I didn't think I would fall in love with HER

[Confused_madness]

I never thought I would have the tendency to fall in love with a girl, since I am a girl myself, sure there were times that I got attracted, but it never went further than that.
Things changed when I met this girl, actually, she's openly lesbian.
We started out as friends, but from the first time I saw her, I knew she was someone special though I didn't know how. Anyway, we started out through simple flirting, and have gone out a few times.
I think I am falling, and it is killing me. Mostly because I don't know if she just plain flirting, or if she does really like me.

and, I can't get over the fact that I am actually in love with a GIRL. It's all so confusing.

I need advice... Anything.

[darkeyes]

Me in luff wiv a girl...don find it confusin..jus eva so bloody yummie.... enjoy it...me dus...an even think she don mind eitha...:)

[_Joe_]

Girls are so confusing. thats why Im attacted to men.

[still_shy]

Yup I fell in love with a girl once...was a pretty good thing for awhile. Love strikes just when you least expect it....just hold on and enjoy the ride. (After you tell her your feelings, no need to get hurt)

[trubipoly]

Love is never wrong good luck dear

[talking2trees]

When I really, truly fell in love with a woman for the first time, it was more intense than any experience I had ever had falling in love with a guy, and completely took me by surprise. And I felt just as confused as you, because the intensity was so strong. It's an amazing experience, and I would just advise you to be honest about your feelings for her, and see how she feels back. Since she's a lesbian, she obviously has some experience with this. The sooner you find out how she feels about you, the sooner you know which direction to head in the relationship. You can even tell her how confused and overwhelmed you feel...she might just understand. Good luck!

- Cristi

[Confused_madness]

Thanks for all your replies... Well, another thing is she has a steady girlfriend who lives in another country, but is coming here in February. I dread the day that she will come, cause I've fallen already. This is so bad. I told her I really like her, but that I am not expecting anything from her, and that whatever happens, I want us to stay friends. I can't imagine losing her. By the way, we kissed, and it was magic.

I am so wrong here.

[jfra18]

IM bi and my wife is bi and we welcomed a very beautiful, inteligent and sexy woman into our bedroom and lives and I beleive we are both starting to have very serious fealings for her

[talking2trees]

First of all, you are not wrong. Your feelings for this woman are not wrong. Falling in love with someone and loving them for who they are is NEVER wrong. However, the situation is difficult and painful. Since you've kissed, I'm assuming this woman has feelings for you too? :2cents: If this woman is committed to her other partner, then yes, you probably need to stop seeing her, however painful that may be, if you are dedicated to maintaining some respect for their relationship. But if this woman has strong feelings for you, and she's not dedicated to her other partner, then you both have a lot of talking to do to see if your relationship is meant to go somewhere.

It hurts. And it sucks. But it wouldn't truly be living if we didn't plunge in like this with our hearts. And if you have to stop seeing this woman, there will be others that you will meet in life that will make you feel like this. I know this first hand :)

- Cristi

[Confused_madness]

Thanks... I am in pain right now. I found out she has a new girl again! Even though she has a steady girlfriend. I guess breaking hearts is her hobby. I don't know what to do. I can;t stop this feeling. I want to contact her. But I know I will only look stupid, and my friends might get mad at me again.