has your sexual preference ever changed?

[joshuasalam]

is there anyone else who's sexual preference can wobble from one side to the other? i don't mean pansexuality (being attracted to someone regardless of gender) because im totally not gender blind. sometimes im straight, sometimes i'm gay, but im almost never equally straight and gay. lately i'm more attracted to men and less attracted to women then i've ever been. and im just wondering if anyone else has ever experienced this.

[Realist]

I'd imagine that every bisexual has vacillated from one gender to another, during their lifetimes.....I certainly have.

A lot depends on the person, too. I used to think, when I was with a really fine lady, that she was as good as it got.......then, when I was with a really nice guy, I figured I'd be happy right there from now-on.

Seems that during the last few years the ladies have the edge; I'm good with that.

So, to answer your question.......yep, I bet most of us have swung both ways.

There's a few gay and lesbian members here, too. I guess they're happy right where they are. It's good to be satisfied with who you are!

[12voltman59]

is there anyone else who's sexual preference can wobble from one side to the other? i don't mean pansexuality (being attracted to someone regardless of gender) because im totally not gender blind. sometimes im straight, sometimes i'm gay, but im almost never equally straight and gay. lately i'm more attracted to men and less attracted to women then i've ever been. and im just wondering if anyone else has ever experienced this.

Most definitely my sexual preference has changed---even though my first sexual experiences early on were with other guys--I didn't consider myself to be gay or bisexual---I considered myself to be very much "straight"----and for years this was so----it was not until rather recently--perhaps a decade now-that I came to consider myself something other than purely straight even though I had not done anything sexually with other guys since I was young and was sexually active with ladies only--but now-I do consider myself to be bisexual for sure even though-of late--my sexual experiences have only been with other guys and at present---prefer it to be that way--I guess it is as much the case that I am still in the exploratory stage of being with other guys--and have enjoyed having sex with other guys---it is sorta like rediscovering sex all over again---but I cannot say that in the future--I will continue to be doing things exclusively with other guys--I really cannot imagine that----even if I were to find a guy to have a long term relationship with--I still would be more than open and ready to meet a great lady to have a relationship with in the future as well and in the future can see myself saying--"sex with other guys--been there and done that-and I am done with that now!!"

[fredtyg]

I've been homo or bi all of my life, but I'd say I was more bi 20 or 30 years ago (54 now). Now I'd say I'm mostly homo if only because I'm one of those Viagra guys and don't have a boner on demand weenie, like I used to.

I still find women more sexually attractive than men, overall, but I think of men when I masturbate 100 times out of 100. If I had a better weenie, I might be thinking of women more.

[SuzeeCool]

I have found that I vacillate between the two. I have times in my life when I'm really concentrated on men, and others when I'm only concentrated on women. I think for real bisexuals, it's more fluid, and really depends on your state of mind.

[fred fencesitter]

I've been all over the map. When I was a teenager, I was usually attracted to girls, but had some hot fantasies about guys. When I was a senior in college, I fell in love with a guy for the first time, and for the first time, I began to seriously contemplate relationships with men. (I wasn't very successful with women, but that's hardly unusual). I found my desires for men growing, and by my mid-twenties, I found myself in a serious relationship with another man. He was gay, and I basically considered myself gay, too, although I think I was always really bi. A few years later, I found my desires for women increasing, and then I found myself falling hard for a female friend (it wasn't going to happen). So I traded in a gay identity for a bi one. Now I'm dating women, and who knows what's next in store for me.

[ohbimale]

I have been all over the board too. At first girls were so hot. Then as time went by I found myself getting excited by guys. Over the years I have a somewhat equal attraction to both sexes. As I have grown older my attraction to men has grown stronger. Previous relationships with guys was strictly sex. Now I am open to a romantic relationship with a man...not ruling out women, just have a stronger attraction to men. :male::bipride::male:

[Bisexual Explorer]

My preferences swing back and forth depending on...I don't have the slightest idea. It's always one or the other, except when it's both. Right now, I'm much more interested in men. Who knows what it will be tomorrow?
For me, this is what it means, and what I like, about being bisexual - no need to be consistent, just go with what's going on now!
g

[lady_starlight]

I definately change as time goes by. When i was in highschool I was into guys, just guys. Then in university..we all experiment right?...I was into mostly guys, and some girls. gradually my interest in women increased and desire for men decreased, to the point where I was only interested in women and my bf. This lasted a few years, but in the last couple months, I've had a major increase in an interest in men, I don't even really fantasize about women anymore. Although I still am attracted to them and if a hot redhead came along i sure wouldn;t say no ;)

I think all sexuality is very fluid, and at different times of our lives we have different preferences, whether it's in the gender of our partners, the activites we enjoy, or the frequency of said activities. Thats what keeps things interesting ;)

[Bi_Druid]

all the time.

My preference goes in swings and round abouts from one moment to the next some times. I tend to stick around about mid-way, if you need to put it on a line.
Some times I fancy women, some times men, sometimes both or either, sometimes even neither.

[Curiouscourier]

My sexual desires have never changed. I have always love having sex with a women. However, I always have been drawn towards have a sexual experience with a man too. I want to feel what it is like to have that experience of a man have sex with me too. I have tasted my best friend's cum when I was 12, I loved the taste. Now I want to have a man to do that to me too.

[cliffml]

is there anyone else who's sexual preference can wobble from one side to the other? i don't mean pansexuality (being attracted to someone regardless of gender) because im totally not gender blind. sometimes im straight, sometimes i'm gay, but im almost never equally straight and gay. lately i'm more attracted to men and less attracted to women then i've ever been. and im just wondering if anyone else has ever experienced this.

My sexual preference is about the same as yours, right now Men are top runner. Who knows Women could end up on the plate again. I'm just enjoying whom i'm with regardless of their gender. Just enjoy it.

[eddy10]

My preferences tend to sway also. But, never too far from the '4' in the center of the scale.

[Matthew547]

My sexual preference, as it were, is never permanent. An individual can take my breath away and outshine all others, but my sexual preference swings like a pendulum. I've found it easier to think of myself as 100% bisexual with alternating moods. I'm incapable of pure heterosexuality or pure homosexuality, but I am capable of a monogamous relationship with a special someone. If you've felt like you oscillate, just go where your heart leads you and even if you choose one gender to exclusion, it does not bind you for all time. If you find someone of your own gender that you could see yourself with for all time, go for it. If you find someone of the opposite gender, the same thing applies. If you're just taking it one moment at a time, think of every moment as a disjoint moment in time whose form is yours to shape. If you want to have sex with Tina tonight and Rex tomorrow, go for it, just be honest and safe with all parties. Thats my :2cents:

With respect,

Matthew

[mrplayfuluk]

Troll Alert: Berserker

[Devin]

Yes I am afraid so... On the other hand, it is an interesting subject and only dealt with by a few scholars in the field of psychology and sexology, I believe, whereas many think of sexual preferences as something fixed and inborn.

[innaminka]

Definitely - tho not so much a wobble as a definte increasing axis.

Without a doubt, and its something that I am growing more comfortable with, it just seems the "right fit" I have moved from hetero, bi and am now very orientated towards other women.

I have no urge or desire to be with a man.

I'm not a repressed lesbian, I know that I have moved along the bar in stages - ejoyable stages and now I'm at the end, and I'm more than satisfied.
A new world is opening up.

[Argent 11]

I agree this describes me perfectly :bigrin:


My preferences swing back and forth depending on...I don't have the slightest idea. It's always one or the other, except when it's both. Right now, I'm much more interested in men. Who knows what it will be tomorrow?
For me, this is what it means, and what I like, about being bisexual - no need to be consistent, just go with what's going on now!
g

[brutal_priestess]

I guess right now I'm kind of in a transitional period. Some days I wonder if I'm not just a really strange straight girl, but most days I'm pretty aware that I'm still bi. I do, however, become more strongly attached to men.

