What am I suppose to say other than IDK?

[naughty'BI'chick]

My really close friend has come to me for advice and I really don't know what to say to her.
She says that she loves her boyfriend very much but feels as if she's more interested in women more than ever. Like she's got alot of interest in her boyfriend but thinks she might be getting more interested in women suddenly.
That's the best I can state it.
Could I get some advice? At least than maybe I can think of what to say other than "I don't know" because she's really in a bind.

Whoever reads this and at least gives me a little advice, thank you very much.

[fredtyg]

Maybe ask her if she's considered telling the boyfriend of her feelings? Maybe he'll give her enough space to play around with women and see how see ends up liking it. Maybe he'll want to watch or take part? Would that satisfy her or does she not want him to be part of her girl thing?

Might she be interested in you and that's why she's asking this? I mention that because I mentioned a same thing to someone once, hoping we could have a relationship.

[Realist]

When asked for advice, I usually sit down with the person and ask them what do they REALLY want to do? Make them think about it seriously, look deep within themselves.

If you come up with the answer, and if it doesn't turn out as she hopes, she could blame you for giving her poor advice! But, if you ASSIST her in making the right decision for her, it may be better.

She may be staying with her BF because of old times sake, or maybe it's too hard to tell him how she really feels. In the long run, honesty should be the best answer. As long as she's feeling that craving, it will never get better until she gives in to it.

And, just like was said above, in a round about way, she may be trying to get you to be her lover, too!

[naughty'BI'chick]

Forgot to mention that's she's bisexual and her boyfriend knows.
Thanks for the suggestions. I'm gonna see what anyone else says for I decide what to say/suggest to her

[fredtyg]

In the long run, honesty should be the best answer. As long as she's feeling that craving, it will never get better until she gives in to it.
And, just like was said above, in a round about way, she may be trying to get you to be her lover, too!

Good point. A good question to ask is if she thinks she's so interested in women that she might regret no following that interest in the future. I'm sure there are any number of people that have ended up trapped in relationships- both short and long term- that they might have wished ended sooner because they weren't honest with themselves as to what they really wanted.

So, she needs to figure out what she really wants. Does she want to explore a lesbian relation for a while, to see if that's what she is. Does she just want a female sex partner, or a gal to make the third in a threesome with her boyfriend?

Sounds to me, when you write, "She's more interested in women than ever..", that she might be wanting to try a strictly lesbian relationship now. Either that, or she might be trying to see if you want to fool around. She needs to figure that out, though, but you can help her by asking the right questions.