Just wondering..

[smashley717]

SO... Im a 24 year old female.. and have only ever been with men but Im attracted to both men and woman. Im married and my husband and I enjoy watching porn together. I find that everytime Im watching Im totally focused on the woman. Its much easier for me to get turned on and to orgasim having sex with my husband after watching these woman in porn. More offten than not I have a hard time getting off with him. Im just usually not in the mood. But show me a hott chick and Im ready to go! Like I said before Ive never been with a woman but I think about it all the time. Could I be Bi if Ive only ever been with a guy?

[Hephaestion]

'....Could I be Bi if Ive only ever been with a guy? ......'

If you fancy both men and women regardless of physical practice then I think that you fit the concept of being bisexual; there are degrees of this in some people's minds. That the hubby doesn't turn you on much (any more?) is unfortunate, but if the porn helps out then go with it, especially if the marriage is important to you. Assuming that it is, then if or when the time comes for you to explore any homosexuality beyond film then just take it slowly and with sanity.

Good luck and welcome to the site. You might think a little about putting some information up about yourself on profile.

Regards

Heph

[Realist]

Welcome, Smashly!

People often accentuate their love life with fantasies. Some are hidden desires and needs that are suppressed, but surface from time to time. It appears that you may be one of those.

Related story: I knew a lady who had thoughts, urges and feelings about other women since she was a little girl. She never acted on these feelings until after her husband died. I think she was about 70, then.

Within a year, after being widowed, she was seduced by another lady. I think they were in a writer's club together. She confessed to my ex that she'd never felt such love and passion in her whole life!

I thought it was amazing that she had finally fulfilled her fantasies, at such an advanced age, but was happy for her.

If you feel these needs, too, can you discuss them with your husband? If he is understanding and not jealous, he may accept your experimenting.

My GF is bi and I'd be happy if she found someone compatible to explore with. (with, or without my participation)

[innaminka]

You are certainly not alone, or even unusual.
Its surprisingly common for a woman to have fantasies about other women - and from my limited knowledge, str8 women appear to respond to lesbian porn more than str8 men do to gay porn.

Are you bi? That's impossible for other people to tell from the limited information you gave - and really, only you can discover the answer.

-But be aware that many women (and men) who think they might be gay/bi because of fantasies, discover that fantasies were all they were. To put it crudely (which I'm usually not) there's a world of difference between masturbating to a lesbian couple on a tv screen and actually putting your face between another woman's legs.

I'm writing from direct experience. I have been left "high and dry" on a number of occasions by women who thought they were bi, but............ and on the other hand, I've been with a few who discovered that F/F sex is everything thay's fanticised about!

the world is full of wonderful things - the answers are up to you.

[Indaco76]

You are certainly not alone, or even unusual.
Its surprisingly common for a woman to have fantasies about other women - and from my limited knowledge, str8 women appear to respond to lesbian porn more than str8 men do to gay porn.

Are you bi? That's impossible for other people to tell from the limited information you gave - and really, only you can discover the answer.

-But be aware that many women (and men) who think they might be gay/bi because of fantasies, discover that fantasies were all they were. To put it crudely (which I'm usually not) there's a world of difference between masturbating to a lesbian couple on a tv screen and actually putting your face between another woman's legs.

I'm writing from direct experience. I have been left "high and dry" on a number of occasions by women who thought they were bi, but............ and on the other hand, I've been with a few who discovered that F/F sex is everything thay's fanticised about!

the world is full of wonderful things - the answers are up to you.

Amazingly well said, Innaminka. Even for me - someone who's been on both sides of the fence (having had relationship with men and now with a woman) - fantasies can be tricky sometimes. Lately I find that what turns me on the most while masturbating is imagining a penis inside me when I come. But I'm in love with my woman and totally attracted to her; in fact, when we make love, I don't need to think of anything else. Still, that fantasy is strong. But if I imagine myself in a real situation with a man, I would find it weird now, because all I crave is that physical sensation. I'm not interested in any other physical interation, let alone cuddling afterwards or having a relationship. As lots of people say, fantasy can be so different from reality. Strangely enough, for me, with women, it was all in dreams rather than fantasies. And when the moment came, it all felt very natural. Even my lesbian partner was surprised that it was my first time with a woman.
Sexuality is a very complex thing.
Best of luck on your path to self discovery.