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biplayfulcouple
Dec 5, 2008, 10:48 AM
we have been married for a long time and have been in "the lifestyle", for about 6 years. we are both pushing 50 but look 10 years younger and are in fairly good shape. since we came into the lifestyle, my wife has always been bi. she enjoys playing with guys as well as gals, but she is very picky and that limits, some of our play.

recently, in the last few years i have started to play bi as well. it began at the suggestion/dare of a couple, that we were playing with. it was in the heat of the moment and his wife dared me. my wife then grabbed his dick and challenged me; "go for it". seeing how turned on our wives, we ended up both playing manually and orally bi with each other. of course the girls played together and we all played with each other etc. my wife and i always play together; never separately. (we would never consider meeting a single male, bi or otherwise). i had no idea, how much, this would turn our wives on! and since it turns the gals on, it only makes it more exciting for the guys! whew!

since that first bi-male experience, we have subsequently found out, that some of our other play partners, enjoy bi-male play and we have played that way, with them too. we still play with them and it is "hush hush". it is SO not acceptable, to be "OUT" as a bi-playful guy, in the lifestyle! although as someone commented; you are seeing a little more of it, on some of the swinger social networking sites. im glad that some couples are seeing it for what it is; "just sex".

we run in a big circle of lifestyle pals. it is absolutely amazing to me and exciting for us, as man and wife; that i am engaging in this (mostly) secret behavior! we have been conditioned for so long, that this is wrong, taboo, etc. so my wife and it have never even considered it, or fantasized about it; heretofore (and we talk about EVERYTHING). ten, twenty years ago, i would have considered this behavior totally disgusting. now it is just part of "play" with our "couple-friends". it has added another dimension to our sex and fantasy life. its fun to talk about in the sack and it really gets our motors running. especially bi-anal sex, fantasies, with other couples. (we have never done that). in addition to conventional sexual behavior, we have always been anally oriented, in our marriage. dont come down on me, i know that anal is now (and always has been) extremely prevalent. it was just not talked about and not considered mainstream, by many.

like many of you gentlemen here on the board, i did engage in childhood "play" with other guys, (4th 5th grade); but never oral and never beyond that age. that would have surely meant, that we were "queer"! i was so nieve; that a childhood friend, actually had to teach me, how to jack off! LOL. i do remember it being extremely pleasureable and exciting, but that may have been the "rush", from the potential of being "caught". and as i matured, i put all of that experience in the rearview mirror and attributed it to raging hormones and "childhood". fortunately; unlike some of the posters on this board, i was never conflicted about my sexuality. i always knew that i was straight and that i loved women and was always attracted to them. the only problem that i had, as a child, was terrible "guilt"..........but that was with all "sex activities", male and female. with childhood and current "guy" play partners, there is no "attraction thing" whatsoever. its "just sex" and its in the context of our marriage and with other couples.

i'd really like to hear from other men and women and their experiences. and especially from lifestyle couples.

okie5558
Dec 5, 2008, 11:48 AM
Me nad the wife are both oraly bi and play with very few couples that are not bi. We enjoy the openess of the play time and enjoy all concern in it. Wish we had started at a early age than we did . LOL Much more fun in a 3 or more somes lol.

Cherokee_Mountaincat
Dec 5, 2008, 12:45 PM
In the Swing Lifestyle that I am in, Bi men are wholeheartedly accepted..and sought out, as well. :} In the group I'm in it isnt kept hidded or swept under the carpet. And Yes! Its soo very exciting to see two men playing openly and with great pleasure.
Feel free to be who you are, Darlin, dont ever let that keep you bottled up. ;)
Keep up the good work.
Cat

TheBisexualProfessor
Dec 6, 2008, 8:45 AM
Wow, a very interesting topic! My wife and I are just starting to talk about a tentative try at swinging and she knows (and appreciates!) that I'm bi. We're headed to Miami soon and there is a club there that until recently had a weekly "bi night." But they no longer do.

Those of you who are successful in this, where do you go to find friends? Clubs? Are they on- or off-premise clubs?

Any help you can offer would be appreciated! :flag4:

ready2trybi
Dec 6, 2008, 9:41 AM
My lover and i have been going to different swing clubs for a couple of years now in the Harrisburg Pa area searching for this type of couple's bi play mm/ff with no luck at all we have tried many many on-line sites and again with no luck who knew it would be this hard to just be open and have fun? Why is it so different for men its all just good clean fun sex and we want it lol. We have got to the point where we often talk about opening our own bi only swing club are there any around anywhere? If not there really needs to be (WHY SHOULD US BI MEN BE LEFT OUT?) Why do true bi COUPLES have to hide it if that is what they want? are we so different that we have to carry a label hide in our bedrooms and only have playtime with ourselfs is that not where most male bi play starts with our female lover's inserting a finger here or there then toys well we as many others want more so where and when do we get it?

fairbankswingers
Dec 7, 2008, 10:10 AM
we are a lifestyle couple and have been since 99...we have always been fustrated (I have more then her) that MM contact is taboo in the lifestyle and hate the fact that FF is accepted and looked at as wonderful, but MM contact is a problem...I will say my wife is not into watching me with a man, and would prefer to be with the wife and me with the hubby in a darker room as it does nothign for her

FalconAngel
Dec 7, 2008, 1:37 PM
We tried the lifestyle thing but got extremely frustrated by the lack of tolerance for Bi men.

As we had stated in another thread, on a similar subject, there has only been one club anywhere near us that has had a real Bi night, where Bi men were encouraged to attend, but the time and day for it was inconsistent with making it a success.

In addition, the club wasn't open except in the evenings, after 9 and hardly anyone showed up until almost 11. When you have to travel an hour each way and then get up for work the next morning (Monday), it wasn't worth it for us to go there.

It's a shame, too, that it didn't work out. We liked the idea and wish that it had been on a Friday or Saturday evening, instead of Sunday.

But the whole situation kind of burned us out on the idea that we could do anything for both of us in such a selectively bi-phobic lifestyle like the rest of the clubs out there were.