"Sex Chatroom"

[rissababynta]

The other night in chat, I had someone IM me. He seemed fairly nice, but then he asked in so many words how long I had been "eating pussy" and it kind of came out of no where. I have no problem with someone asking me if I've ever been with woman, or if I have ever gone down on a woman before or something along those lines, but to come right out and say those words exactly...well....it's kind of rude. I said "Ok, that wasn't very tactful but anyway..." and proceeded to answer his question. He then apologized for saying that.

Then in the next sentence he said "How big are your boobs? They look huge in your pic". I couldn't believe that not even 30 seconds after I had made it clear that he was not speaking very tastefully to me, he did it again. Again, if you say "Hey can I ask you a question?" then you ask me how big my breasts are or SOMETHING like that, then I'll probably roll my eyes a little, but hey, I'll answer cause you weren't completely rude about it. So anyway, I told him that it really wasnt any of his business and left it at that.

I didn't hear from him for a minute, then he had typed back to me that he guesses that I just don't like talking to guys then and that if I'm going to be in a "sex chatroom" that I should expect that that is what people are going to talk to me about.

I kinda flipped out (not really but more so than normal) and told him that this isn't titles as a "sex chatroom" to begin with and even if I was in a "sex chatroom" it still doesn't mean that I am obligated to talk about sexual things if I don't want to, especially someone who can't even be tactful about it.

Then he told me that I'm not a nice person.

Considering that I normally think that I AM a nice person, this made me angrier and bitchier, and I wrote back to him that in response to his other comment about me not liking to talk to guys, that I actually don't need to find enjoyment in talking to other men because I have a man, and he's a real man that doesn't get bent out of shape from talking to someone who refuses to talk about their stats because the only way he can get his rocks off is in a chat room.

I normally don't like to iggy people, but I actually did for this guy. He just REALLY got under my skin. So anyway, I'm telling you all of this to get to this:

Is there some unwritten law that you are a bad person for being in this chatroom and NOT speaking to someone about sex if you don't want to? Also, was I really that mean to him where I came across as being "not a nice person"?

[darkeyes]

Unsolicited IM Riss?? Shud do wot me dus an jus shout at 'em in the room 2 keep outa ya pvts!!! Not often me takes an IM offa sum 1 me dusn kno... its nice 2 b asked tho innit?:)

[still_shy]

It happens to me every single time I go into chat, unfortunately. Even though my profile plainly states, horny men leave me alone, they never get the picture. So I very politely tell them I'm not into cyber and to go away. It stinks that people have to get so bent out of shape just cause a girl don't want to discuss boob size with them. I understand that a lot of people get into cyber, which is why I try to be polite....if that doesn't work....iggy all the way!

[chulainn2]

next time that happens, ask him very politely, excuse me but were you born lame or did your mother drop you on your head when you were an infant?

[Randypan]

I like "Were you born stupid or did you have to study hard for it?"

[csrakate]

I learned very early on that you have to be very selective when it comes to even acknowledging PM's while in chat. While I am sure I have possibly missed meeting some very nice people, past experience taught me that even the most benign conversations can quickly turn to sex before you know it. I've basically taken the stance that I don't even answer a pm from someone I don't know anymore....and if that makes me rude, then I am sorry. I just got tired of those individuals who pm'd under the guise of asking me for my advice and had them quickly ask about doing my husband....doing me....or doing us both......or my personal favorite...."I WILL fuck you!"....how very kind of them!LOL!

[_Joe_]

I know who your talking about. he was pissed I didnt want to net sex when it was hours before I was getting the snip snip and not in any mood for nothing.

[Doggie_Wood]

I really pisses me off when they (uninvited PMs) {excluding friends} pop up - it takes your cursor away from the main room (and I'm typing in a reply) and puts it in the reply box of the PM - I mumble in a low breath "Stupid Fuck!" - and proceed to close the window and ignore them. If they persist, I simply tell them (calling out their name) in the main room not to PM without asking. That usiually stops them, but f they ask anyway I tell them "NO!"
:bigrin:

Doggie :doggie:

[Lonewolf76]

Rude is rude - no matter how you look at it. Even if you are on a VERY explicit sex site - there are better ways to go about it - manners are never out of date. I say iggy them fast and they'll get the message! lw

[PaulWaul]

Yeah, I usually get at least 2 PMs from random people every day. I usually ignore them or try to tactfully steer it away from that topic. I must be good at it or something, because they usually lose interest in a couple minutes.

