Am I Bi or just curious?

[Newdevilr1]

I have a girlfriend of seven years. Before her I had never heard of the man having his anus stimulated etc. She began to do so while performing oral sex, this over the years has progressed to a healthy enjoyment of her using sex toys etc on me, however when I mentioned that I would like to have sex with another man (honesty is the best policy) she flipped out and now is reluctant to do anything in that area. Am I bisexual? Or am I just curious as I enjoy her 'doing' me? Would be good to get some other's thoughts and advice on what to do.

[codybear3]

Heres my :2cents: ... It is said that the prostate is the mans "G-spot"... Thru personal experience, my "orgasm" is more intense and whether its the physical act or the thought of having the prostate massaged, it seems that the quantity of my semen increases... But maybe you may have sprung your desire to have sex with another man on your girlfriend a little too harsh... Unless you really know her there could not have been a way for you to know how she would have reacted... Slow down and take a step back... Your new found enjoyment of anal play boes not mean your are bi, but try finding out a way to explore the possibility... You may just like having your girlfriend play with you and not enjoy it from a man... Try talking to her about it, and add (if you haven't) a strap-on toy... I am no expert on human relations, but try seeing where the pieces fall after talking to your girlfriend first... :paw::paw:

[Newdevilr1]

Heres my :2cents: ... It is said that the prostate is the mans "G-spot"... Thru personal experience, my "orgasm" is more intense and whether its the physical act or the thought of having the prostate massaged, it seems that the quantity of my semen increases... But maybe you may have sprung your desire to have sex with another man on your girlfriend a little too harsh... Unless you really know her there could not have been a way for you to know how she would have reacted... Slow down and take a step back... Your new found enjoyment of anal play boes not mean your are bi, but try finding out a way to explore the possibility... You may just like having your girlfriend play with you and not enjoy it from a man... Try talking to her about it, and add (if you haven't) a strap-on toy... I am no expert on human relations, but try seeing where the pieces fall after talking to your girlfriend first... :paw::paw:

We are at the strap on stage already and enjoy watching bi porn. It was while watching one and the girl was fellating while the other man was penetrating I said I'd love to try that. She got pretty uptight about it and it took a long while to reassure her. She has said that fantasies are different to actually doing them and thought of me or her with another person repulses her! I would never purposely hurt her but I get really turned on at the thought of having another open guy in our sex life.

[codybear3]

...tread carefully, my friend... :paw::paw:

[Focker]

She's your girlfriend right, not your wife. I say try to find a bi-guy who will assist you in this desire you have. You only live once, and when you are 60 years old don't you want to be able to look back at your life and say you had the balls to try something new.

If you were married to this woman, I would have a different response, but this is your girlfriend for crying out loud. If it's something you think you want to try, don't let her stop you, because you will recent her for it.

You may not be Bisexual, but then again, this may open the door to a whole new way of life. Either way, you gotta strike while the iron is hot. Life is not something you get a second chance at.

[Realist]

I'm 68 and Fokker hit it on the head! There were some things I had an opportunity to do, "back in the OLD days", that I wish I'd tried, just like he said. It's good to be considerate and try to please your lover, but if there's something that you feel compelled to do......but you don't do it, you may regret it for the rest of your life. Fokker was right, you may find that you really don't care for something, in reality, like the things you loved thinking about in fantasies, but you won't know, until you try it! You know how you feel and you know how she feels...it's up to you to take the road you know you want! .....or not. Just be prepared for the consequences, if she finds out!

[PolyLoveTriad]

I dont think you guys answered his question...
I know I cant answer it, but heres my thought on it...

MANY men enjoy a-spot stimulation. Its the prostate being massaged and as I understand from what men say it feels wonderful. I think it has to be much like when women has g-spot orgasms. If you enjoyed just that by itself and had no thought of other men or having sex with other men Id say no you arent bi just because its not a "bi or gay" thing to enjoy anal play, many straight men enjoy it also.

I would say you sound to me as being at least bi curious. If its on your mind and your desire to have sex with another man, but you havent experienced it before, you just want to see what its like Id say youre curious.

If you have sex with a guy and afterwards you think "WOOHOO I wanna do that again!!" Then Id say yep, youre bi.

And as to the couple of posts before mine... Youre right, I wouldnt go gung ho, but youre right. At the end of your life when you look back, do you want to remember your regrets of I should have done ________ Or do you want to look back and remember all the fun?

I have a saying, "Ill try anything once, twice if I like it!"

Hope this helps, if it doesnt, eh what do I know anyway?

[bityme]

We are at the strap on stage already and enjoy watching bi porn. It was while watching one and the girl was fellating while the other man was penetrating I said I'd love to try that. She got pretty uptight about it and it took a long while to reassure her. She has said that fantasies are different to actually doing them and thought of me or her with another person repulses her! I would never purposely hurt her but I get really turned on at the thought of having another open guy in our sex life.

I agree that since you have not mentioned anything about oral interaction with men that you are probably expressing curiosity about being penetrated by a man. You also did not mention any desires or fantasies about you penetrating another man. It may be that you are just wondering about another way of obtaining the feeling that you get through artificial means with your girlfriend.

It is unlikely that you will find another man to bring into your sexlife with your girlfriend who will be willing to limit his involvement to penetrating you. You might find someone in a one-on-one situation, but as a couple it is extremely doubtful.

If you find the desire compelling, you need to make a decision about the future of your present relationship. If it is something that you really want, I agree with Focker and Realist; GO FOR IT! If you suppress your desire out of a perceived loyalty to a girlfriend, it will come back later to haunt you. You will begin to resent her stifling your sexual expression and it will eventually cause a breakup anyway. The problem is that it may take until after the wedding bells have rung and the sex begins to stabilize.

My personal experience is that there is not a dildo, strap-on, or vibrator that can compare with the real thing. But each person's experience is different. What works for me might not work for you. My response might be influenced by the fact that I enjoy almost all forms of sexual activity with either a man or a woman. So my outlook is considerably different than what you have expressed so far.

Take some time to sort out your own desires and what impact acting on them would have on your life. The question would appear to be whether this is just a curiosity or a burning desire. Good luck and if you decide to do it, I hope you find it as enjoyable as I do. :bigrin:

[Newdevilr1]

I agree that since you have not mentioned anything about oral interaction with men that you are probably expressing curiosity about being penetrated by a man. You also did not mention any desires or fantasies about you penetrating another man. It may be that you are just wondering about another way of obtaining the feeling that you get through artificial means with your girlfriend.

It is unlikely that you will find another man to bring into your sexlife with your girlfriend who will be willing to limit his involvement to penetrating you. You might find someone in a one-on-one situation, but as a couple it is extremely doubtful.

If you find the desire compelling, you need to make a decision about the future of your present relationship. If it is something that you really want, I agree with Focker and Realist; GO FOR IT! If you suppress your desire out of a perceived loyalty to a girlfriend, it will come back later to haunt you. You will begin to resent her stifling your sexual expression and it will eventually cause a breakup anyway. The problem is that it may take until after the wedding bells have rung and the sex begins to stabilize.

My personal experience is that there is not a dildo, strap-on, or vibrator that can compare with the real thing. But each person's experience is different. What works for me might not work for you. My response might be influenced by the fact that I enjoy almost all forms of sexual activity with either a man or a woman. So my outlook is considerably different than what you have expressed so far.

Take some time to sort out your own desires and what impact acting on them would have on your life. The question would appear to be whether this is just a curiosity or a burning desire. Good luck and if you decide to do it, I hope you find it as enjoyable as I do. :bigrin:

I am sorry my intial messages do sound as if I'm just looking for penetration by another man. I'm not I'm looking to try all aspects of sex with a man oral, me penetrating him everything. I guess another factor that's in my feelings about 'finding out' is my walk of life changing....I'll explain. I was brought up in a very small closed minded blue collar working class family where men could be seriously beaten up if they had expressed any other desires. Later after university etc my degree has removed me from that social strata and I'm now in a more ambivelent (dare I say it tolerant) section of society where a lot of my male friends had experiences with men in their formative years (boarding school and such like). I feel I missed out on finding out things about myself at the correct time in my formation and I now wanna see for myself. I KNOW I am aroused by women and women's bodies and their sexuality but I also 'feel' I might be the same with men. I haven't yet seen a man who just on looks has made me 'weak at the knees' but I've seen plenty of them (gym etc) that I wouldn't mind running my tounge over! I think I'm gonna take the previous advice given and find a real discreet man and explain fully my situation and hopefully I'll be lucky enough to find one who'll enjoy joining me on my 'no strings, no promises' journey.