SFBC Discussion Question: What if you were the opposite gender?

[glantern954]

At this week's meeting, in addition to the usual opportunities to talk about personal issues, bi current events, and things going on in our lives we discussed the following question.

"If you were the same person you are now but the opposite gender do you think you would still consider yourself bisexual or do you think it would change your sexual preference?"

There won't be a right or wrong answer that fits everyone but it should be interesting to hear people's thoughts.

[M. Wolfe]

Picturing oneself is always a difficult thing to do. You just can't know how your mind might differ.

I can't say, sexuality-wise, that anything would likely change - I can't imagine why it would.

[codybear3]

If I were the exact same person in the opposite gender, I would still be bisexual because I enjoy both sexes equally... I knew this since before the Kinesey test or what ever its called... And I'd probably make a fugly lookin' woman as well... :( :paw: :paw:

[jem_is_bi]

That would be awful!!:eek:
I like male-female sex. BUT, I NEED MALE-MALE SEX!!!!
I can't get that as a woman. :eek:

[bityme]

At this week's meeting, in addition to the usual opportunities to talk about personal issues, bi current events, and things going on in our lives we discussed the following question.

"If you were the same person you are now but the opposite gender do you think you would still consider yourself bisexual or do you think it would change your sexual preference?"

There won't be a right or wrong answer that fits everyone but it should be interesting to hear people's thoughts.

I would hope that I would be better looking, but I am sure I would still be bisexual. Of course, It would mean the ability to be even more open about it since bisexuality in women is much more accepted than in men.

[Lonewolf76]

I would hope that I would be better looking, but I am sure I would still be bisexual. Of course, It would mean the ability to be even more open about it since bisexuality in women is much more accepted than in men.

My thoughts exactly! Wolfie

[MarieDelta]

Ok so do you mean opposite gender or opposite sex?

Cause one way I'd be really happy would be the opposite sex. The other well, I am already dealing with it.

Gender is mental & sex is physical. One way I'd be congruent (or I hope so) the other way, well thats what I got now.

Or would I be congruent either way, hmm thats an interesting question. If I was the opposite gender in my current body that would mean I'd be masculine, so ya I guess that would Ok. If I were the opposite sex, Id e female/ with a feminine gender so that would be good too. Either way, I'm still bi (or pan if you want to be picky) cuase I like both/ all genders and sexes.

Does that make sense, or are you as confused as a crossdresser with their first garter belt?

[Realist]

Whoa, never saw anyone write upside down, before!

Years ago, a friend had just found out his wife was bisexual. I asked him how he was taking it and he said he could easily understand her. She said that he loved women so much, that if he was a woman, he'd STILL love 'em!

For some reason, even though I am bi, I feel that the ladies who are lovers have a better chance of being accepted. As others have said, even some straight people accept women loving women, easier than they do men loving men.

I'd like to be a good-looking woman, but God, the temptations would be rampant!

[robbie09]

great question!

My current sexual preference is women but I am sexually attracted to men as well. I consider myself Bi.

I enjoy cross dressing and playing the role of the opposite gender. Hence have considered my sexual preference in the role of the opposite gender.

I would still be Bi but my sexual preference would defineately switch to men and I would marry one. How nice to give hubby a blow job after a hard day at the office!!

[Georgie_Girl]

I feel that if I were a man, I'd be a flamingly gay man. :)

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Uhmm, could I still keep my oral prowess? lol And yes, I would have just as much fun being a man as I do being a woman. Only, I wouldnt have these big Ol' titties.....lol
Silly Cat

[TwylaTwobits]

Very interesting question, but since I'm straight I don't feel comfortable answering. Be interesting reading the responses though.

okay talking to my babe on the phone and he thinks i should try to answer..so here goes..

If I was a man with the same mind and preferences I have now, I wouldn't become a bisexual I would be gay. I am attracted to men sexually and emotionally, and while I can find a woman attractive it's not in the same manner. I can be close friends with a woman, I can share sex stories with a woman, I can love a good woman friend as a sister. But beyond that..it's not for me at this point in my life. That may change after years with a bisexual man, being 100% confident in him as a partner and lover may allow me to be more open to things we have fantasized about. It just remains to be seen, either way I think I'd enjoy my life as a man the same way I enjoy my life as a woman.

[Long Duck Dong]

yes, definately it would change me as a person...

sex would be different, not just cos of the body.... but cos I would embrace the feminine ability with sex and intimacy more......

would I be a lesbian ??? sorta.... sure I do lean towards, the bottom / feminine aspect of sex currently....but there is something about being held and *dominated* by a male that knows what he wants me to feel....and how reaching that point in me, can lead to intense emotional and mental responses....