It really does piss me off, but I've only had to ignore 1 person that was making me really uncomfortable.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Im sorry you had to go thru that Babygirl. Just because its a BiSex site doesnt mean a person Has to talk sensuallly. Its not written into the contract. There's one guy that I actually had to finally get nasty with because he kept hassleing me about: "What are you wearing? How big Are those things? Do you cyber fuck every man in here?" ect ect.
It gets SO old after a while. Thats why I say in open forum "If you dont know me well or dont ask permission, Dont PM me!"
If its one of my friends, they dont have to ask, but the others better...or they will go unanswered.
Just ignore the silly turkeys and have fun with the rest of us. :}
Hugsss my Sistah.
Cat

[mariersa]

Rissy-Ris Baby, so, how big are they:tong: answer the question!;)

[curious married m]

Rissy-Ris Baby, so, how big are they:tong: answer the question!;)

LOL yer too late MarS, I tactfully asked that in chat last night. And I used Elmo's magic word Please. HeHe, the lil red monster knows all the right things to say. Btw how big are yours PLEASE. Love all you guys. CMM

[erthtravel]

Rissa,

Sorry, but not all of us guys are quite so callous. I for one believe that the mind is the most important sexual organ, and with clever use, it doesn't need the coarse, abrupt and vulgar approach.

Seduction is an artful act of intelligence!

Sincerely,

Erthtravel

[darkeyes]

Rissa,

Sorry, but not all of us guys are quite so callous. I for one believe that the mind is the most important sexual organ, and with clever use, it doesn't need the coarse, abrupt and vulgar approach.

Seduction is an artful act of intelligence!

Sincerely,

Erthtravel
Pity so many then hav ther minds at end of ther dick.. not every1 like u hun.. wich is wot Riss an othas r referrin 2..

[Rudy75]

Rissa,

You are not a bad person. If you were in the main room, you should expect general chat among like-minded individuals (bi-people). If you were in one of the other chat rooms, well that's what you may get.

Regardless of anything, everyone in every room is required to be polite and respectful. You didn't get that, your anger was justified.

Rissa 1
Freak 0 (big zero)

[csrakate]

LOL yer too late MarS, I tactfully asked that in chat last night. And I used Elmo's magic word Please. HeHe, the lil red monster knows all the right things to say. Btw how big are yours PLEASE. Love all you guys. CMM

I KNEW you'd get into trouble the minute I turned my back!!! LOL!!! (Kate rolls her eyes and shakes her head)

[curious married m]

Rissa,

You are not a bad person. If you were in the main room, you should expect general chat among like-minded individuals (bi-people). If you were in one of the other chat rooms, well that's what you may get.

Regardless of anything, everyone in every room is required to be polite and respectful. You didn't get that, your anger was justified.

Rissa 1
Freak 0 (big zero)

Actually Rudy, after 5 years in this room, I have seen everything from mild to wild in the MAIN room. Like Kate said, it is just a matter of the mix of people at a given time. I also have heard many times the people complaining when it is occuring about the Lesbians licking, the Young ranting for attention, the rude old guys perving. Hey wait I am one of the old guys, but always a polite old Perv. And like Peg has said when enough of a group gets tired of the room shenannigans they just go to Showme's Balcony. Damn I remember from that balcony seeing a nice set of..............NVM. LOL just kidding

WOW Kate, I actually remembered who came in INSISTING on a living room to talk about non-sexual stuff. And years later it sits empty like a concrete overcoat at the bottom of the river. Nawwww we don't need no more rooms. We just need to play nice and all just not be rude. :2cents: CMM

[Hoselvr]

Ditto CMM. Love all y'all. Practicing my southern, lol. hehe.

[curious married m]

Ditto CMM. Love all y'all. Practicing my southern, lol. hehe.

HeHe, Yer Southern is impeccable and we both wanna practice on our favorite Southern Peach. Nothing like the sweet juicy fruits of a Southern Lady. LOL Long live the land of Lynard Skynard. Hoser your such a dog. HeHe

OMG this is my milestone 200th thread in 5 YEARS

LOL Someday before I die I might get to the level of the Thread sluts like Kate, Arana & Frannie
4000/200 per 5yr= NO FUCKING WAY

:2cents: CMM

[csrakate]

OMG this is my milestone 200th thread in 5 YEARS

LOL Someday before I die I might get to the level of the Thread sluts like Kate, Arana & Frannie
4000/200 per 5yr= NO FUCKING WAY

:2cents: CMM

Congrats on your 200th post in five years, CMM!! And I am NOT a thread slut....I am a sweet and innocent housewife,mother and grandmother from Ga.....ohhhh...never mind......

I am proud of you for all of your posts...well...maybe most of them....at least I can keep up with your antics this way....cause you always tell on yourself! LOL!

[elian]

Yeah, but all this conservation is distracting us from the REAL issue - what color should we paint the room?

<smiles>

For goodness sake, go out and enjoy the weekend if you can :)

[darkeyes]

HeHe, Yer Southern is impeccable and we both wanna practice on our favorite Southern Peach. Nothing like the sweet juicy fruits of a Southern Lady. LOL Long live the land of Lynard Skynard. Hoser your such a dog. HeHe

OMG this is my milestone 200th thread in 5 YEARS

LOL Someday before I die I might get to the level of the Thread sluts like Kate, Arana & Frannie
4000/200 per 5yr= NO FUCKING WAY

:2cents: CMM
Thread TARTS ya daft ole coot ifya don mind...:bigrin: Least yas learned 2 read finally an that cant b bad..:tong: Well dun daftie.. tee hee;)

[rissababynta]

I have a feeling that I'm well on my way to becoming a thread slut....sigh...

[rdy2go]

You handled that one just right Rissa, you even gave him a second chance and he didn't get it. Dudes like that will give us polite perverts a bad name, ha... that's a good one! You are right though, no one has to talk about anything they don't want to, it doesn't matter what the arena happens to be, on line, phone, or face to face.

[rissababynta]

Aww thanks you guys for letting me know that my first instincts were right and I am in fact NOT a mean person...I am assuming that he was just bent out of shape and that was the first thing that came to mind to say. Kind of like some guys getting so discouraged that they finally say "Yeah well, you're a slut" (when in fact if you were, you would have probably already been cyber sucking them by now haha) just doesn't make sense.

[**Peg**]

from my profile/ad:

even if I am single, I am not here looking for anything other than chatting, making friends, and having fun. Not interested in cyber.

Please don't send me a private message in chat unless you have filled out your personal ad, because I will not respond.

Thank you!

The corollary to that, of course, is if you DO have a profile, and pm me and I don't know you and/or I'm busy, then I might not respond.

So.... for the most part, the men here have been very understanding, and polite... I've been blessed to have some fabulous (non-sexual) conversations with some of the hottest men here.

The ONLY person so far who has given me grief was a woman who wanted to know why I would even want to chat @ a bi site "if" I'm straight.... Well, I have a reason, as do a couple of my str8 women friends, but it's none of HER business why I'm here. If y'all don't know by now, I'm not in the habit of explaining myself to people LOL. :rolleyes:

[**Peg**]

......... Kind of like some guys getting so discouraged that they finally say "Yeah well, you're a slut" (when in fact if you were, you would have probably already been cyber sucking them by now haha) just doesn't make sense.

RIGHT ON....some these peeps can't think their way out of a wet paper bag.

[texasman6172003]

from my profile/ad:

even if I am single, I am not here looking for anything other than chatting, making friends, and having fun. Not interested in cyber.

Please don't send me a private message in chat unless you have filled out your personal ad, because I will not respond.

Thank you!

The corollary to that, of course, is if you DO have a profile, and pm me and I don't know you and/or I'm busy, then I might not respond.

So.... for the most part, the men here have been very understanding, and polite... I've been blessed to have some fabulous (non-sexual) conversations with some of the hottest men here.

The ONLY person so far who has given me grief was a woman who wanted to know why I would even want to chat @ a bi site "if" I'm straight.... Well, I have a reason, as do a couple of my str8 women friends, but it's none of HER business why I'm here. If y'all don't know by now, I'm not in the habit of explaining myself to people LOL. :rolleyes:

Well i know i am not in the HOTTEST MEN'S category!!! LMAO!!!!!!!! :tong:

[onewhocares]

Well i know i am not in the HOTTEST MEN'S category!!! LMAO!!!!!!!! :tong:

So say You.....SOME of us have a different opinion dear man.


Belle

[darkeyes]

So say You.....SOME of us have a different opinion dear man.


Belle

*thinks.. that wy Belle so quiet wen Tex in chat at same time as 'er???... Naaaa surely not... dismisses it from 'er mind.. GREEN wiv envy as thotta Tex canoodlin tall lady in pvt as the thot fleetinly nips bak inta 'er head.....:(*

[rissababynta]

*thinks.. that wy Belle so quiet wen Tex in chat at same time as 'er???... Naaaa surely not... dismisses it from 'er mind.. GREEN wiv envy as thotta Tex canoodlin tall lady in pvt as the thot fleetinly nips bak inta 'er head.....:(*

Fran....envious? I never thought I'd see the day.

[darkeyes]

Fran....envious? I never thought I'd see the day.
O me no more immune 2 envy than ne 1 else Riss.. shudda seen me face wen me 1st met Kate an she had a bf..an wen we split up an she got ersel hitched.. God.. talk bout bein green.. an if me c's sum 1 wiv sum gear on or shoes me wud die for... no hun..me gets as envious as next person.. an it don haff show on me face an in way me reacts...:(.. an don peeps jus luff it wen it happens.. huh...:(