am i a wanna be bisexual?

[joshuasalam]

okay soooo....my gay friend josh texted me and asked if i wanted to take a "nap" with him when he got off of work. so i came over quite nervous but we got to talking and i felt more relaxed. well, we started making out and feeling eachother up and stuff but it wasn't arousing at first. then we pretended to be asleep again and then made out some again and then it was kind of arousing, then i just out of the blue stopped being aroused. then we started spooning and he sucked on my finger and that was pretty hawt and i was getting aroused and thinking about fucking him but then his phone went off and i lost it again. in the mean time he was boned up for the whole "nap". before i left we were cuddling and making out and i dno. i felt conflicted. before this all of my experienced with a man have been drunk experiences. i just can't believe im almost 23 years old and still not sure what i am. :S do you think i'm just a wanna be bisexual? maybe im not very bisexual? i really like this guy and i dont want to play with his emotions if im just going to end up uninterested in him. :( whats my deal?

[eddy10]

Just sounds like a case of nervousness to me. Just try to relax with no expectations and enjoy the ride. Might help if you discussed it with him and let him know of your doubts. He will understand and work with you. After all he is your friend.

[fredtyg]

Nope. I'd say he's bi. Most of us end up fagging off when we've been drinking, at least at first. Nothing wrong with that.

[joshuasalam]

It's always possible that you simply don't like sex with men or do not want relationships with men, or that you may be bisexual but are just more into women.

The way you wrote about how you have to be drunk in order to have sex with men raises a huge red flag to me.

When you have sex with women what is that like? Are you even sexually attracted to women? Do you have any sexual attraction towards men at all?

well sex with females has been VaRiEd. sometimes i haven't been able to perform, but usually its not a problem. and btw i just happened to be drunk when i had sex with men before. but it was my preference in the moment.

[joshuasalam]

Just sounds like a case of nervousness to me. Just try to relax with no expectations and enjoy the ride. Might help if you discussed it with him and let him know of your doubts. He will understand and work with you. After all he is your friend.

i think i figured it out. i'm totally not horny today! lolz i've been trying to watch porn tonight and it all looks so lame. i can't even get it up! lolz well, maybe that was my problem more than anything. im just an old man! lolz gawd.

[fuborks]

I think you're just 23, in your sexual prime, and have gotten into something with another fellow in a moment wheere you were most receptive to it.

Nothing necessarily to do with bisexuality more than perhaps maturing and playing into different experiences to compensate fora lack thereof one way or the other. Nothing terribly profound about that.

We are too loose with self-defining in this society & quick to put absolute values on experiences and actions. Heh-So much for "civilization"= confusion.
It is not unusual for you to have a healthy dose of intimate social indulgence; but I wouldn't go calling myself bisexual because of it.

Bisexuality itself is an identity. It is what you are and based on your conscious relationship with "gender" as a function in the world-NOT what you do sexually. What you've had is properly a "homerotic" encounter with someone you felt sensually / erotically comfortable with, & may feel quite repulsed by it later on-or not. But only time will tell that.

[csreef]

If you feel comfortable with it , go with it...dont go through life with a missed chance...

[mrplayfuluk]

Troll Alert: Berserker

[mrplayfuluk]

its just our sad little troll goth, Josh, ignore him

[rdy2go]

seems to me that you are just a tad mixed up. please do not take offence, it happens. I guess you have to get in in your head to just go for it, and if it doesn't seem natural, well, maybe ya need to look at something else. But what the hell do I know. I'm canadian. lol:2cents: