Spice up the Play

[graytwo]

OK, doing the same wonderful thing, day, after day, after week, after month... might get a little boring. Any one have ideas or tips on making the smoldering fire roar. [pls.. don't say blow/blow/blow on it because Ladies like a gentle breeze and gents like more of a hoover.;)] Also, leave out porno - it's good but not as a steady day-in, day-out thing.

Any ideas? Games [word, visual, aroma, etc..] toys, positions, places, things or any and more thoughts. Probably should have made two threads. This one "Spice up the Play" and another "Kink up the Play" but I didn't. Just wondering about how everyone approaches "Spicing up the Play". I figure with all the people looking and posting it's sort of like our sharing recipies, only bettter.:rolleyes: Guess we can discuss ways about how to "Kink up the Play' after.

If you do respond, please indicate if it is a M/F, MM, FF, MFM, FMF, or more.. type sexual union. Makes it easier and hotter to read if we know who the players are at the onset about your topic.

thanks!

[bityme]

I'm a male, but the suggestion can be used for either gender.

Plan an event for your lover. Starting about a week before, pick up some small note style cards. Pick out his/her favorite activity and plan an evening for it.

In the first note, just put the date, time and location with the notation "A Special Evening For You."

Then each day before the event give him/her another note with the date, time and location. Add some other comment that hints about the plan but will not disclose it. He/she should not be able to guess what is going to happen until the last note. The timing for the last note will depend on how much lead time you need. An evening of oral pleasure will require substantially less lead time than a gang bang in Las Vegas. LOL

When the appointed time arrives, devote yourself entirely to giving him/her pleasure in the way they like it the best. Avoid your own pleasure in favor of his/hers. Actually, you will be surprised at how much pleasure you actually derive from the evening.

In planning for the evening, make sure you can accomplish the necessary activity. If your partner likes to be f@#$%& for hours and you are a minuteman, buy a hollow strap-on. If it's an evening long blow job, get some desensitizing spray for the throat. New lingerie to make them feel sexy, whatever it takes.

They will appreciate, more than anything else, the fact that they were made the center of attention for that evening and that you were a totally giving person seeking only their satisfaction.

[AmericanBeauty]

Handcuffs, rope, blindfolds, paddles and whips, knives, light choking/face slapping, spitting on someone/being spit on, calling someone names, consent, Dominance/submission, Master/slave and a collar, hot wax, and piss!

[M. Wolfe]

Handcuffs, rope, blindfolds, paddles and whips, knives, light choking/face slapping, spitting on someone/being spit on, calling someone names, consent, Dominance/submission, Master/slave and a collar, hot wax, and piss!

Eww. I never understood the appeal of this kinda kinky behaviour. It's like the opposite of intimacy.

[AmericanBeauty]

Eww. I never understood the appeal of this kinda kinky behaviour. It's like the opposite of intimacy.

It's all good.

BDSM/kink can take you to places that vanilla sex (vanilla sex is sex that doesn't involve any kink/BDSM at all) does not and never will.

Also despite what you think or as a spectator to kink there is intimacy, romance, closeness, and even more so than vanilla sex since you're either taking control or surrendering some control to someone when you do it.

[tnttogether]

what the wife and i have done to spice up the play was bought a strapon. we bought the ultra harness 2000 for women (shouldve gotten the one for men cause the one for women dont have the hole up front below the attachment for a guy to use also... lesson learned, but oh well). we dont meet up with others very often, so with the new toy, in a way i get have some bi fun in a way, and the wife can see what its like on the mans side.
we bought the 8" x 5 1/2" jelly attachment thats flexible for comfort inside and easier to take trying to deepthroat.
we started out easy, where i was basically in charge/control to get used to its size, to where now, she takes charge and basically i play submissive and get everything from hard deepthroat face fucking to grabbing my hips and pounding my ass with long, ass slapping deep strokes. (it really turns me on to have her force that cock on me!)
this may not be for all, but with her, i know its safe, it gives role play, allows us to try some fantasies that we probably wouldnt do with a real person/people (situation would have to be right of couse to consider), and its been a great addition to our already wonderful sex life that has given something new to the mix.
this weekend is her turn to get aquainted with the toy, gonna figure out how to put it on to where i can stilll have my cock accessable while she gets used to the toy. :bigrin:

[koruptedheart1]

Here's two non-kink suggestions to break up the monotony of monagamy:

1) Have sex with your partner every night for one week, regardless of wether or not you're in the mood. Even if you're in the middle of a fight, take a break long enough to do it. It sounds weird but it works.

2) Put a month long ban on sex in the bedroom. That way if you want it you're forced to find new locations. Necessity is the mother of invention.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

For a little bit of unusual fun, go buy her an electronic vibrating "Egg" have her wear it out in public, but you hold the controls. It fits up inside of her, but also sits up against the clit if you get the Venus Butterfly kind. In the car, turn it on a nice very low setting, letting her feel the vibration deep inside of her, making her feel good, and a bit aroused. Take her to a fine resturant, and then excuse yourself half way thru the meal. Position yourself so that you are close to her but out of sight, then hit that control to full high blast of like a 30 second intervul! Stop it cold, then hit it again. (make sure no waiters or other patrons are near by when ya do..trust me...lol)
Leave it alone while you go to the restrrom, then come back to the table as if nothing happened. Look her in the eyes and say seductively, "Everything ok Baby?":tong:;)

I know a friend that does this with his lady, only he discreetly passes the controllers around to different people at the party, so that she never knows Who has it..lol Its hilarious to watch her trying to order something in a resturant, or to answer questions at a dinner party without squealing of yelling out when its turned on full blast! lmao
Give it a try, its fun, its arousing and its a different experiance, so just go with it and have fun. :}:bigrin:
Bad Cat

[SWCube]

Give it a try, its fun, its arousing and its a different experiance, so just go with it and have fun. :}:bigrin:
Bad Cat

Best advice I've heard in a long time and we will be trying it as soon as we can. Thanks a lot!