Why Do Women Find Two Men Have Sex With One Another A Turn Off? [Archive]

csrakate

Jul 10, 2009, 10:06 PM

You just haven't asked the right woman. I think you'll find that many women find it a turn on, especially when they are more open minded about sex in general. And don't forget, some women don't always feel comfortable admitting some things.

Just my:2cents:
Kate

boca.openminded

Jul 10, 2009, 10:24 PM

If you ask a woman how does she feel about two men having sex with one another they get turn off. But if you ask them how they feel about two women having sex with one another a lot would say its a turn on.

its the hair and too masculine where they are turned on by watching 2 women because its more soft...

I also think 95% of women are bi or bi curious where the % is much much less for men...

LOL

ps: or they are intimidated by men because they do not have a penis..

csrakate

Jul 10, 2009, 10:39 PM

ps: or they are intimidated by men because they do not have a penis..

I hope you meant this as a joke....not that "penis envy" thing again LOL!

TaylorMade

Jul 10, 2009, 10:40 PM

I'm only grossed out if they are really unattractive or just... kinda gross. Another if they are not interested in throwing a vagina in the mix, wether rhetorically or actually.

Example one: Two guys are flirting with me as I take their picture, they're drunk so I say, if ya'll were chicks I'd SO want to see you make out.

To my surprise, they do.

<SQUISH!>

Example two: I'm kinda wasted, I need to pee and I'm blocked by two sweaty, just as drunk as me gay guys making out. I ask them to move, they look at me and then proceed.

<_<

If I end up wet, it's because I didn't make it to the lavatory.

*Taylor*

littlerayofsunshine

Jul 10, 2009, 11:19 PM

I get turned on my two men, granted that they allow female involved..

I get turned on by two women, if I am number two or three to join..

I know women that only get turned on by male female..

I know women who get turned on by vegetables....

I know women who get turned on by green stuff that falls out of wallets....

I know women that get turned on by good sincere conversation.....

women who get turned out cause the trash was put in the outside can...

Now after going through all that and thinking of the many more possibilities... I think you just need to listen to the women on what turns them on if you are worried about their pleasure.. That's what I have done and I haven't ever had any complaints.

There are lots of different kinds of women, you can't fit us in a little teeny box... that just makes us angry....

Realist

Jul 10, 2009, 11:33 PM

Rutland, maybe you're not asking the right ladies, or the right questions. Years ago, I lived with a friend and his wife. She was very turned on by her husband making out with me, or interacting sexually with me. He had only thought about it and talked to her about it, but when we actually began to get it on with each other, she was totally fired up over it. Sometimes it was all the both of us could do to sate her, after she'd been watching us! What a great time we had!

I know not every lady would be into it, but enough of them are that you're bound to find one, if you keep looking.

M. Wolfe

Jul 11, 2009, 12:02 AM

I had a long conversation about this very issue with a few of my (straight) female friends who were not into seeing guy-on-guy action.

They said that they found it odd that guys were so into girl-on-girl action. I've always reckoned that it was because most guys don't want to see some other guy and his junk in the way of the chick, so putting two chicks together seems only sensible. I like g/g stuff, but I'm more into the Sappho Erotica stuff where there is some intimacy. That's also true of me on m/m stuff.

But I think now the typical male thing for g/g stuff is more a cultural thing that we willingly bend to. It's expected that a guy should like g/g stuff and so we do. That pressure is not there for girls to like m/m stuff and they don't. In reality there is more pressure on girls to sexually interact with each other - because that's what the guys want.

Cherokee_Mountaincat

Jul 11, 2009, 1:40 AM

Who Says we're not turned on?? Many of us Are..Many of us love to watch two men together just as much as watching two women together. Its like Okra...its an aquired taste...lmao. ;)
Silly Cat:bigrin:

NEPHX

Jul 11, 2009, 6:14 AM

If you ask a woman how does she feel about two men having sex with one another they get turn off. But if you ask them how they feel about two women having sex with one another a lot would say its a turn on.

Well.. come'on Rut,

1. You're just not talkin to the right women.

2. You live in Connecticut nuf said... :rolleyes:

3. Another reality is that until very recently, men have never been "sensualized/sexualized" together in the media. NOW, that's finally happening.

4.Then there is the whole stereotype of masculinity and the built-in human instinct to mate with the biggest, strongest male (nature calls) and lets face it, when someone not involved with the LGBT side of life thinks of a gay male (they don't even "see" bisexual), they think Bruno not a hot muscular athletic guy!

5. Lets not forget about the right-wing religious zealots and politicians that tell everyone how wrong it is to be being not straight. Usually, they are more likely to be persecuting the males (while the same male zealots are "doing" each other and everyone else in the rest rooms of the world).

After returning this evening from the house of the couple I date, I can guarantee you there are women that are WAAAAAAAAAAY turned-on by men being sensual and sexual with each other.

onewhocares

Jul 11, 2009, 11:05 AM

I must agree with Kate and Cat....you may not be asking the right woman. I can tell you MY experiences.

I am the straight wife of a bi leaning more gay man from Boston. Until coming to this site I never physically saw two men together. I did enjoy watching two men on film. When we arrived at this site, it was for the most part to find a friend with benefits for him. I never really thought about getting involved ( never thought another man would want to get involved with a six foot tall chubby blonde---turns out I was SO wrong) but I was along for the ride. Skip ahead a while...when the time came for me to watch and then eventually see hubby with another man it was such a turn on. I have found over the past few years that for me it is so incredibly erotic to see two men, men of all shapes and sizes meld together in each other arms. From gentle first kisses to passionate embraces...to the eventual shear arousal when I see them have sex....Bodies entwined, beads of sweat cresting on the small of their back, the tantalizing scent of male bodies pheromones gone wild....all this can be too much for THIS woman to handle. You can often find me watching enviously from the sidelines, alive with desire to participate and moist within my loins. Oops...got to go...this is driving me wild.

So...to answer your question there ARE women who love to watch men! Count me one of them.

Belle

Lateralus

Jul 11, 2009, 11:31 AM

I'm not sure. My ex fiancee and myshelf had an old bf of mine over for dinner.
Seared Ahi over spring mix with a wasabi vinaigrette to set the mood.
Naturally, a proper vino was in there somewhere.
At some point I was giving him head and looked over to see her masturbating playfully with a little facial expression befitting a proper tramp. It almost killed the moment for him (full blown gay), but I continued to maniacally suck him off. I refused to let the environmental factors ruin the moment. It was hot, and we all grew a bit as people. However profound the effect was?

Bah. Contextual bullshit.

It was that intangible something in one of it's abundantly inexplicable forms.
When all one can say is 'It is what it is'.

Now do you take me seriously? :tong:

Lmao! Priceless... But yeah it really comes down to the individual. I remember my mom telling me about a friend of hers that liked to watch gay porn. And I had a friend that was really into Yaoi/Shonenai anime.

Herbwoman39

Jul 11, 2009, 2:49 PM

I've got to agree with the other ladies. You're just not talking to the right women. Two men together is VERY hot. Especially when they make noise!
That's the big turn-on for me. In straight porn the guys almost never make a sound and that's just so BORING.

Gay porn, you get two hot men together making noise and I am ALL over it.

SomersetBiGuy

Jul 11, 2009, 3:05 PM

Well I find the opposite.. I have female friends who love to see me get fucked by guys.. They seem to get so turned on by watching..If anything I would like them to go with women as that would be a turn on for me, but they arent too interested..:tongue:

dickhand

Jul 11, 2009, 3:32 PM

I have to agree with the majority . You are not asking the right women . The ones I have sex with are turned on seeing two guys together and enjoy doing the nasty with a couple of bi-guys over a couple of straight guys anytime .

footlady

Jul 11, 2009, 3:43 PM

i don't know. maybe you're not hearing what she is saying; as for myself, i love watching two dudes make out...but it's always nicer if we're in the picture too..most dudes don't invite us in, in my opinion that is..((xxo)):

'we see what we believe'...osia

tonizila

Jul 11, 2009, 11:06 PM

Depends on who you ask. would love to join if we were invited. we wouldn't want to be left out, would we?

Jackal

Jul 12, 2009, 1:31 AM

I like it if they look like they're having a good time and if they're somewhat interested in females. Otherwise I feel like a pervert intruding on their privacy. I'm not that interested in if there is anal insertion because it isn't something I'm really into, so watching other people do it hardly gets me going. Helps if they're my kind of men too. Ask the right people and you'll get the answer you want.

welickit

Jul 12, 2009, 10:59 AM

Mrs. Lickit has always enjoyed watching. She learned very, very young that watching was something that was a turn on for her. It started with just one guy who jerked off as she watched. From there it went to two or more guys and finally years later her joining in. For a period of time watching porn was satisfactory but she bi far prefers a live show. She has often said she would never marry a guy who wasn't bisexual.
I guess we have to join the ranks of those who say you are either asking the wrong women or you are going about asking wrong.
Good Luck in your search.

diB4u

Jul 12, 2009, 11:55 AM

:tongue:I agree you've not asked the right women.

I find two men together to be a beautiful act,- but i've not been asked to participate. Even just to watch would be worth while.

God if you belive that or not gave men to have a prostate for a reason hon.:tongue:

DiamondDog

Jul 13, 2009, 4:45 AM

Not everyone is into the same things sexually.

I get highly turned on by having/watching/reading about gay male sex (sex involving all men or only men), and having/watching/doing bisexual sex (sex with both genders like a MMF 3 way), but reading and seeing Lesbian sex (sex involving only women) does nothing for me and it's boring to me. Vanilla heterosexual sex between a man and a woman is not really my thing either. ;)

As far as why some men who have sex with men do not ask women to even watch as a voyeur or join in, I can totally understand why gay men and even bisexual would not be interested in doing this and it is like how Lesbian/bisexual women must feel when a straight man wants to watch or join in on them having sex.

There's nothing wrong with 3 ways but not everyone likes them and nobody should be forced to do one if they do not want to or forced to do one just because their partner wants them to.

artsy girl

Jul 13, 2009, 10:38 AM

I can safely say i am a woman who does not enjoy seeing men together. Definitly not for me.. and if my husband had come to me and said he was bi.. i would be very turned off by the whole idea.
I don't mind thinking about 2 guys and a woman.. but very little involvment between the men.

That's just my 2 cents. arty girl

Realist

Jul 13, 2009, 11:17 AM

That's the way you feel and you're up front with it, so you are OK with me.

My first wife was also bi, but did not want me to be. It was her opinion that it was "natural" for women to be attracted to other women, because they are soft, smooth and have magnificent physical features. Women also, in her opinion, were better connected psychically, emotionally and spiritually..........which is certainly debatable.

Hell, I didn't care what she thought........ I loved her so much that I couldn't see straight. I rarely ever had a thought, or impulse, to be with another guy, or woman, while we were married. It would have been nice to have had that option, if it arose, but I didn't. However, I was happy for the most part.

chub-bi

Jul 13, 2009, 1:17 PM

The female half of the couple whom I have had a long time relationship with has no problem getting extremely aroused watching us kiss and caress and orally satisfy each other. However the few times we had anal in her presence
she made a point of telling us what a big turnoff watching us. Therefore we
would sneak in anal when she wasn't around.
It always interested me how she considers watching her husband and I kiss,
make out and use our hands and mouths on each other a huge turn on.
Yet she considers anal between us as unnatural.

CalanderGirl

Jul 13, 2009, 1:30 PM

I don't know, but I'm not one of them. I am, a diamond in the rough, or so I've been told. I actually find it a big turn on!

open2both

Jul 13, 2009, 1:53 PM

It's just how they're wired.
Different factory, different mindset.
Fortunately there are SOME exceptions!

brasilcouple

Jul 13, 2009, 2:35 PM

i guess the way that 2 men are show is more agressive. 2 women is always a soft and nice thing, with romance and always with very girlie and hot girls.

2 men is not always two handsome guys, sometimes is very ugly persons who make a scene and the pics or movie are agressive, almost with no kisses or affection.

it´s hard to see a man showing affection without be girlish.

NjbiGuy01

Jul 26, 2009, 3:36 PM

One of my first experiences was a threesome with an old girlfriend. We were enjoying on another on her bed, and the friend we invited was getting sucked by her, as I gave it to her missionary style. Suddenly she says "I wanna see you suck his cock for me baby...". Well, I had played bi in HS (and she knew that), so I did it, as she licked his balls and just moaned "oh my God, this is amazing...". We later played with her topping me with a strap-on, while he and I sucked in a 69, and we also enjoyed oral, she sharing each of our cocks...with the remaining guy...

I've dated other bi girls, that despite their being bi, didn't dig guy-guy play...and the girl abov ?? not bi, nor curious.... go figure....Like anything; if everyone enjoys what's happening, it's great. If not, oh well....can't please everyone (how would you fit them all in your mouth ? lol):bigrin:.

onewhocares

Jul 26, 2009, 8:47 PM

void()

Jul 27, 2009, 7:23 AM

southerncpl

Jul 27, 2009, 8:24 AM

I have been checking into this thread every now and then. Correct me, if I am wrong or perceiving what is not presented...that there may be somewhat of a double standard. It seems that so many women, in particular, do not think it is odd to envision two women together, but when too men want to enjoy the passion that may exist it is not smiled upon. I wish I could understand why it is acceptable for two woman can be intimate...but even when participating in a threesome...the woman will play with each man individually, but the man may be off limits to each other. Does anyone else get this same impression?

Belle

I tend to agree that there is a double standard and it seems to be more socially acceptable for two women to be together. But then again I have to agree with many on here, many women don't feel this way. I am one of those, I think it is a big turn on to see two guys together. I have been in threesomes with my guy and another guy and I love to watch them make out and enjoy each other. I'm not left out by any means, but it is a very big turn on for me and I'm sure I can't be alone in that.

Realist

Jul 27, 2009, 10:32 AM

Southerncouple,

My GF is the same way, we haven't involved another person, but she would like to observe, or participate with a compatible fellow. We often have conversations that arouse her, when we talk about doing that.

Belle,

My first wife was the same way, she was bi, told me about it up front, and I was OK with it. She had an older female lover, with whom she visited now and then. To my knowledge, during our 5 1/2 year marriage, she had relationships with two others, her own age. I was never invited to observe, or participate and she didn't feel the need to share details with me.

Even though she was bi, she thought two guys having sex was an abomination! Two ladies, voluptuous, soft, pretty and delicious, were fine.

In fact, when we first discussed her bisexuality, I was thrilled to meet a kindred soul. Her feelings, quickly quelled the notion that I might do the same, though!

It was a moot question, though, because I loved her so much and was happy just to be with her. Her bisexuality never hindered our marriage and I never felt left-out, because of her need to be with the ladies.

At no time, during our marriage, did I feel the need to interact with another male. It would have been nice to have had an option of being with another, but it was not a problem for me.

footlady

Jul 27, 2009, 12:39 PM

I have heard this before. Just you bringing it up makes me yearn. I have always wanted to experience it. The closest
I have ever been to it, is watching my roommates kiss, and sit on top of one another. I so wanted to join, but i know how one of them feels, so I don't go there anymore. But, there are girls, and women who would love to partake in such an sexual or even if it's just the above; i guess both of us haven't found the partners yet. Well, so yah know you're not alone, good luck to you, (and me ). Just my thought...

HarryLong

Jul 27, 2009, 2:17 PM

Ok, I can't help it. This reminds me of the little boy whose parents were very poor. One year, they asked him what he wanted for Christmas. He thought for a moment and replied, "I wanna watch".. So, they let him.

Frankly, I think some of us are voyeurs and some of us aren't. I love to watch but for some reason, I never got that chance in real life, up close and personal. MF,MM, MFM, FF, FMF, FFMFTMMFFM. Oh, and I tend to like the porno that contains more affection and sexuality that is more realistic rather than fake porno sex. I'm just very visual. Some women who love sex don't even like porno. (Well, she says she doesn't until it shows up in front of her eyes and she starts to pant.)

Oh, the little boy wasn't me. I got a TIMEX.

onewhocares

Jul 27, 2009, 6:17 PM

I tend to agree that there is a double standard and it seems to be more socially acceptable for two women to be together. But then again I have to agree with many on here, many women don't feel this way. I am one of those, I think it is a big turn on to see two guys together. I have been in threesomes with my guy and another guy and I love to watch them make out and enjoy each other. I'm not left out by any means, but it is a very big turn on for me and I'm sure I can't be alone in that.

No...you are NOT alone. There are many women who indeed like to see their man with another...I am one of them!

Belle

mikey3000

Jul 27, 2009, 10:07 PM

Waltzing_Matilda

Jul 28, 2009, 8:35 AM

If you ask a woman how does she feel about two men having sex with one another they get turn off. But if you ask them how they feel about two women having sex with one another a lot would say its a turn on.

I also think that's a very general perspective. I know women that love to see the feminine side of men come out in their lovemaking...I think it's great that two members of the same sex can have that kind of love and respect of the human body, male or female. Maybe there aren't a lot of open minded people because they are afraid of what others may think if they express a desire to see two men. It's all in how comfortable you are in your own skin.

Personally, I think the human body is a pallete, to be painted in whatever landscape that eases your mind...it is not something to be ashamed of....it's a beautiful thing.

I spent way too many years being ashamed of what I had. Abuse does that to the young...but more recently have had a change....of heart...mind...acceptance. Being open minded frees the spirit.

:)

southerncpl

Jul 28, 2009, 2:46 PM

Wow,this is so great. My wife loves to watch two men together. Not to join in, but to just watch. She thought she was the only one for the longest time. She just read most of this thread and she is all smiles!!! Guess who's getting REAL lucky tonight?!?!?!

Thanks.

No, she's not alone. There are a few of us out there I a finding out. I've been on shybi and have found there are a few over there.

boca.openminded

Jul 30, 2009, 12:11 AM

I hope you meant this as a joke....not that "penis envy" thing again LOL!

joke = nope...

Its exactly what a female friend recently told me. She was wondering if her bf was having bi thoughts and that is what she told me. Yes, another penis envy thing but you have to admit it is very real!

poserpo

Aug 2, 2009, 6:14 AM

M. Wolfe

Aug 2, 2009, 8:20 AM

my fiancee loves the idea of 2 guys together, but hates the idea of 2 girls together

She's lucky to have you then, you're in a rather good spot to please her.

smartsexychick

Aug 2, 2009, 3:55 PM

Oh my God ! You are definitely not asking the right women. I have watched a lot of Falcon gay films and a lot of amateur gay films. While the Falcon films are aesthetically beautiful, watching two large, natural hairy men fuck and suck and enjoy each other in a way that is primal and unshamed -- it does not get any better. I can have nice, polite orgasms watching women together, but watching men together and knowing that eventually I will bear witness to that for real, the orgasms just tear from me like you can hear below.
__________________________

Cumming for My Precious Lover
http://www.literotica.com/audio/2009/sound_2009_07/tansy_cummingformypreciouslover.mp3

Realist

Aug 2, 2009, 4:25 PM

Every now and then, when my GF and I are making love, if we hit a little spell where she's seem like she's not quite there, yet, I will bring up a scenario of a 3-some. I'll tell her something about us and another fellow and she will go off into orbit almost immediately!

She also loves to think about interacting with a couple, or being caught with another lady, some guy we both know, or even masturbating....or catching me with either gender. She'd love it! Instead of getting mad, she'd join right in!

She's not quite as vociferous as the one on the tape, but she is a screamer at the end! At least, I never have to guess when she gets off!

roy m cox

Aug 2, 2009, 4:55 PM

my boyfriend wants me to find a woman that is BI like me tho he's 100 o/o
gay he wants me to be happy ,

im still looking for that girl tho all I've found is tho's that don't like sharing me with him thy all say EW you have a boy friend, i don't think thy are really BI just saying thy are i must be really weird cuzz i find it so hot and get supper turned on by seeing 2 women and one man or 2 men and one women or 2 men and 2 women or 4 women or 4 men having sexx :love::bibounce::tong::tong::tong:

sorry thou's women that don't like seeing men having sex thy must not be truly BI

bislander

Aug 2, 2009, 5:03 PM

The first person that I opened up to about myself was a girlfriend of a girl I knew that confessed her bisexuality to me one night after we had had sex. She'd had a relationship with our common friend for a while when they lived together in another state, and was still attracted to other women. It was a vulnerable moment for her to admit it to me, since neither of the girls were openly bi, and our friend had since gotten engaged to a guy. I was moved to confess (for the first time to anyone) that my first sexual experience was not with a girl, but with another boy in my neighborhood, and that while that was the only time I'd done anything like that I still found myself attracted to men from time to time. The look of disgust and disappointment on her face was obvious enough, but the fact that she stopped calling me shortly after that night told me that she wasn't turned on by my bi interests. I haven't told anyone since then, out of fear of running off women that I was attracted to. In fact, this post is the first time I've told anyone since then. Not that opening up anonymously to mostly anonymous people on the internet poses much risk of scarring :bigrin:

dodartist

Aug 2, 2009, 5:09 PM

I have seen both positive and negative reactions. When I had one of my first experiences with a threesome, the lady involved later told me she was "relieved not to have be the only one sucking cock" she said she often had a sore jaw from satisfying two guys all night. Most women have been fine with it. One long time friend's wife however, nearly freaked out of her mind when he went down on me. We had been together as a group a couple of times before that and she was fine with the male/male on female approach. It almost cost me a friendship. That is my only reason I can be timid at first without a site like this to lead me to individuals and couples who feel as I do. I now try to make certain everyone is comfortable with all aspects of each persons likes/dislikes. (by the way, the way my close friend and I solved the problem was to be with her until she had been wore out and then we played while she slept. he felt a little guilty, but the sex was fun and all three wanted to stay friends. she just did not know any more after the fisrt encounter)

bixm21

Aug 2, 2009, 10:21 PM

Women are individuals, not a hive mind, I know of plenty who enjoy the concept a lot!

dafydd

Aug 3, 2009, 7:51 AM

as a man...love having a woman join us for sex, but must be active participant not just watching which is actually totally unsexy...

bemyonlyone

Apr 27, 2010, 5:56 PM

Turn on.

Billys_gurl

Apr 27, 2010, 10:24 PM

I love watching men have sex, make love, however you want to say it. I also love seeing women do the same thing! I am not so much into straight sex. I put a video in one day and thought, "Not my thing anymore." I, also, don't have penis envy... much. I only wish I was a man one week a month! :bigrin: Does that count?

TwylaTwobits

Apr 27, 2010, 10:26 PM

No answer for the OP, but from all the responses....you can see some women don't :)

Jackal

Apr 28, 2010, 12:47 AM

Depends on the tone and the men involved but I'd say that I think it's a turn on over all. OP you're asking the wrong women. I'm not sure I would wanna watch in person, I wanna play. I do sometimes feel like a perv if I'm watching two homosexual males; I'm not wanted so I feel like I'm peeping or intruding.