I'm so confused

[straightlady]

I'm realizing that I am attracted to bisexual men; the past few men I have fallen in love with have had either an active or latent bisexual streak, the sort of man who can only love women, but thinks gay sex is more of a turn-on than heterosexual sex. It's dawning on me that the attraction is not as bad as I first thought. I love having sex with lots of strange men, and I would like to do that with a male partner I love. I have a voracious sexual appetite and it is hard for one man to keep up with me (sex at least twice a day every day, etc., in addition to frequent masturbation).

Are there other women here who feel this way? I feel very uncomfortable, worried I am one of those women who always falls for gay men, but unlike the typical woman, I want gay sex with the man. For example getting DPed and watching my man suck another man's cock. Or giving him a blowjob while he is being penetrated.

I am not interested in women at all (not for lack of trying) and I'm not interested in the more typical polyamory relationship where all parties care about each other. If anything I wish I could sneak into a bathhouse with the man I love and just enjoy, but I know most gay men are extremely repulsed by women. However, oddly enough some completely gay men find me sexually attractive because my sex drive is so over the top and I am spontaneously orgasmic, etc.

I'm just trying to find out whether my feelings are at all common, or whether I am a freak.

[allbimyself]

You're not a freak!

That said, will u marry me?

:bigrin: :bigrin: :bigrin:

[straightlady]

Very silly. I'm just at the figuring out what I want stage but I'm glad it appeals.

[curiousbigdude]

I don't think it's strange that you enjoy being with men who like sex with other men, my ex girlfriend was the one who got me started thinking about sex with other men, from her fantasies. She loved watching bi and gay porn with me, talking about how she would love to see me doing those things, sucking and being fucked. You're also not strange to have a voracious sexual appetite. I dated a woman like that, she couldn't get to sleep without an orgasm She said it was her version of valium, it helped her relax.

All that being said, I am worried that you say you love having sex with lots of strange men (please tell us you use protection every single time). Even more worrisome is the fact that you want to find a man to take along so you can have sex with strange gay men. If not for AIDS and other STD's, I'd second allbimyself's proposal for your hand in marriage, you would be a ball at parties. But it seems to me that what gets you sexually excited is the thought of putting yourself at risk of contracting HIV, and having sex with strange gay men would increase that risk. It's the danger that gets you excited.

I don't think you're a freak, we all have our kinky little fetishes that drive us wild. But please, if you're driven to explore these fantasies, always play safe and use protection (ok, I'll stop preaching now).

[biscuits]

Hey (not so) Freaky Woman-

No, you're not a freak. My girlfriend and I have a very active sex life with eachother and I even find myself wondering at times if I can keep up with her. She has mentioned more than once that she thought it was just men who were supposed to think about having sesx all the time but she can't help it. I'm a little surprised at times by her voracity...but I'm certainly not complaining.

Although I share the concerns about being safe mentioned in the last post, I also think that there's nothing wrong with getting your freak on - whether real or imagined - no matter what that freak is. Thoughts of going to a bath house to have sex with a bunch of strangers certainly isn't a problem. Afterall, why do you think everyone else is there??? The fact that they're all men is only a slight hurdle. And now that I think of it, are there lesbian bath houses? I've never thought of that before just now. :rolleyes:

One other thing you mentioned is the fact that most gay men can't stand to have women around. Well, I'll admit that a few of my gay friends just generally don't like women as a rule. But the big thing is, gay men don't like women busting into their clubs treating them like animals at the zoo while they're having a white trash bachelorette party (oops...hit a nerve). Women, my girlfriend included, who are not gawking or surprised that two men can actually get it on outside of a porn flick AND have a conversation about other things, are generally pretty welcome.

And a sexy woman..well who doesn't want more of them around anyhow?

I say keep getting your freak on girl. Safely.

Casey

[straightlady]

It's not that I like danger. I wouldn't mind three or four guys as a steady thing. It's just that when I try to have multiple encounters with the same guy, they tend to develop deep feelings for me. I don't want to hurt any more men. I'm a one-man woman when it comes to emotional intimacy. That's part of the lure of a bisexual man, to help act as a protector, both from physical harm and emotional intimacy with other men.

[biscuits]

Okay, I changed my mind. You're a freak.

No No No. Just Kidding. I just wasn't expecting to see the "emotion card" thrown in there. Doh! We men never see that one coming.

So are you saying that you'd be happy to settle down with one man as long as he was bi? Does one bi man :bibounce: equal 3 or 4 straight men :male: :male: :male: ?

Of course, I'd like to think so. ;)

Why the need for "protection" from emotional intimacy? And why is it that you think that a bi man won't become just as emotionally involved with you as a straight man? I'm bi but I'm certainly emotionally involved with my girlfriend. She thinks I'm so sensitive...yet loves the fact that I can lift heavy objects.

