Help I'm confused

[butterfly69]

Need advise! I am straight and my boyfriend just got out of a 7yr realtionship with a man that is 20yrs older than him and that basically likes to be up his butt 24/7, but he says he is not gay he is bi and he wants me not the xbf, but he shows sings to me that i'm just a cover up, but also i'm his first real gfriend that is why he doent really know what to do and when it comes to sex he doesnt ask and he says casue he is afraid that i will say no. I gets more complacated than that but i really dont want to get into that unless asked, should i have him take the gay quiz and see what that determinds, should i go on his word, or should i just let him go? Please advise and if u want to or need to know more to help message me! Thanks

[littlerayofsunshine]

Well with the information you have provided. I suggest having point blank conversations.. No need beating around the bush.... If you don't feel secure this soon. You might not ever.. Sounds like he may be confused and fakin it till he's makin it.

[BiDesire]

If you enjoy the drama keep him.

If you want a stable relationship move on.

He's a drama queen, that's what he's offering you and it is not going to change, it's his drug of choice.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Have him take a Gay Quiz??? Oh puhleese. Just come right out and Ask the man what the heck he wants! No words and questions on a piece of paper or on a computer screen is going to tell you more than an open honest diaologue will.
Stop, take a breath, and go from there. Best of luck to ya..sounds like your going to need it.. :}
Cat

[Realist]

Yes! I agree with the others. Look within yourself and determine what you need to be fulfilled and happy. If your BF can't be the one to do that for you, move on!

If he's not the one for you, every second you waste with him is time that you could use to find that person, or persons, who will love you the way you need to be loved!