Feeling straight.

[Dave157]

I've kind of been feeling straight lately. Its kind of strange. Sometimes I feel nearly completly straight and then I start wondering if I'm actually straight. But then at other times I feel really attraced to the same gender. Is that normal?

[krbbi]

I feel the same way my friend. As of late, all I can think of is cock. 2 weeks ago my neck hurt from all the hot young girls at the beach. I don't get it. I read that our sexuality flows and changes - like a river. That statement is true for me. Also, the thought of sucking cock for me has always been physical. Only thinking of cock but not the man. The interaction, the reality. I am slowly beginning to see fit men as very attractive. Getting past my own hangups and stereotypes a little. Just savoring the thought of sucking off a naked man, on my knees, in a dark room... loving how wrong the thought of it is. Then, I see a beautiful young woman, wow...these days, the only way I can get myself off is with Gay porn...I feel your confusion my brother...what to do?

[Realist]

OK Waters, define NORMAL!

[Riclv1]

Good topic. I'm married and recently came out to everyone as a bi male. I totally enjoy the sex with my wife and since exposing myself as bi it's gotten even more intense. The attraction towards men has very much been a physical one for me. The complete trust I have with my wife is something I have not experienced with a man. I have sucked many a cock and been physical but not emotional. There is defiantly a difference in that kind of sex. I’m turning my attention to seeking more of a love connection that I might share with me, my wife and another man. Developing a relationship of mutual respect for each other. Having played in the world of “hook-ups” it just doesn’t seem the place to meet another man that would be willing to explore that with a man and his wife. It’s about developing, not jumping into bed. I’m still working through all of this and exploring how do even begin. I know I would like to experience it and in turn I do desire it to be done with love. So feelings towards men YES! Feelings towards women YES! That’s the biggest tug of war within ourselves as Bi people. It’s the ability to have people in your life that get it. My wife seems to be getting it, and for that I’m grateful.

[the sacred night]

Oh, yeah. I doubt myself all the time. I've considered the possibility that I was really straight, and I've considered the possibility that I was really a lesbian. I've discovered after a lot of fluctuations and vacillations, my sexuality isn't static, as I've seen here that many people's isn't.

[fred fencesitter]

I'm with Sacred Night. Sometimes I've found myself varying day-to-day. Right now I think I'm about 70 percent hetero in my desires. A few years back, it was the opposite.

[Bisexual Explorer]

Add me to the list of those who sometimes prefer men, sometimes prefer women, and sometimes both. Rather than worry about what is normal or whether I'm straight or bi, I focus on what I want, and then going after it. You might want to do the same.

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[Matthew547]

Yes, this oscillation factor that is described by others above is found within myself as well. I find that it largely has to do if a member/members of one gender do something incredibly painful to me, the other shines that much brighter for a time. In the wake of a heartbreak, my desires go to the gender that didn't break my heart. In the wake of falling in love, my desires go to the gender of the person who is capturing my heart. When I am in limbo, I alternate frequently. Maybe 60% hetero and 40% homo. I just take it as it comes, otherwise you drive yourself insane.

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[Dave157]

Oh, yeah. I doubt myself all the time. I've considered the possibility that I was really straight, and I've considered the possibility that I was really a lesbian. I've discovered after a lot of fluctuations and vacillations, my sexuality isn't static, as I've seen here that many people's isn't.

You hit the nail Sacred Night. Thats exactly how I'm feeling. It kind of fluctuate and then I get unsure about whether I'm bisexual or actually straight/gay.
So it's pretty much the normal thing that it fluctuates when your bisexual? Then It would make sense.