Breaking the Ice

[dizzychainsaw]

I am a 27 year old bisexual female. I have a boyfriend who is supportive of me being bi. I am new to this website. I find the hardest part of being bisexual is finding another woman that is also bisexual and we are both attracted to each other. I recently met an attractive woman. We have been talking alot and spending time together. She is also in a relationship with a man. I am pretty sure she is bisexual. My question is how do I break the ice and make a move? :bipride:

[littlerayofsunshine]

Hello and welcome :)


To break the bi-ice I offer these comforting words of the famous Jimmy Buffet
"Why don't we get drunk and screw". J/K


It's a tough thing to advise someone. Cause none of us are in your situation. The best lead in I ever had, was I was hanging out with this girl that I liked. I was brushing her hair from behind. She tilted her head to the side. I went for her neck and starting lightly kissing and she moaned and it was heaven from there on out.

I guess try talking to her about it. Maybe just bring up yourself and how supportive your boyfriend is and see if she takes an interest or reciprocates anything.

[dizzychainsaw]

Thanks for the reply. I guess I am just nervous about it because in the past friendships have been ruined after sex got involved. She has a picture on her phone of two girls kissing so that's why I'm pretty sure she is either bi or bicurious. Maybe next time we hang out I will just casually mention that I have been with women before and see how she reacts.:tongue:

[Vikkster230]

Well you could go 2 ways: The honest and not so honest way...

Way #1: You could tell her the truth that you are bisexual, you find her very attractive and would like to have the opportunity to explore your options....


Way #2: Get her so drunk and keep playing Katy Perry and just plant a kiss on her.


Which ever way you go, good luck. It's a risk. Good luck. I haven't been able to find a woman either and am looking forward to when that comes to fruition.

[Realist]

Alcohol has helped many through some rough spots, where inhibitions can hinder you, that's true. It can make you say some really stupid things, too.

Being truthful and up front, sometimes clears the way remarkably well. You may use some "FER INSTANCE" story to see her reactions, and that has worked for me, too.

I once had a friend for about 6 years, who I was very attracted to. He was very guarded and careful about his reputation, very close-chested with his feelings..........but over time I began to feel he may be bi-curious. One time, when we were alone, I bit the bullet and decided to tell him I'd had some bi experiences and see how he'd take it. He was elated and a flood of interest poured forth. In no time we became lovers and the relationship lasted for about 10 years.

So, if you never take a chance, you may be missing out on something special. That's my experience, anyway.

Good luck to you, whatever you decide to do.!

[rissababynta]

I never thought I would ever hear people endorse getting drunk lmao.

Anyways...

What I usually do in this situation is I somehow bring it up in conversation that I am attracted to women, and if the other woman is, then they feel more comfortable confiding in me at that point. Usually if two women are both attracted to each other, once it's out in the open it gradually turns into flirting and other such things. If it happens to go the other way where they are freaked out that I'm bi and it changes our relationship, then they weren't the type of person that I would have wanted in my life that much anyway...

but this is just me so, yeah...

[IndyBiFun]

I think her phone offers you the perfect opportunity to find out more before you dive in. Tell her that you noticed the picture on her phone and ask if it's of her, a former lover or if she has ever been curious or being with another woman.

You might find that pictures do indeed speak a thousand words.

Good luck.

[dizzychainsaw]

Thank you everyone. I think I am going to go with just bringing it up and seeing what she says. Saying something about the picture on her phone is a very good idea. The idea about getting drunk and playing Katy Perry was a good one but I'm not going to do that lol:female: