Laken
Jan 26, 2009, 9:49 PM
Some back story before I get into my rant: My uncle (fathers brother) is gay. He came out when I was about 12...so that was...9ish years ago. My grandparents are pretty religious, so of course they have issue with it. Over the years, they got a little better about it. I wouldn't say that they were accepting...but it was no longer an issue that was constantly brought up. My Mother NEVER acted like she had a problem with it. She was constantly going out with him and his gay friends. She never tried to hide the fact that he was gay from me.
Now, my uncle and his boyfriend are planning on getting married. Of course, they have to travel to Mass. to do this. They can't take all of their family and friends with them, so when they come back, they're having a reception for everyone to come and celebrate.
My uncle was on the phone with my Mom and somehow they got to talking about entertainment at the reception. My uncle jokingly said that they were going to have a drag show. My mother FLIPPED! She was saying how that was disrespectful to his family and he should think about the fact that there are going to be children there. (Meaning...my sister...who is 6.) He told her that he was only joking and that there really wasn't going to be any drag show...but she continued to rant and rave about how disrespectful he was being. She went on to say that she didn't want him "planting a huge wet one" on his boyfriend right in front of my sister. My uncle is pretty non-confrontational, so he just said "Well then maybe you should reevaluate if you want to bring her or not."
This pisses me off to no end. The drag show thing I can kinda understand (although I do think it's his reception and he should do whatever the hell he wants) but the kissing thing drives me CRAZY. My mom has told my sister that my uncle is gay. She knows that "he likes boys and not girls." My mother has absolutely NO issue with Keith and myself kissing in front of my sister....so if she's as accepting as she likes to pretend that she is, she shouldn't have a problem with them kissing either. I don't think it's right that she goes out with them and their friends acting like she has no issue with their orientation....but then turns around and does something like this. It just makes me wonder what she would tell my sister if she were to say that she had a crush on a girl. (Granted, I know she's young...but still.) Is she teaching her that it's okay for other people but not for her? Or that it's okay to be gay...but not in public? I want my sister to realize that it's perfectly okay to love whoever you happen to fall in love with. Regardless of whether that person is male or female. I think that it's things like this that continue the prejudice against homosexuals. She took the time to "tell" her. But not the time to "explain" it to her. Yeah, she told her...but at the same time she's sheltering her from it and acting like it's something wrong. UGH! It's just so frustrating.
I mean, heaven forbid my son is gay. Then what? It seriously makes me reevaluate the amount of time I want my mother spending with my child. I definitely don't want her projecting opinions like this onto my kid. (Not saying I won't let her spend ANY time with him...) My mom is quite domineering and controlling...and I just don't want my son to think that he's weird, or wrong, or that we won't love him as much if he decides to be with a man.
So, yeah. I'm pissed. lol. Thanks for listening!
Now, my uncle and his boyfriend are planning on getting married. Of course, they have to travel to Mass. to do this. They can't take all of their family and friends with them, so when they come back, they're having a reception for everyone to come and celebrate.
My uncle was on the phone with my Mom and somehow they got to talking about entertainment at the reception. My uncle jokingly said that they were going to have a drag show. My mother FLIPPED! She was saying how that was disrespectful to his family and he should think about the fact that there are going to be children there. (Meaning...my sister...who is 6.) He told her that he was only joking and that there really wasn't going to be any drag show...but she continued to rant and rave about how disrespectful he was being. She went on to say that she didn't want him "planting a huge wet one" on his boyfriend right in front of my sister. My uncle is pretty non-confrontational, so he just said "Well then maybe you should reevaluate if you want to bring her or not."
This pisses me off to no end. The drag show thing I can kinda understand (although I do think it's his reception and he should do whatever the hell he wants) but the kissing thing drives me CRAZY. My mom has told my sister that my uncle is gay. She knows that "he likes boys and not girls." My mother has absolutely NO issue with Keith and myself kissing in front of my sister....so if she's as accepting as she likes to pretend that she is, she shouldn't have a problem with them kissing either. I don't think it's right that she goes out with them and their friends acting like she has no issue with their orientation....but then turns around and does something like this. It just makes me wonder what she would tell my sister if she were to say that she had a crush on a girl. (Granted, I know she's young...but still.) Is she teaching her that it's okay for other people but not for her? Or that it's okay to be gay...but not in public? I want my sister to realize that it's perfectly okay to love whoever you happen to fall in love with. Regardless of whether that person is male or female. I think that it's things like this that continue the prejudice against homosexuals. She took the time to "tell" her. But not the time to "explain" it to her. Yeah, she told her...but at the same time she's sheltering her from it and acting like it's something wrong. UGH! It's just so frustrating.
I mean, heaven forbid my son is gay. Then what? It seriously makes me reevaluate the amount of time I want my mother spending with my child. I definitely don't want her projecting opinions like this onto my kid. (Not saying I won't let her spend ANY time with him...) My mom is quite domineering and controlling...and I just don't want my son to think that he's weird, or wrong, or that we won't love him as much if he decides to be with a man.
So, yeah. I'm pissed. lol. Thanks for listening!