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totchune
Apr 21, 2009, 2:58 AM
The web can easily be used for deceit, given the convenience of anonymity, and is, as a matter of fact, every day.
How can anyone on this site or on any other site be trusted to be who and what they say they are, whether male or female, old or young, bi, gay or straight, married or single, sober or high, sane or insane (ok, may be that's pushing it, but may be not!)
Not to be a party pooper, but I would advise any newcomer not to trust blindly, and never to be in a hurry to confide and share intimate thoughts with someone whose identity, age, sex, or marital status you do not know or cannot verify, and whose personality is a total blank to you.
People lie to each other every day in person...imagine the possibilities on the web!
I would especially warn everyone to be very leery of anyone who creates more than one profile, with different user names.
Of course the person who bullshits you looses in the end, but in the meantime you feel like a pathetic idiot for trusting, even if for a couple of days, and who needs the aggravation!

GreenEyedLady(GEL)
Apr 21, 2009, 7:31 AM
Sounds like you have had a bad experience. It's to bad that some people take enjoyment in betraying people. I've had it done to me a couple of times. It sucks . Just remember there are good people from this site. I've made some long lasting friends. Good luck

darkeyes
Apr 21, 2009, 9:32 AM
Ne 1 wiv ne web experience an haffa brain kno yas rite Totchu hun.. bit like teachin Grannie 2 suk eggs.. an me initial response wos that ya r a daft bugga an we kno alla that....but every day ther r lotsa naive, often yung an vulnerable peeps who r jus startin out in weblife an for them its a piece a sound advice... :)

totchune
Apr 21, 2009, 11:02 AM
Good luck
Thanks!...

Storm2008
Apr 21, 2009, 11:07 AM
It's rather surreal to read these words of caution, coming from someone who just took me to task for not using my real name....

Lonewolf76
Apr 21, 2009, 12:17 PM
Your words ring true enough. You should keep your brain engaged while on a website - but I feel like you miss the other side of the coin... I don't know for certain exactly who I am chatting with - anymore than they really know me - by with that anonymity comes some security along with caution. I can talk about things I probably wouldn't have the guts to discuss face-to-face. Then when advice is offered to me - I ensure that my brain is once again engaged and I think about the advice offered and choose to use it or not. I really don't care that someone may be a 95 year old woman who puts themselves off as a 45 year man- or vice versa - it doesn't matter to me unless I am planning on meeting them. Chatting is chatting and good or bad advice is good or bad advice.

I agree with you - proceed with caution - but don't lose the freedom of the anonymity that the site offers as well. Just my :2cents: LW