What should I do?

[lilsuki]

Hi Everyone, I am new here, just discovered this site tonight.

I am bi-sexual, and have been for the last 8 years. I however just recently came out about my sexuality to my mom (april of 08) and earlier this year to several close friends. However, two of those friends and I had a very bad falling out....and they revealed my sexuality to others. While I know enough that I have a right to be upset that they did that, I often find myself questioning it because quite a few people know, I just told them in my own time.

I guess what I am asking is... what should I do about it? Anything? or nothing at all? I am not one to fight or be hurtful, I just have this inner feeling that I want to confront them about it.

Any advice is welcome, please just don't be too harsh :(

-Suki

[Realist]

Suki, of course, only you know what is best for you to do. But, maybe the best defense is to ignore them and go on with your life. You may create nothing but more ill feelings, if you confront them. They were apparently never really your friends, anyway...are they even worth the effort?

I don't know how old you are, but you can win more friends by being honest, open and decent, than you can by being one who is bent on reprisals and revenge.

I admit it cuts you deep, when someone you trusted breaks that trust, but at least you know who and what they are.

Personally, I'd act if you couldn't care less and go on about your life knowing you're better off without them!

[eddy10]

I agree with the realist. It is their loss not yours. Besides that, starting a fuss could end up hurting you more than you bargained for. If those "friends" approach you to talk or to try patch things up, that would be the time to let them know how you felt about their actions.

[_Joe_]

There's nothing you can really do now, the cat's out of the bag.

What you can do is to be true to yourself, show your true character when it becomes some sort of confrontation of whatnot, because you have the choice to be YOU, and they can't take that away from you unless you let them.

[lilsuki]

Thank you all for your advice. I really appreciate it! :) Should they want to patch things up I think I may tell them how I felt about it, but I highly doubt things will be patched up. And this may come as a surprise but I am 20...lol Wee bit old to be involved in this kind of immaturity. Again thank you all for the advice :)

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Suki, its already done, Hon. Dont let Any one make you feel bad about who you are, and besides, its no one's business but yours what your sexual orientation really is. You took a risk in telling someone you thought you could truly trust and it was betrayed. Just chalk it up to prejiducial insecurities and go from there. Confrontation is pointless. If they cannot accept you For You, then they dont deserve to have you in their lives. It just shows Their ignorence, not yours, Hon.
Just take care of you and dont sweat the smalled minded few. :}
Cat

[Canticle]

Hi Everyone, I am new here, just discovered this site tonight.

I am bi-sexual, and have been for the last 8 years. I however just recently came out about my sexuality to my mom (april of 08) and earlier this year to several close friends. However, two of those friends and I had a very bad falling out....and they revealed my sexuality to others. While I know enough that I have a right to be upset that they did that, I often find myself questioning it because quite a few people know, I just told them in my own time.

I guess what I am asking is... what should I do about it? Anything? or nothing at all? I am not one to fight or be hurtful, I just have this inner feeling that I want to confront them about it.

Any advice is welcome, please just don't be too harsh :(

-Suki


If you confided in those ex friends and they broke that confidence, then you are well rid of them, for they were not true friends. A confidence should never be broken. You'll make more friends...better friends.