, but many of them are of the more "traditional" type, while a lot of the others involve the idea of being a metamorph, changing my appearance and gender at will for the maximum amount of sexual pleasure.
sometimes, I just fantasize about being a cross-dresser or just being the center of attention at an orgy. Some of my fantasies, I have been lucky enough to live out.

[Billys_gurl]

I will be the first female to weigh in on this topic. I have had fantasies and wet dreams where I was the man and it was hot! I loved it and hated to wake up from them. I don't know many strait girls who have those dreams either. I don't know if it's a just bi thing or a friend once told me it was a past life thing breaking through. So, who knows? Maybe we were then and are reliving them in our sub-conscious now. Just my :2cents: ;)

[Realist]

I think it's rare for ladies to have "nocturnal emissions". My 1st wife had them a few times a year and they usually were the same theme, over and over again, creating an orgasm almost every time. She, like you stated, hated to wake up from them.

Just recently, I was talking to an older widow (70-something) about the same subject. She told me that at least once a month, her husband will come to her and they'd make love. She'd usually wake up, just as her orgasm began, but all she could do was to lay there and savor it.

She said the dreams, unlike many others she has, were very clear and realistic. She feels that he really was coming back to please her, as he'd done in real life.

I had a thought, that she may be deluding herself, but who knows what lies beyond the veil? If she's happy believing that, I won't try to dissuade her.

[roy m cox]

i can have many sexual/masturbatory fantasies and don't have to be asleep for them i think of some thing very sexual in nature and start pre ing and will have a orgasm big time or some time i can be looking at a sexy guy or girl and it's "omg" :tong:

i have had some very wild dreams that would get me off too,

:bipride::bipride::bipride::bipride:

[childofwinter]

Can someone else comment on my post?

[Devin]

I have never really had masturbatory fantasies about being the woman during intercourse. On the other hand, I have had daydreams of being a young woman who resembles me and who could be taken for a sister of mine. This is also a woman I idealise and I am attracted to women of her type. So my variation of your dream is rather emotional.

[IllinoisGuy]

It is actually very common for bisexual people to have sexual fantasies as either the same or opposite sex. And as for your wanting to experience them in a submissive role, that is common for people from all areas-straight, bi, gay, lesbians and transgendered. So don't drive yourself mad thinking you're not a "normal" bisexual. You are. If your desire is to crossdress, by all means, do it. And if your desire is to submit to a Dominant while you are dressed-go for it!

The big thing to remember is to take things slow. You will find that you will be nervous initially trying new things, but if you have a partner that understands and takes their time introducing those things, you will find most, if not all of them enjoyable.

I do hope this helps-and if you want to send me email or a PM, please feel free to do so. I'll try to help answer your questions and ease your concerns.

[diget]

ChildofWinter-It sounds like you have gender issues or that you're Trans or a woman trapped in a man's body. Get some therapy for this.

My gay and bisexual male and female friends do not fantasize or have dreams about changing their gender at all.

I know trans people and they have described what happens to you as happening to them before they started gender changes.

i dont know about gender issues. o am defiantly male and love pussy more than any thing though i have many dreams about being a chick and having sex with a guy "im bi not transgender though". i think that because it must be just as fun to be the opposite sex most are just wondering what its like. its got to be fun.:bigrin::color:

[Donkey_burger]

ChildofWinter,

IMHO, it's really all an individual thing. You might be transsexual (doub it, though), or more than likely, you just like to fantasize about cross-dressing, being submissive, etc. In the latter case, this is part of the "filler" for your orientation, beyond the genders you're attracted to.

Enjoy!

DB :bipride:

[childofwinter]

I don't actually cd - I used to do that on occasion as a teenager, but I don't wear any feminine clothing when masturbating nowadays.

[csrakate]

I really wouldn't try to read too much into your fantasies...many people fantasize or at least are curious about how it feels to have sex as the opposite gender. Just enjoy your fantasies and allow them to be just that...fantasies that bring you pleasure. You'll drive yourself crazy trying to interpret them too much. Just my :2cents: