I've fallen for my best friend, what do I do?

[Domino N]

Ok im sorry this will be quite long but I need some advice and I dont know who else to turn to.

Im bi but my best mate is straight. She just recently split from her boyfriend who she was really close with so she's kind of always looking for comfort. But recently when she comes round we watch films together and always end up wrapped in each others arms. The first time it happened was when I realised I was so attracted to her. I love holding her and we trace each others skin which is lovely but it never goes any further than that. I think that she just likes it for the comfort and being with me reminds her of being with her boyfriend.

But the other night we went to bed and she ended up in my arms again. And this sexual tension started building and it got really strong, it was driving me crazy and I didnt want to kiss her cause I knew it would upset her in the morning so I just sat up and she realised what was happening so she slept on the other side of the bed without saying anything to me. We talked about it afterwards and she kept saying that we should forget anything ever happened and move on :/

I just cant stop thinking about her and I love being with her. It seems she acts as if she wants me back and then just throws it back in my face. I don't know whether to tell her how I feel or just leave it or whether she does actually like me. Any advice would be soo appreciated
Thank you xx

[pasco_lol_cpl]

Well I there is always chloroform :tong:

Seriously though, you need to be honest with her and see how she reacts. Something tells me that she might not be all that horrified at the idea.

[meteast chick]

Tread softly, my friend. You've already opened the Pandora's Box, and she knows fully well it can't just be forgotten. At the same time, if that's the first step she's ever made in that direction, she's bound to be fighting temptation herself. Very few people want to admit same sex attraction or even the remote possibility they might be anything other than poker straight, so be patient. I know, easier said than done, but if you dive in and tell her how you feel you are lible to alienate her or scare her away for good.

Some time, when you are both cuddled up, tell her how you treasure those moments and that if she weren't straight how she'd be perfect for you. Something along those lines.

Just my :2cents:

Luv and kisses,
xoxoxoxoxoxox
meteast

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Maybe it bothered her because you found the comforting a bit sensual, and perhaps she liked it. Who knows until you ask, Sweetie? :}
Just go slow and easy and see where it leads you.
Cat

[Doggiestyle]

:bigrin: Well now Domino, the next time that you two are all snuggled up and enjoying it. You should give her a little peck of a kiss on the cheek, and say in a sensual, sorta quiet voice, something like this.

STOP THAT GRINNING & DROP THAT LINEN, CAUSE IT'S TIME WE START SIN -NIN. Maybe she'll catch on!!! :)

So thats all the "Dear Abbey" advice I got!!! Your friend, :doggie:

[robbie09]

Im bi but my best mate is straight.

How do you know she is straight? That you share a bed and wind up in each other's arms suggests possibly otherwise?

[jamieknyc]

Slow down, people. You all seem to be assuming that the straight friend wants it. More likely, she is freaked out by the sexual tension of the night.

[DiamondDog]

Just be friends with her and go on dates and find a bisexual or lesbian woman who actually does want you.

[hydropop]

Slow down, people. You all seem to be assuming that the straight friend wants it. More likely, she is freaked out by the sexual tension of the night.



Could it have ben put in a nicer way? Maybe she just thinks its great to have such a close friend.

Well put jamie.