I love the touch and tenderness of a ladies touch....and I have always been a lil envious of the broad range of ladies sexual range... so yes, I would be part lesbian inclined.... but I would have the desire for a lady with a strap on or feeldoe that knows how to being out the true heart and soul of another lady

plus.... damm the ladies get to wear a wider range of clothes.... and make them clothes look hawt......

down side.... mmmmm hormones... menstrual cramps...menopause......and males dirty underwear and socks on the floor

[maddog52]

My body is male but my soul is that of a bisexual being. I can't imagine being anything else. :flag4:

[veganbigmac]

I like guys more than gals. If I was a woman, I feel like I'd be terrifyingly sluttier than I am now. I'd still be bi, but I feel like it would be an inverse of the Kinsey scale. I guess I'm like a 5 on the scale currently, if I was a woman, I'd probably be more like a 2. But who's to say?

Hmmm, hypotheticals sure are fun though.

[bisocialnudist]

Even though I look and act like the all American Male I often say to myself there is a lesbian inside me somewhere. I have always preferred my feminine side and consider myself just one of the girls. That being said I really love having a penis and all the accessories so I would hate to give that up.:(

I have given thought to the possibility that the increased sensations multiple orgasms etc that women enjoy make it all worth while. Anyway I feel I would still be bi and probably the same person I am now just in a womens body, As a women my primary relationships would be with other women and my interest in men would be just as it is now primarily sexual so there really is a lesbian hiding inside this guy.

[bimichman]

I would still be bi, only more open about being bi.

[glantern954]

For me, I think not having a penis would really change how I enjoy sex. So, my first thought is that I might be inclined to just identify as a straight woman.

I am slightly more physically attracted to some men and am capable of taking either a dominant or submissive role. But Male\Female intercourse is much more appealing than Male\Male or Female\Female intercouse.

Ultimately though, I guess I wouldn't know for sure until I experienced it. I do know that I would still be able to appreciate the potential beauty of both men and women, I just don't know if I could appreciate a woman sexually as a woman.

Funny, I guess that is the same problem I have with appreciating men sexually as a man.

[welickit]

Being the same person, just a different gender wouldn't change a thing. As a person we are bisexual so the gender change wouldn't change the person. We are who we are no matter what the outer skin is.

[its430am]

I would really enjoy using my new penis with females. :bigrin: I'm sure I would still love everyone, though.

Soph

[its430am]

Well, that's assuming you meant if I were the opposite sex and not if I were the opposite gender....

[cand86]

I really do think that my attractions would change if my gender did. I still think I'd have my same openness to a relationship with any gender, but as to who I got horny over, well, I think it'd be different, because I feel like my attractions are somewhat rooted in my gender identity now.

Even now, I tend to like men more physically but prefer the visible queerness of being with a woman (or a guy who wears his own queerness on his sleeve). I have a lot of issues with straight relationships because I don't like the socially-ingrained male/female games you so often have to play. So part of me thinks that if I was a man and the whole intellectual discomfort of heterosexual desire was taken away, I'd just be a big ol' slutty gay man, seriously. I fetishize gay male intimacy so much as it is and wish I had a dick that I'm pretty sure if I had one, it'd be familiar with every willing man I could find!

And then another part of me wonders if having a dick and testosterone coursing through me would take my current desire for women and just throw it through the roof and turn me into a raving heterosexual dude. I mean, I can't imagine it now, but I do know how crazy hormones are and how much of an impact they can have on your sexual orientation.

So, in other words, I really don't know.

[diB4u]

At this week's meeting, in addition to the usual opportunities to talk about personal issues, bi current events, and things going on in our lives we discussed the following question.

"If you were the same person you are now but the opposite gender do you think you would still consider yourself bisexual or do you think it would change your sexual preference?"

There won't be a right or wrong answer that fits everyone but it should be interesting to hear people's thoughts.

For me simple, i'd be a gay man- out and proud and very camp....

Too easy eh?

[glantern954]

For the few that wanted clarification, yes I really was asking about if you were opposite sex physically, not oppsite gender mentally.

[curious44]

I like guys more than gals. If I was a woman, I feel like I'd be terrifyingly sluttier than I am now. I'd still be bi, but I feel like it would be an inverse of the Kinsey scale. I guess I'm like a 5 on the scale currently, if I was a woman, I'd probably be more like a 2. But who's to say?

Hmmm, hypotheticals sure are fun though.

These were exactly my thoughts when I first read the question. I,also, would be so much of a slut. I remember as a horny teen, on the eternal quest to get some pussy how I envied the girls. They could get laid anytime they chose to, if they chose to, simply because there were so many guys out there that would have sex with them in a heart beat.
Since this is a fantasy thread we can momentarily forget about unpleasant details like pregnancy and STDs and go for it all.
Yes, if I were female I would be the biggest slut in town, doing it all with whoever, wherever and whenever.