Fantasy vs reality

[Indaco76]

Hi all,
I thought I'd ask you something I've been pondering on for a while.
I know from the posts I've read so far (only joined a couple of weeks ago) that lots of you are totally bisexual, meaning they feel exactly the same attraction for men and women, while some others are not. I like the fact that there is a wide diversity on this site, which is exactly what I've been searching for.
One post I particularly appreciated was the one on sex acts people like/don't like. It helped me figure out that I was not "weird" for my preferences, although I'm still struggling with this issue.
But sticking to the subject, I would like to take that question one step further: are there any sexual activities that turn you on in fantasy but you're not sure you would enjoy in the same was in reality?
I'll start with myself: my favourite fantasy at the moment is being active with a woman (e.g. doing oral and fingering her) and, when we're both very excited, being penetrated by a man. In other words, a threesome where the man only comes in (no pun inteded) towards the end and adds that little extra stimulation to bring me over the top. Oh, and by the way, the man sort of disappears after we're all satisfied and I'm left cuddling with the lady.
This is really exciting for me in fantasy, since it sums up all my sexual preferences, but I'm not sure I'd do it in reality. I'd be really worried the man would not be able to stick to its role and take other initiatives, which would be a turn off for me. Let alone the implications of making him leave soon after it's all over... poor man! :bigrin: Moreover, there are lots of emotional implications that would make this really complicated to manage in real life (I'm in a relationship with a woman and, although she knows I'm bisexual and miss penetration, I'm not sure we could handle a threesome yet).
Your turn now!
Indaco
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[rissababynta]

There aren't many things fantasy wise that turn me on...but there are things that will "interest" me I guess you could say. The only thing that I could think of for me is beastiality. If I see a clip of a beastiality porno, it does not disgust me or anything. I do find some kind of interest in that (I guess because it is not of the norm...I don't know) but the thought of ME ever participating is something that I just could not imagine! It's only thinking of THAT when I become disgusted.

Other than that, I really can't sit here and think of anything that would have me running scared if it were REALLY happening...

[jem_is_bi]

In my favorite sexual fantasy, I am forced to have multiple oral sex with a large group of men. But, in reality, I NEVER want that to happen. That would be awful!
In my fantasy, as you describe in yours, the other participations do exactly what I want them to do when I want them to do it and then leave. That would never happen in a real life version of my fantasy.
So, I have fun with my fantasy in my daydreams, but much more fun with a single male lover in my bed.

[Realist]

Indaco, if you had a good male friend, who you could interact with, maybe you could make arrangements for him to fulfill that fantasy. Then, you could find out how you really felt.

My girlfriend and I have done some experimenting with our own fantasies and some of them have been very interesting and fun. We'll discuss exactly what we'd like and then try to follow the story line exactly. We've had fun with it, too. We ahven't brought anyone else in with us, yet, but that may be another option.

[robbie09]

I am pretty sure I would enjoy most of my sexual fantasies. I am not sure about the group sex fantasies though, could be very complicated and leave someone feeling jealous or left out?

[TwylaTwobits]

Well I have a very active fantasy life at this point basically cause fantasy is all I have. Yes I hear his voice and it makes me extremely horny and we have our fun on phone or on msn, but at the same time...I may almost feel his cock sliding in but I don't actually have that yet.

Did have something very interesting happen to me though. I had to visit the ER day before yesterday, not a big deal just had some swelling in a foot and they did all these tests and ruled out all the bad stuff and sent me home. While at the hospital lying on that bed in the skimply little hospital gown I had a lovely fantasy running through my head. When I got home I wrote it down and saved it to send to my babe. He logged on and I sent it and he was like omg...I want you to know I woke up at 7am with a raging hardon and this was the fantasy. 7am for him was about the time I was having that fantasy in the hospital. He had one of the most explosive orgasms of his life yet I didn't get to share it. When he told me that the fantasy was so damned close to what I wrote for him, I was in awe but not really that surprised. We are both Wiccan and have a pretty strong bond, this just proves how right we are for each other.

Would it have been as hot if it was straight out sex and didn't add some fantasy elements, I don't know. But I look forward to finding out the next time.... :)

[Orlando157]

Simply .... reality is the best fantasy - Fantasy by itself is a rut