Having spent a bit too much time in contact with a very narrow-minded gay community, I think sometimes I've acted out too much sexually because I've been made to feel bad for swinging more toward the heterosexual orientation (emotionally at least). As if a true bisexual is just a homosexual who sometimes "slips up" and fucks the opposite sex every now and again.

[westcoastB]

def agree with matthew747... i tried the exclusively gay and straight thing and it never worked... i can like girls and guys both-and this is the case pretty much all the time- just depends on the individuals i meet! :female::flag4:

[roy m cox]

no i still like women and men / men and men / women and women /

:male:yummy :female:yummy :male::male:yummy :female::female:yummt :three::three::three:yummy



i am 100% BI and damn proud of it :bigrin:



:bipride::bipride::bipride::bipride:

[roy m cox]

You are not any more bisexual than someone who is bisexual yet prefers one gender over the other.

nop id love to have them both at the same time,, not one the other :tong:

and if i had my way about it i would love to have more than just one mate ,, i do prefer both and not just one , my boyfriend wants me to get a female to so how do you ex plane that he know id go for a woman the same as id go for a man "damn " i must be the weird one hear hmmm ...

:flag1::upside::smoke::drool::banghead:

[Indaco76]

I guess right now I'm kind of in a transitional period. Some days I wonder if I'm not just a really strange straight girl, but most days I'm pretty aware that I'm still bi. I do, however, become more strongly attached to men.

Having spent a bit too much time in contact with a very narrow-minded gay community, I think sometimes I've acted out too much sexually because I've been made to feel bad for swinging more toward the heterosexual orientation (emotionally at least). As if a true bisexual is just a homosexual who sometimes "slips up" and fucks the opposite sex every now and again.

I hear you, Innaminka. The gay/lesbian community can be extremely harsh towards bisexuals. Funny thing is that they demand rights and open-mindedness from heterosexuals but then treat bisexuals like outcasts. I know it's not always the case, but it does happen very often.

[brutal_priestess]

nop id love to have them both at the same time,, not one the other :tong:

and if i had my way about it i would love to have more than just one mate ,, i do prefer both and not just one , my boyfriend wants me to get a female to so how do you ex plane that he know id go for a woman the same as id go for a man "damn " i must be the weird one hear hmmm ...

:flag1::upside::smoke::drool::banghead:


:rolleyes: Hey if we're talking about strictly sex here, I guess I'd be going for either or as well. Perhaps you're representing yourself poorly, but I think we're talking the whole package here and not just swinging wild and crazy bisexuality here. What, because I'm in love with a guy and have no real desire to hop on the first cute girl I see, I'm not bisexual enough for ya?

Meh...

[roy m cox]

:rolleyes: Hey if we're talking about strictly sex here, I guess I'd be going for either or as well. Perhaps you're representing yourself poorly, but I think we're talking the whole package here and not just swinging wild and crazy bisexuality here. What, because I'm in love with a guy and have no real desire to hop on the first cute girl I see, I'm not bisexual enough for ya?

Meh...


me + female + male = hotdamn for me ,, and i did not say your not bisexual enough ,,
i don't have just one preference cuzz i am greedy for both :male::female: my preference will never change i have always liked both sexes and will die likening both sexes :bigrin: and it don't mean im more bi than any one hear ,,,,,

[jackbirdjay]

is there anyone else who's sexual preference can wobble from one side to the other? i don't mean pansexuality (being attracted to someone regardless of gender) because im totally not gender blind. sometimes im straight, sometimes i'm gay, but im almost never equally straight and gay. lately i'm more attracted to men and less attracted to women then i've ever been. and im just wondering if anyone else has ever experienced this.
in the late 70's early 80's was into guys more than girls. in 1989 married about 5 years ago wanted guys again so yes

[GuyF0001]

When I was about 12, a male friend and I "fooled around" for a few months and I totally enjoyed it. While those experiences never left my mind, as I grew into high school and college I was totally straight in my experiences but not in my desires...I was very into athletics and managed to sneak peeks every chance I got in the locker rooms and showers. I was totally into females sexually though and it took many years after that (the internet had a lot to do with it) to finally be able to communicate on a regular basis with guys that shared my "hidden" desires. When I started doing frequent business trips I used it as an opportunity to meet and sexually experiment with married bi guys that were in the same situation. Over time I went from "thinking about it on an occasional basis" to "experiencing it on an occasional basis" to now "thinking about it a lot". I am still happily married (and totally inactive bisexually) but my preferences now are mostly thinking about and wanting to be with another guy.