I'm kinda on the fence on this one. But then I've always been on the fence....

Casey

[Tastemybuds]

Im a bi female and my boyfriend is straight. Lately I find myself very interested in bisexual men. I really get off watching gay porn and wish my boyfriend would concider the idea. Id love to suck his cock while hes getting a nice hard cock in his ass,or have him fuck me while sucking on a hard cock. If anyone has any ideas on how to convince him just how erotic it can be feel free to help me out!

[Raine]

Straightlady - I'm not a woman but an active bi man. :flag4:

First of all - forget the "freak" idea ... what turns you on sexually and fulflls you is unique to you. Everyone has different sexual needs and things that get them off. Even within periods of time your "turn ons" will change ...

But to get to your issue, I think what you want is nothing out of the ordinary. So you want to have a range of sexual relationships with bi-men or gay men. You're probably one of a few million who want that ...

I think if you wanted to participate and be penetrated and sexed, I'd strongly suggest you try to find bi-sexual men rather than "gay" men. Most gay men aren't interested in sex with women, much like lesbians wouldn't really want to have sex with a man.

If you wanted to have sex and participate with a man while he gets sexed by another man, then you need to find a bi-sexual man with a gay lover. They're more common than you might think. I found a number of them on adult-seeker sites.

Finally, no matter what happens or not - bein attracted to bi-sexual men isn't strange or wierd. You want to be with a man but you'd also like your male lover to participate with a male lover. So what? Lots of people want that. :)

[Biboz49]

Straightlady, I don't know how many women out there feel the same way you do but I know they exist. I dated a woman who got me turned onto guys (and I'm so grateful!) and she had quite the sexual appetite too. But I gotta tell you this: most bi guys would love to find a woman like you. I know I did and now we are together. I'm never letting her go! :bigrin:

[curiousbigdude]

Im a bi female and my boyfriend is straight. Lately I find myself very interested in bisexual men. I really get off watching gay porn and wish my boyfriend would concider the idea. Id love to suck his cock while hes getting a nice hard cock in his ass,or have him fuck me while sucking on a hard cock. If anyone has any ideas on how to convince him just how erotic it can be feel free to help me out!

Keep showing him pictures like those and he should eventually come around...

My curiosity was piqued by an ex girlfriend. The one thing that made me consider the notion of doing anything with another man was that the idea made her so hot. She would constantly tell me how much it would turn her on to see me take a load of cum in my mouth or a hard cock in my ass. It also helped that she liked playing with my ass, fingering me when giving me head, using vibrators and even a strap on dildo to fuck me. That, combined with her constant viewing of gay and bi porn, and it wasn't a large leap for me to consider being with another guy.

[titeabs]

Straightlady, please move to Michigan..........quickly!! I need you here so we can counsel one another. You seem like the perfect woman!! No worries!! Just be safe. Let me know when the moving truck is coming.

[straightlady]

Biscuits, you misunderstand. My sex drive is so high I cannot be faithful to just one man. I am spontaneously orgasmic; men have given me orgasms from a handshake, so I need to find an understanding man who will enjoy participating in MMF sex. I have a need for emotional fidelity to one man, but sexual promiscuity. I wouldn't be happy with a steady diet of strictly gay men who only pleasure my partner; I want casual sex partners who will have sex with both of us. Perhaps that's the flaw in all of this, finding the right sort of third men. I suppose I want a bisexual man who is attracted to "straight" men, the sort of men who do not identify as gay, who identify as straight with a little cocksucking, etc. on the side.

And I absolutely want emotional intimacy with my partner. I am only interested in emotional intimacy with one man. I am not afraid of it, I am only afraid of generating it in my casual sex partners and hurting them. If it were clear I was already taken by my partner, I don't think my casual sex partners would let themselves be vulnerable and hurt

I am happy to hear that some men find me a good thing! Thank you!

[biscuits]

Dearest Straightlady-
You're right...I was completely reading one thing and thinking another. Your last post cleared it all up for me and, like others above, I would now like to now offer myself up to you as a life long emotionally attached yet sexually free to get your freak on significant other.

Oh wait...I'm already in that relationship. Sorry. Maybe next time.

Seriously, now I REALLY don't think you're a freak though. So the thought of getting it on with a man while he's getting it on with another man gets you hot... Isn't that why we're pretty much all here??? Sounds pretty vanilla actually. Well maybe vanilla with those little sprinkles on top.

There are PLENTY of bi men out there that can have an emotionally attached relationship with you and can allow you to do your wild thing (and his) without getting caught up with feelings of inadequacy because you are an insatiable sex machine.

I really don't think your concerns are anything to be concerned about. Other than having to weed through the men who CAN'T be emotionally involved with you while partaking in lots of additionals I'd say you're pretty much home free.

My best wishes...
Casey

[buyguy123]

i could have that relationship with you. please come to indiana and give me the chance to prove it.