Help!!! Very Frustrated Newbie!!

[Lonewolf76]

Hello everyone,
I'm hoping that you can give me some badly needed insight! I am a 50 Y/O male bisexual who finally came out in June of 2008. While I have felt nothing but love and welcoming from the LGBTcommunity as a whole, I have also experienced the frustration of the men who like to play head games. I joined the Outpersonals site and have met nothing but gameplayers who get off by setting you up to meet and then never show. Are there any "Real" men out there who really want to meet someone, get to know them and play and explore, or is it all just hype and BS! I'm so frustrated I could chew nails!! How does one who is new to the lifestyle and culture go about increasing their chances of meeting real men who want to play? Where does one go? What does one do? I thank you in advance for any guidance or insight - I'm anxious to have man to man experiences - but must admit, I'm beginning to feel like a monk! LOL Blessings! Lonewolf76

[BumbleB]

I don't really know what to say but...

That's just a part of it. This website isn't craigslist, I've only heard of a few cases on here that people actually met up. To say in short this really isn't a "lets meet up and **** website" some people have met people on here but this isn't the whole point of it.

What's wrong with being a monk anyway?

Patience is a virtue, and if you really are looking for someone, there will be someone looking for you also. This isn't as easy as just straight couples, you need to hit up some gay/bi bars if you want to find people TRULY looking for meeting someone.

The internet is NOT such a good idea for meeting people (imo) you don't know who these people really are or their intentions.

I recommend researching outside of the internet where bi men/gay men go! Find out the hangouts, it's not to difficult if you are in a big city, if you are near one then go travel there!

Or just put up a list on craiglist and hope everything went alright........

[Dano111]

Before I began to play, I did much study. Found out oral was perhaps the safest sex. You can get some STDS though very uncommon.

When I made my decision, I hired a guy, told him what I was about. He came to my motel room. Showed me much patients amoung other things.

He began with a light massage to relax me showing himself only in his underwear. I could not resist so I started rubbing him, then I removed his underwear allowing him to enter my mouth. .

I was warned by him of his volumn, though did not understand. He came in what seemed like gallons.

I have since gone to a few clubs in Indy, Vegas and Orlando. Clubs you can meet nice people and usually have a great time. No means no and I've never had a problem however I have had some very good times. Particulary in Orlando out by the outside hottub with two guys at once.

I also went to underwear night in Vegas at a bar. You simply strip to your underwear and get free drinks. I arrived by mistake though took the challange. I usually now wear panties and they were a hit. I went home with a psychologist and we shared stories amoung other things. I basically lost my male virginity that night. Many gentlemen rubbed me and made offers

Many things you can do, I only had one date off the line you talked of and it was good for me, though most want money. BE careful

[shybipinay]

Try a web site called squirt.org. You can look in your own area. You can join for free and enjoy limited benefits from a free membership.

The other info posted here for you is also good. Too bad you don't live closer to us. I'd love to meet you. Best of luck.

[bythewaydoitall]

Try your local gym you can meet alot of good looking in shape guys there.