He's confused..I'm confused!

[Konfused]

My hubby and I have been together 12 years. I am openly bi, with preference towards men. He's my # 1 preference lol
This last year, he has been confused..
He has no attraction towards men. Says he doesnt look at them, gay porn does nothing. He does however like transexual porn. He is very curious as to what it would be like to do oral on another guy, but thats the extent of it. That's all he wants to do. And lately, he has been really curious about it.
He has also admitted to liking wearing my panties. And has worn lingerie of mine in the past.
He has been on other sites, and all the replies he gets are from horny men wanting to hook up, so he can never get a straight answer as to why he could be thinking like this. Is his wanting to do oral just the beginning of being bi?
He's confused, and hell, I am confused too. I wish I could help him, but I can't. I am even confused with my own feelings towards everything with this!
I know some of you will say im hypocritical, but I havent done any girl/girl stuff without him there, and when I admitted being bi it was vocally to him, and myself at same time. He has been a part of everything in my life, and I will always choose him first!
But if someone could help explain to us what he could be feeling, we would both deeply appreciate it!

[tony88]

Well, confused, interesting situation you have there. You are bi and he has been there with you during to experience it with you, I think that is great everything is out in the open. He does have this thing for transexual porn and he does like to ware your panties at time. Sound to me that he has a little xdressing in him and to go with it he would like to pleasure a man orally. I think he is curious about it and would like to explore it a bit seeing how you are an active bi female and he would like to maybe explore it a bit himself. And don't get me wrong here but there is nothing wrong with just be oral if that is what he wants. I do think it is up to the two of you to talk this out and maybe you two could experement a little bit with toy.....(use your imagination as to were to put it) and see you and him react to it. And, as a friend of mine once told me you never know until you try. Good luck in what ever direction he goes in.

[Doggiestyle]

Wow!!!!!! All this confusion has got me confused too. So what to do? :rotate: How do you settle all this confusion, so that nobody is confused? And make everbody understand whats understood so as to eliminate all misunderstandings? Why thats simple. You take all the known factors and compare them to the unknown factors to make the unknown factors known...:rolleyes:...So now, is everthing becomeing clear???:confused:...NO??? Well if you would just simply sort things out into individual issues you could then examine all the individual issues to determine which of the issues needs to be reissued. Now do you see what I am trying to say??? If you guys were just a little more far sighted, then you would be able to set your sights on goals that are more obtainable, then you could see clearly how to obtain the things that seem unobtainable. Now have you got it figgured out???

WHATTTT you say I don't know what i'me talkin about!!!!:banghead:
Don't forget that your the one that started this thread sayin that your confused & misunderstanding just not knowing what your issues are cause of your near - sighted - ness thats keeping you from obtaining peace & harmony

Dammmmm I guess that i'me gonna have to give up. I guess that you guys will have to follow what a old chinese pervert I mean proverb said about situations like this & it goes as follows



When in danger, when in doubt
run in circles scream and shout


Just thought that I would offer some frendly advice to ya. So now it's time to:love87:and make up

Your friend.......Doggie........:doggie:

[MikeC]

Your husband may be having feelings similar to mine. I admit I'm bisexual, but when it comes to male/male sex, I'm mainly interested in what a guy has between his legs. I find myself attracted to "shemales", because not only do they have all the softness and curves of a woman ( which I love!), they also have something "extra", if you know what I mean. As yet, I haven't had sex with a true shemale, but I think that it would be the ultimate experience for me. I hope this helps you.

[cddm50]

He has no attraction towards men. Says he doesnt look at them, gay porn does nothing. He does however like transexual porn.

Hey Konfused, husband sounds like me too. Been a while since I posted but had to chime in.

My desires have always leaned towards the CD/TS/TG MtF's as well though I have never been with one. Would be my ultimate fantasy. I cannot see myself kissing and hugging a masculine man, something about it turns me off, and gay porn doesn't really do it for me either. Currently I have remained monogamous to my wife and have not traveled outside the marriage right now to explore the BI side of my sexuality. But I do love the TS/TG porn. Women with that extra part are a huge turn on for me.

I guess for me I still have a strong "lean" towards women rather than men but there is a sexual interest to be with another man and explore some sexual acts like some mutual oral or JO sessions would be ok. Should that experience be with a TS/TG MtF person then, for me, would be much more acceptable. My wife has the theory that it may be that I don't want to accept my BI side as may confirm to me that I am "gay" so I try to maintain the "illusion" to myself that I am a hetro male that will accept a cock from a man just for the oral gratification, not for a relationship, AND that being with a CD/TS/TG MtF may reinforce that because I feel I am still with a woman but they have that extra part I desire to play with.


He has also admitted to liking wearing my panties. And has worn lingerie of mine in the past.

In the past I dressed in lacy lingerie and very much enjoyed it. It wasn't so much that I wanted to be "the woman" for a man but rather I enjoyed the feeling of the lace so close to my body. Very sensuous and erotic. I had one girlfriend in college accept it and encouraged me to dress in her lingerie so it became a part of my sexual routine for a while with her. My current wife knows about that part of my past but doesn't really do anything for her. So I haven't dressed in a long time now but she will wear the lingerie for me. I do love the lace.

Back then I think about when I worn the lingerie and how I felt. It was all about the feeling of the lace and not about being with a man. More like being embraced by a woman who was wearing the lingerie. Being pegged with a dildo or have a butt plug inserted was usually part of the routine but I don't recall that I wanted to be fucked by a man, rather I would have preferred a woman with a strap on doing me or to be fucking a woman, that was my fantasy back then. Finding my GF in college was my lucky break in my sexual identity and exploring my preferences.

Ask your husband if the lingerie is something he just likes to feel against his skin. How does it make him feel?

Also, is he into receiving anal and is he willing to be topped by you if you got a strap-on? Or maybe he would like to suck on a dildo strapped to you? Or is the desire to suck on a real man's cock more inviting to him?

Hope this helped.

HJ