I am in a dilemma.....help

[daisytoes]

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Hi all!!! I could do with some advice.....
I have always been cool with my bi-sexuality....Generally i have been more into guys but over the years have had a few lesbian relationships (nothing majorly serious or long term). My family and most of my friends are totally in the dark...I have 2 gorgeous kids and have been very happy with my present partner for 3 yrs. I have recently met and fallen for a female colleague .....I have just come out to my partner because i cant lie to him anymore.....I think it was only a matter of time till i met another girl and hoped he would understand.....He cant handle it at all.... Anyone got tips on how to cope with this situation?
thanks xxx:(

[Jezexploring]

I'm sorry that you have to go through this. I personally have no experience with this...yet. I am in a relationship with my bf for the past 3 years almost 4 years..and I only recently really figured out bisexuality. And I told him. He seems ok with it but I don't know if he really is or he is just saying it. He just asked for me to be totally honest with him no matter what. I think it will be a bumpy road for me from here on.

All I can say is I hope things work out for the best for you. :grouphug:
I would say try to work things out as best as you can. Its bound to be really tough.

[Lonewolf76]

Communication - Communication - Communication! You and your guy need to get away from the kids and go somewhere where you won't be interrupted and have a nice heart to heart. You can't help how you feel darlin - it's who you are. Love is a wonderful thing - but unfortunately it is also something that we have very little control over. We can't help who we fall in love with or fall out of love with, we can only act on what happens and be true to ourselves and true to those that are in the inner circle and stand to be affected. Something you haven't mentioned here but maybe you need to think about. Do you still love your guy or has that been replaced with the love of this gal or are you in love with both? Do you want to stay with him and have a realtionship with her or only her? You took the first positive step for yourself and for your partner - you were honest and told the truth. Now you have to sit down and talk and work it all out. Talk it through. Maybe he will come to understand and eventually be ok with it. We often "knee jerk" react and things are not as bad as they seem once we work things out. He might also never come to terms with it and you'll have to make a decision for yourself - what's more important in your life - her or him? Whatever decision you make - I would suggest not selling yourself short - be true to you. Hopefully it will out well for you. I'll keep you in my prayers. But definitely communicate and be open and honest as you have begun to do. Just my :2cents: - I hope that helped. LW