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JessyRee
Aug 16, 2009, 11:58 AM
I was reading that bisexuality is becoming the new "in" thing but I cant seem to find a single other Bi person anywhere near where I live.When did it become so popular and how many are now on the bandwagon?..I only recently came out but have known I was bi since 1998.At least thats when puberty really kicked my butt and I had my first Bi experience.Is this just hollywood hyping it all up or are we really everywhere?Sure would be nice to meet someone in my area that was also bi and proud and not just doing the "in" thing.

Realist
Aug 16, 2009, 12:06 PM
Jesse, I lived in Pennsylvania, in the center of the state, for 10 years. I never met one other bi, or gay person the whole time. I've heard that on both ends of the state it was common, but not in the Bible-belt of Pa!

I'll bet you living in the wrong area. I hope you find a nice person you can relate to, soon. It's not good being alone.

AlBaresAll
Aug 16, 2009, 12:37 PM
I was reading that bisexuality is becoming the new "in" thing but I cant seem to find a single other Bi person anywhere near where I live.When did it become so popular and how many are now on the bandwagon?..I only recently came out but have known I was bi since 1998.At least thats when puberty really kicked my butt and I had my first Bi experience.Is this just hollywood hyping it all up or are we really everywhere?Sure would be nice to meet someone in my area that was also bi and proud and not just doing the "in" thing.

Hey Jessy, I know where you are coming from. I too am in Michigan and it seems as though most bi's ( the ones that go out and hookup) are on the west side of state. In the Flint area most are just players and pic hunters and will not commit to a meeting. If you are close maybe we could hookup and try and find a good place to find other like minded people.

ken-bi
Aug 16, 2009, 1:01 PM
I too often hear and read the same. I hope that this web site and comunication system can help us all meet each other. I often see other people in my daily life and think "I would love to be with him, her, or them. During the daily life, the path to connection is a hard road to walk, often filled with rejection and disappointment. I have only started to use this site and view it as a way to to meet without any fear of that initial shock and put-down.

Bi_Druid
Aug 16, 2009, 1:06 PM
For a long time I was the only bi I actually knew, until I moved to Brighton and tracked down the Brighton Bothways lot via facebook. Now I've since made many new bi friends and met a lot of new bi acquaintances.

DiamondDog
Aug 16, 2009, 3:29 PM
Jesse, I lived in Pennsylvania, in the center of the state, for 10 years. I never met one other bi, or gay person the whole time. I've heard that on both ends of the state it was common, but not in the Bible-belt of Pa!

I'll bet you living in the wrong area. I hope you find a nice person you can relate to, soon. It's not good being alone.

Realist-You must have been very closeted or have very bad gaydar/bidar, if you did not meet any other bisexual or gay or Lesbian people while living in central PA.

I know it's a rural area but c'mon it's not that bad and it's a total myth that life in rural areas for GLBT people is a living hell.

I know that urban GLBT people like to think that every single GLBT person in a rural area is a Matthew Shepherd or a Teena Brandon just waiting to happen but that's far from the truth.

I lived in rural central PA too and I can say that I met more GLBT people there than I have living in or near big cities and I was out as a queer man there and it was not a problem at all.

I can't say that it was the same for living both in and near a big city. I never got bashed in rural central PA and nobody would roll their eyes or make comments when I kissed a man in public in rural central PA unlike when I've lived in and around big cities.

I have friends who are gay/bisexual men and they're from rural central PA and many of them have been out for decades and have never had problems either.

Jessy-Go out and meet people, new people, and meet face to face.

I know internet dating is all the rage and in vogue now but just be out and honest about who you are and you will meet lots of gay, lesbian, and bisexual people, and it's a lot better than just sitting online and having to deal with all the flakes, players, fake people, and mind games that people play when it comes to meeting online to date someone.

southerncpl
Aug 16, 2009, 7:42 PM
We live in a rural area of MO and have alot of trouble finding ppl that actually want to meet. Its very difficult for either of us to be out bc of not only our families but also bc of work. Its seems like its easier to find ppl in larger cities. We see alot of ads for ppl in Memphis or St Louis but not many much closer. And those that are seem to only want to talk and not hook up.

fredtyg
Aug 17, 2009, 1:38 PM
I realize internet dating and hook- ups are frowned upon by some but you might give Craigslist a try. I've came close with at least one guy I met through Craigslist to finding what I thought could of been a longer term relationship. I'll have to say I'm one of those nervous types that often backs out of a meeting when it looks like it's gonna happen but I have followed through with a few and they weren't bad.

The one I thought might have been a good longer term relationship contacted me when I placed an ad one night titled "Free blow jobs in Eureka", and I advertised that I'd suck and swallow anyone that wanted to come by my house. Had a number of responses and sucked on a few, but one guy stood out.

He was in his 30s, married and bisexual. He told me him and his wife have a great sexual relationship and that she'd even use a strap- on on him. But he liked a "little dessert" after his wife, so he answered my ad.

He was pretty neat. He wondered if I had any porno to watch, had me suck him off and then use my fingers and dong on his ass. It was interesting sticking my fingers up him because I could swear the ass was wider where his wife's strap- on went in. Pretty neat and he enjoyed my dong. If I could of gotten it up, I think we would have gone all the way with anal sex.

Anyway, I thought maybe I'd found the perfect guy. The next day he even came by wanting more. The problem was, it was the middle of the day and I didn't know who might be stopping by so I declined for the moment. He never contacted me after that.

Met some other good guys through Craigslist, too, although there are a number of flakes out there, too. Give Craigslist a try.

You've actually given me another idea for a story to write. I'll start working on that one soon.

jem_is_bi
Aug 17, 2009, 4:41 PM
I am a bisexual that lives in Michigan. I meet my bisexual male partner on a pay website after 6 months of false starts and poor matches. 4ys later all is going better than ever. So, I am not searching for a sex partner.
I know it would be somewhat awkward, but I would be happy to get together with other bisexuals that share common interests and activities with me, other than sex.
Otherwise, my advice is to conduct an aggressive, controlled search for bisexual friends rather than wait passively to be discovered. In Michigan, you are more likely to be discovered by those that should know nothing about you rather than another bisexual.

roy m cox
Aug 18, 2009, 1:16 AM
So where are they all not telling lol
i met 3 bis in Michigan 1 male and 2 females dated them each one of them and had fun sex with 2 of them their out their just keep looking im trying to find a bi girl friend right now that will not mind me having a boy friend that is gay i an 100% bisexual and he wants me to be happy so i am looking ,,

i hope you'll find some one or two that you are looking for good luck my friend


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