bad choice?

[flight1230]

umm.. hello
this is my first time posting something on here haha;


but yeah.. i guess i found that i was bisexual about when i noticed that i actually fell in love with a university student when i was in junior high.
i thought i was looking at her as a sisterly figure, but as time went by and things started to happen like a notice of me moving to another country, i became more aware of my feelings for her.

after i moved i literally cried at least three times a day for about three months..; social interaction kind of stopped and i couldnt smile and laugh for a while... uhm..
well its been about 8 months since and it's gotten better but i still cant stop thinking about her;;
(feeling bad about it really.... ah.....)

just a few months before i moved down, she got a boyfriend a couple of months later since i told her that i was moving and she came back from her vacation.
i guess i got pretty pissed off and i started going out with a boy for a few days but broke up because i was moving... =_=;


but the real problem is;;
im planning to visit that neighborhood again.. and i promised the ex-boyfriend that we'll have sexual interaction when i do visit... (my first)

i feel tempted yet im thinking that this probably isnt the best way to solve this..
so asking for some advice or.... just any kind of comments... aha; :]

[Realist]

Maybe it's a bad choice, Flight.

For one, this seems like a one-sided situation.

I was wondering if this girl ever indicated to you that she had more than sister-like feeling for you?

It's possible that she is bi, too, but from your brief description, there's no indication of it. You could be in love with someone who has no idea of your feelings and does NOT have the same feelings for you. However, she could be unsure of her own feelings and may be attracted to you, but afraid to reveal herself. There's only one way to find out.

The best way, in my estimation, for you to deal with this is to talk to her...up front and honestly. In private surroundings, tell her exactly how you feel and then she will know.

Be prepared, she may reject you, she may get angry, but hopefully whatever she does, I hope it turns out the way you desire it to. But, without her knowing for sure, she can't take appropriate action. I can tell you need closure

Be prepared for the worst and accept it, then move on. You can't MAKE someone love you. There is a chance that she may return your feelings and, if so, you will finally know. Whatever, I hope you can deal with it with intelligence and maturity.

Good luck!

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Beautifully said Realist-honey. :}
Cat

[flight1230]

Maybe it's a bad choice, Flight.

For one, this seems like a one-sided situation.

I was wondering if this girl ever indicated to you that she had more than sister-like feeling for you?

It's possible that she is bi, too, but from your brief description, there's no indication of it. You could be in love with someone who has no idea of your feelings and does NOT have the same feelings for you. However, she could be unsure of her own feelings and may be attracted to you, but afraid to reveal herself. There's only one way to find out.

The best way, in my estimation, for you to deal with this is to talk to her...up front and honestly. In private surroundings, tell her exactly how you feel and then she will know.

Be prepared, she may reject you, she may get angry, but hopefully whatever she does, I hope it turns out the way you desire it to. But, without her knowing for sure, she can't take appropriate action. I can tell you need closure

Be prepared for the worst and accept it, then move on. You can't MAKE someone love you. There is a chance that she may return your feelings and, if so, you will finally know. Whatever, I hope you can deal with it with intelligence and maturity.

Good luck!

thank you so much..!! :]]

[Realist]

No problem, Honey. I've been down that road, too! It really hurts...........but until you know for sure, how can you move on, or deal with it? You can't, so face her and find out. Best wishes!