If opinions of general society were different, who knows how my sexual life would have been different.

[ready5858]

I was 17 when I first had another man, also had a lot of great, hot sexy women who did the job some better than others, one I will never forget. When it all comes down to it men can do things that women can't do as far as sex is concern. So if I had to pick.....this is tough....it would have to be a man, no ties, hang ups or games.

[Gay2Bi]

Well, yes, as my user name implies, my sexual preference has changed. :)

All of my adult life I'd been exclusively interested in men - both romantically and sexually. Then a few years ago, I started finding myself wondering what it would be like to be with a woman. It freaked me out because I thought, "I'm gay! I shouldn't be thinking like this!" Nevertheless, the curiousity was there and has been growing ever since. It took me up until a few months ago to finally admit that yes, I just might be bisexual after all.

With that said, my attraction to men is different from my attraction to women. With men, I'm totally turned on by men's bodies and I can see myself having an emotional/romantic relationship with a guy; with women, the interest seems to be purely physical. And what's weird is that I'm not really turned on by women's bodies - they generally don't do anything for me - it's more that I'm turned on by the idea of sex with a woman. Since I've never done so, I can't be sure whether I'd really enjoy it "in the flesh" as it were, so I guess I'll have to wait until it happens to see if it's something I truly want as opposed to something I was merely curious about.

For the time being, I identify as bi, since the curiosity is strong, but I won't know for sure until I actually try straight sex. Then I might discover that I do, in fact, have some genuine bi urges, or I might discover that I'm really just a gay man with some odd fantasies every now and then. Either way, I'll still be me! :)

[dwerfet]

i wouldn't say it's changed- although many times i'll be more attracted to women and others more attracted to men.

[Donkey_burger]

My sexual orientation, I think, has changed from "bi" to "pansexual", in that I'm now mostly attracted to people who don't really look like one gender or another.

The most dramatic change, however, has been in sexual *desire*. From the time when I was eleven, until now (now nineteen), the number of people I've been attracted to has dropped dramatically. I have clinical depression and social anxiety, so maybe my brain is just telling me to concentrate on something else.

DB :bipride:

[Justin Chad Taylor]

:bipride:I enjoy being with both men and women. For me it is the person on the inside that really counts, not what they have between their legs since I enjoy being with both sexes:bibounce:

[sabastien]

I like having sex with men and women, if I had to put it in a percentage it would be 60/40 in favour of men, which I have moved towards, as I have grown older.

[csreef]

Definitely - tho not so much a wobble as a definte increasing axis.

Without a doubt, and its something that I am growing more comfortable with, it just seems the "right fit" I have moved from hetero, bi and am now very orientated towards other women.

I have no urge or desire to be with a man.

I'm not a repressed lesbian, I know that I have moved along the bar in stages - ejoyable stages and now I'm at the end, and I'm more than satisfied.
A new world is opening up.

I think that this fits me to a "T" except I've gone from women to now more towards men . thank God for this site now I know there are more people like me. :flag1:

[sebax]

yes yes and yes... I use to date a chic for a while but then I found out she cheated on me and the love died out.. after a few months of being alone I started to took at men more often than women.. I guess I was connecting more with my own kind..mentaly and fisically. I got to date a dude for a couple of months, we connected very well and it was very much more emotional than anything, it was great..but he was a very insecure person and hated that i looked at women and men.. he was gay in the closet and thought i was a freak for liking women too hehe. he said that it was just an excuse for not wanting to admid that I was gay.. anyhow i got bored with that crap and we simply broke it off. I was definately more into men for a while but then all of the sudden I stared to look for chics more often and hot guys passed by me and i didnt even turn over to look twice....
so to answer your question yes in my case definately a yes..