Anal Sex.

[Kinkybiguy7]

I have a question for anyone willing to answer. When a person gets fucked in the ass and his/her anus gets stretched out, does it tighten up after time for is it like that for good?

[Downsman]

Suppose the end result depends on a few things, such as how wide was it stretched, how deep was it stretched and for how long was it kept stretched open . Muscles are very flexible and with care will allow you to open up wide without staying that way, although from experience they don't resist so much after the first few times.

[berryhard]

ive never had the joy of a big cock in my ass but i have used toys, various sizes, some pretty big. some pretty deep. usually very often ! i have never had a problem with my anus coming back to normal in a short time. lub is the key. lots of it.

[treemutt]

It will go back to normal in a cpl. of hrs.,but the next time it will be easier to stretch open.Thats what I have found in the few yrs I have been a bottom.Matter of fact I took my buddies 8.5" cock today & mine is back to normal although just a little sore.

[fairbankswingers]

well, I have had my wife's entire hand in my ass...and have taken her strap-on and a couple of friend's cocks and I have no issues...still tight, and not some gping hole that is lose...

[Bonezs]

It depends the person's muscle elasticity. My ass has been ripped by fists, toys and cocks and I still have trouble taking an average cock when I don't have anal for a while. My last anal was a smaller size and I felt like I was being ripped apart in the beginning till I got comfortable and he just drilled me while I was begging for harder. That was a week ago and I can barely get my toy up there again.

[rissababynta]

In most cases it will go back to normal, no problems. However, there are the people, like porn stars, who do it so regularly that it doesn't quite get as tight at it used to be lol.

By the way, I am fascinated with the things that people ask on these forums. This is the kind of stuff I'd be like "google, you are my best friend today" lol.

[bi4asplay]

I have been taking toys a cocks, mostly toys for about 40 years It I have my big toy(9in) in me today, I have to lube good and work a med butt plug in tomorrow. Now if a lady with a strap on is really into pegging me and goes for a long time it can take me a until the next day. to go back to normal. With my big toy it takes 30 min or longer before I can take it all.

[ErosUrge]

The fear of my hole staying stretched and all the horror stories of people in porn losing it there did nothing to encourage me to want to indulge in anal...

I'm glad to say now that those fears didn't prevent me from eventually enjoying it. I've never had a problem but as others have pointed out, it can be sore for awhile. And you can do some real damage. Make sure those who are going to top you are patient and willing to allow you the time to adjust if you need it....and of course always always always use lots of lube as is necessary....what's really amazing is when you finally have that moment where you're so turned on before anyone enters you that when it happens, he just slides in without any discomfort and you gasp in total ecstasy to the sensation of it...that's some kind of wonderful moment!

[ready5858]

Mine has always returned back to prior cock status regardless of how big, how often, the real thing, latex or other object used in a pinch.

[Silver1]

Mine always returns to normal tight. I keep it lubed up good!

[innaminka]

Purely from personal experience, my botty works fine and appears to be just as tight/flexible as ever.
During my marriage i had regular anal sex (maybe once a month on average) for 20 years (with the odd little outside flirtation) and now I'm re-partnered, that average is still pretty right.
I know that porn stars have tales of horror, but by all accounts, porn procedures are way different and far more prolonged per session that what "normal" folk seem to do.

Also, in all those encounters, I never ever had an enema of any description: I always just trusted to good internal health. Porn-stars have massive enemas. Connection? i don't know.

[funwithbiguys]

Your ass will return to normal, the reason it feels stretched is you know what to expect and are much more relaxed which allows a nice hard cock to enter without the thought of pain. My regular bud sometimes bends me over and rapes my ass and it just slides right in.

[mattsbutt]

I only have had average cock size dildos in me (no real cock yet). Its easier to fuck myself with them now compared to when i first got them, but i still seem to have a nice tight hole when i clench it shut....i would say just dont go too big and too often if you are worried about it. Start with an anal trainer kit if you want to work up to average cock size slowly.

sasha grey and the other "anal acrobats" must have some issues by now....i wonder.

[onesucker4u]

Yes,mine goes back to virgin tight. There was a peiod where I was using ever larger dildos and then quit for a while. Now I only enjoy the little skinny one.

[amorous945]

Unless you damage the muscle by some form of forceful, violent or reckless behavior, it's not going to stay stretched out. The idea that frequent anal sex causes incontinence is a myth. I have been having anal sex with my wife for well over 20 years on a regular basis, and her anus is just a tight as ever. What "usually" does happen is a person learns to relax, making anal sex easier, but this is a mental state and has nothing to do with being stretched out.

[Realist]

As an older male, I'm interested in any remedy for minor, or severe ED.

A bisexual friend, who is a couple of years older than me, said that using a vibrator to anally stimulate himself, it has helped him regain some of his erectile abilities. In the beginning, he did it just to see if the vibrator up his anus and against his prostate gland, would create an orgasm....and it did! Later, he noticed his erections getting firmer and was able to have intercourse with much less effort.

Never being a big fan of receiving anal sex, I've wondered if anyone has ever tried a vibrating dildo and got the same kind of results? If there's a chance it'd work, I'll try it!

[willi]

Realist, I have to have Aneros in to be stiff enough for sex. Without, it just almost never works. I get completely stiff when one of the Men is doing it in my ass.

My first time it was almost impossible to get in. Now it just goes in easily. It is definitely easier to go in when I have had it a lot.

[ErosUrge]

I've been having discussions with certain male and female friends about anal sex a lot as of late. So it's great to see it happening here as well. I've spent a lot more time in discussion about it than ever before because of the fact that I bought in for most of my adult life to the misinformation about anal sex. Since my first experiences with it were so negative and painful, it was easy for me to believe in what some would say whether in conversations or in articles that I'd read. And the one very positive and enjoyable encounter I had receiving it during those first negative experiences, I somehow thought that maybe I'd imagined it...and because of the negative experiences, I not only refused to indulge in such play but became very vocal in my opposition to the act; saying such things as: "It's un-natural and it's filthy", "People who indulge that way are just gluttons for punishment", "Well if you like pain, then be my guest", "Nature did not intend for the asshole to be used for pleasure; it's purpose is for elimination." and when hearing about some people being stretched out, "well, that's what happens when you indulge in things that are un-natural" etc etc etc etc...

What I'm getting at is that it is so easy to take information about someone who did get stretched out or had massive damage (which aren't common), and then turn it around as though that is what will happen to you or to anyone or to the majority of those who indulge in this kind of activity. Anal sex was perceived as a negative for so very long because people bought into the misinformation that distorted real information. What is so dangerous (and it happens all the time with other topics too) is when certain people can manipulate information and do so to serve their own aim to disrupt something they are at odds with. Everyone can have their opinion and base that opinion on the experience; positive or negative. Regretfully, for years I opposed anal sex because of my first negative experiences. I had no idea what kind of real pleasure was possible from it at that time. I am very pleased that all changed as I learned how it is in fact an area not only capable of such great sexual pleasure but fully functional that way too. Considering the proximity to our genitalia, it makes all the more sense. And most people don't realize that when they reach orgasm, the entire area is responding as those ripples of pleasure spill out in all directions and into the anal area too during their orgasm...

Yes, anal was taboo. For those of us who are older, it isn't that difficult to remember how once oral sex was taboo. And if we buy into the idea that anal sex is un-natural, then wouldn't it follow that oral sex is too? I mean, the mouth is just for the consumption of food and drink and communication; right? Well, the majority of people now don't agree with that view anymore, do they?...

Once we move beyond what is hearsay and are willing to challenge even our own perceptions and beliefs regardless of experience, we possibly get closer to what is reality. I understand that anal sex isn't for everyone. And I respect anyone's choice to not indulge that way or to even explore. For me, it opened up (pun unavoidable) a whole new dimension and enjoyment of sensuality and sexuality. There was a time it most definitely wasn't for me. But sometimes we are able to move beyond set beliefs and perceptions that open up a whole new world of possibilities.

[Gearbox]

"Nature did not intend for the asshole to be used for pleasure; it's purpose is for elimination."
I know you're just reminiscing old opinions there, but it does make you wonder if males were 'given' the prostrate to give them pleasure.:tongue:
What an odd place to put a 'pleasure center' in a male. Surely 'God', evolution or whatever....wasn't thinking in very heterosexual terms to inspire THAT little feature?lol
I don't think that cave women knew about strap-ons in those days or had much insight into fisting etc. But dogs and other animals do seem to like a bit of rimming, so maybe that went on in the secrecy of the cave back then too? And maybe it led to some m-m bum fun?:tongue:

Well whatever it's origin, those man chuffs really do seem to be designed for cock pleasure these days, and God bless that.:bowdown:

[cornholejoe]

have all ways stayed tight and i have took some good size ones in this ass

[ErosUrge]

I know you're just reminiscing old opinions there, but it does make you wonder if males were 'given' the prostrate to give them pleasure.:tongue:
What an odd place to put a 'pleasure center' in a male. Surely 'God', evolution or whatever....wasn't thinking in very heterosexual terms to inspire THAT little feature?lol
I don't think that cave women knew about strap-ons in those days or had much insight into fisting etc. But dogs and other animals do seem to like a bit of rimming, so maybe that went on in the secrecy of the cave back then too? And maybe it led to some m-m bum fun?:tongue:

Well whatever it's origin, those man chuffs really do seem to be designed for cock pleasure these days, and God bless that.:bowdown:

There was a time Gear when I knew nothing about the prostate. I didn't even know men had one or what it's function was. I didn't learn there was one until only 15 years ago; it was then things changed for me. I had mistakenly thought that all seminal fluid came from the balls and the balls only as did many young men and some still do. And had you told me that the prostate was the reason why men enjoyed anal sex so much, I probably wouldn't have believed since my first experiences had been only painful. I was essentially raped though I didn't call it that then. I really wanted to impress those that had their way with me...they certainly got their fill while I only felt pain and didn't understand that pleasure was possible there...of course I was merely a teen at 18 and 19 when this all happened. When I tried topping with my first wife, she immediately screamed and pulled away for me to slip out...no other woman did I ever try with again in those years. I didn't experience anal topping with a woman again until just 10 years ago...and she enjoyed it.

Anyhow, in those years, there was no one that really ever tried to explain how pleasure was possible. When I did learn of the prostate, then it all made better sense. But it didn't explain why women indulged and enjoyed it themselves. It was through talking with women of course; some lovers and some not. But those that did do anal and enjoyed it explained to me why they liked it so much....

Cave man days?? Women and strap ons?....well, there were fingers, tongues, probably some kind of fruit or vegetable; were there cucumbers then? or zucchini, carrots?...all would have done the job......:tongue:

Man chuffs designed for cock pleasure these days??? amen brotha, amen! :impleased

[Lynn731]

It's all good. I started fucking with my best friend when I was 15. Once I did it, I loved it. I was doing it with the 14 y.o. kid across the street, too. He loved it so much he was doing it with another kid and me. I have loved it ever since. Later I learned oral and I love that too. I am very versatile. If it feels good, I like it.

[twoforone16]

I have been taking cock in my ass for over 50 years it always closes back up tight

[curious44]

My experience has been the same as twoforone16. Been taking it up the chute and loving it for as long as I can remember. With the exception of having to deal with prostate cancer about 7 years ago, everything still works fine and it's just as erotic and enjoyable today as it was years ago.

[Gearbox]

There was a time Gear when I knew nothing about the prostate. I didn't even know men had one or what it's function was. I didn't learn there was one until only 15 years ago; it was then things changed for me. I had mistakenly thought that all seminal fluid came from the balls and the balls only as did many young men and some still do. And had you told me that the prostate was the reason why men enjoyed anal sex so much, I probably wouldn't have believed since my first experiences had been only painful. I was essentially raped though I didn't call it that then. I really wanted to impress those that had their way with me...they certainly got their fill while I only felt pain and didn't understand that pleasure was possible there...of course I was merely a teen at 18 and 19 when this all happened. When I tried topping with my first wife, she immediately screamed and pulled away for me to slip out...no other woman did I ever try with again in those years. I didn't experience anal topping with a woman again until just 10 years ago...and she enjoyed it.

Anyhow, in those years, there was no one that really ever tried to explain how pleasure was possible. When I did learn of the prostate, then it all made better sense. But it didn't explain why women indulged and enjoyed it themselves. It was through talking with women of course; some lovers and some not. But those that did do anal and enjoyed it explained to me why they liked it so much....

Cave man days?? Women and strap ons?....well, there were fingers, tongues, probably some kind of fruit or vegetable; were there cucumbers then? or zucchini, carrots?...all would have done the job......:tongue:

Man chuffs designed for cock pleasure these days??? amen brotha, amen! :impleased
I still don't know why some women enjoy anal sex. I've heard how the vagina can sense the penis inside the anus as it rubs etc, but to me...isn't that just a poor substitute for vaginal sex?:confused:
No woman has let me have anal sex with them, so cant ask why they enjoy it, if they did.lol What did they tell you?

Like you, my attempts at receiving anal was pretty much as you describe, if you mean that it felt like rape and not actual rape?
Got no iota of anything resembling pleasure from it in any way. Just pain and the feeling of 'WRONG!' & 'ABUSE!' from it. Not sexy! Horrific!!:eek2:
So I wondered "What's gone wrong there? I've got a pleasure center prostrate, so why no pleasure?".
I've got a VERY long list of possible reasons, but don't really know why, other than I just don't like it. That's rarely enough for me.lol
So would be grateful to here why some women like it.:)

I didn't think about those 'naughty' vegetables back in the cave days.lol

[Meliss]

After a toy or a lubed finger I sometime feel a sensation afterwards,, maybe even the same day or after a few days that is almost like an itch... Almost like it craves the sensation and is asking for more.

[12voltman59]

I have had a thought of late regarding men engaging in anal sex----I have found it to be something that is really incredible and enjoyable to experience--and I am glad that I got back to doing it this late in life after having not done it since my 20s.

I know that talking to many men over the years---many of them have a longing to do something--ANYTHING with another man., which can range from merely getting their hands on another guy's cock, to sucking cock, or being on the receiving end of anal sex---but for whatever reason----will never come to allow themselves to experience any of these things--especially anal--since it really is such a wonderful thing to experience.

So many men have gone and will continue to go to their graves, with an aching desire to know what it is to have anal sex with another guy--but never will.

I think that is a very sad thing.

If I never get to be on the receiving end of anal sex again---well---at least I did it some---and am so glad that I have had opportunity to do it.


I'd surely say to anyone who really thinks that they want to do it----it might take time--if you are rather inexperienced with being with other guys in general---take the time to do that and work towards finding someone who can take you to that next step----I think it will be worth it for you---good luck to those at that stage.