PeterH
Feb 20, 2006, 2:49 PM
Hi everybody,
This thread is inspired by a thread called Bisexuals are more needy,
started by Bibiologist, who wanted (a.o.) more scientiffic insight into who we are, beacuse he thinks it will make society more accepting
He also feels that some more scientific understanding about what bisexuality is will help in that. And I feel that he's right. This might not help to convince everybody, but it will help convince some and it's an important part of the process, but not all of it.
So what is needed to convine people that being bi is ok?
The things that I feel are needed are:
1) the science
Bibiologist suggested that being monogamous is a bit like a pair of shoes that doesn't quite fit (for a full illustration, see his thread). Is monogamy for a bisexual basically being half celibate? I really want to know. I have strong morals, but I don't expect myself to be celibate, also not half-celibate, nor do I think society expects it of me.
But perhaps being bi is not so much not fitting one pair of shoes. Perhaps it's more like needing a pair with a very particular fit?
So is it needing two different shoes, or just a very particular pair? Could I be happy with a woman who has some masculine character traits, perhaps, or a man more feminine traits? I can find that out for me myself, but to have arguments to convince society, science is needed.
What are the important scientific questions to answer?
2) getting rid of the stereotypes.
I think the best way to get rid of the sstereotypes is to have role-models. Well known people that people know that have come out as bi.
E.g., when I outed myself to my mom, part of what made her accept it is that she knows and likes a TV personality named Jos Brink who is gay, a pastor in church and who has been having a steady boyfriend for years and years. Thank you Jos Brink. Unfortunately he is gay and I am bi and I know of no one who is bi that my parents could like.
Bisexual people choose different lifestyles and to make people accept they need to see that and think: this person is actually just like me, he or she is just different in his attractions.
3) coming out
The more we have people who are out, the more role models there are.
Those of us who dare to do so, need to come out. We will never make people accept when we stay invisible.
4) Find something to rally around
There is strength in numbers, so we need to unite. We can only unite if we have a common goal, something to rally around. What is it that we want?
5) marketing
We have to sell the idea that being bi is ok. We will not convince people if they do not hear from us. We have to out bisexuality as something that is ok.
Because everybody thinks it's all about sex, it should be easy to get people interested (sex sells). We need a good, positive, story to tell people. What story are we going to tell? What should be the slogan?
6 - 10) everything I forgot
I probably have forgotten some things so I hope people will contribute
So if you have anything to contribute to any of the above points, please do!
I look forward to your posts,
Peter
This thread is inspired by a thread called Bisexuals are more needy,
started by Bibiologist, who wanted (a.o.) more scientiffic insight into who we are, beacuse he thinks it will make society more accepting
He also feels that some more scientific understanding about what bisexuality is will help in that. And I feel that he's right. This might not help to convince everybody, but it will help convince some and it's an important part of the process, but not all of it.
So what is needed to convine people that being bi is ok?
The things that I feel are needed are:
1) the science
Bibiologist suggested that being monogamous is a bit like a pair of shoes that doesn't quite fit (for a full illustration, see his thread). Is monogamy for a bisexual basically being half celibate? I really want to know. I have strong morals, but I don't expect myself to be celibate, also not half-celibate, nor do I think society expects it of me.
But perhaps being bi is not so much not fitting one pair of shoes. Perhaps it's more like needing a pair with a very particular fit?
So is it needing two different shoes, or just a very particular pair? Could I be happy with a woman who has some masculine character traits, perhaps, or a man more feminine traits? I can find that out for me myself, but to have arguments to convince society, science is needed.
What are the important scientific questions to answer?
2) getting rid of the stereotypes.
I think the best way to get rid of the sstereotypes is to have role-models. Well known people that people know that have come out as bi.
E.g., when I outed myself to my mom, part of what made her accept it is that she knows and likes a TV personality named Jos Brink who is gay, a pastor in church and who has been having a steady boyfriend for years and years. Thank you Jos Brink. Unfortunately he is gay and I am bi and I know of no one who is bi that my parents could like.
Bisexual people choose different lifestyles and to make people accept they need to see that and think: this person is actually just like me, he or she is just different in his attractions.
3) coming out
The more we have people who are out, the more role models there are.
Those of us who dare to do so, need to come out. We will never make people accept when we stay invisible.
4) Find something to rally around
There is strength in numbers, so we need to unite. We can only unite if we have a common goal, something to rally around. What is it that we want?
5) marketing
We have to sell the idea that being bi is ok. We will not convince people if they do not hear from us. We have to out bisexuality as something that is ok.
Because everybody thinks it's all about sex, it should be easy to get people interested (sex sells). We need a good, positive, story to tell people. What story are we going to tell? What should be the slogan?
6 - 10) everything I forgot
I probably have forgotten some things so I hope people will contribute
So if you have anything to contribute to any of the above points, please do!
I look forward to your posts,
Peter