Faithfulness?

[catmanreg]

I'm a very new guy here, and new to my bisexuality. My few experiences have been generally OK, some absolutely delightful. Although I guess I'm a bottom, I'm still virgin back there. I love my significant other, but our sex life has dropped off to almost nothing for a number of reasons, some medical, some her diminished interest. My question is, does anyone else feel that they're not being unfaithful to their opposite sex partner when they have sex with someone of their own sex? I simply couldn't have sex with another woman because I'd feel I was betraying her, but my conscience doesn't seem to bother me (much) when I such a clean, safe cock.

[DiamondDog]

You're in denial about your own actions and making up excuses to justify your own infidelity in a monogamous relationship.

Cheating is cheating no matter who it is with and no matter what their gender is. :2cents:

[FalconAngel]

DD is right.

Unless you and your spouse have made a mutually acceptable arrangement, then it is very clearly cheating.

[catmanreg]

Thank you, Diamond and Falcon, for your succinct and unequivocal thoughts. You've helped me clarify my own thinking, and I'll be changing my modus operandus(sp?).

[goddessmama]

I always tell the men that I'm in a relationship with that I'm bisexual, and I don't mess around with other men but that "girls don't count". I don't know if this means I'd be in an "open relationship" or not. I mean for me I would think that open relationship means that anyone of either gender is fine.
I wouldn't go to another man b/c to me that WOULD be cheating, same sex is not cheating in my eyes, because no man can ever be a woman and no woman can ever be a man so it's like comparing apples and oranges. Yes you can eat them both but they could not replace eachother. :) Lying about if you are or are not doing something is wrong however. I don't think the real problem with cheating IS the sex act, aside from disease/pregnancy possibilities it's the betrayal and the lie that goes with the act that hurts so much and causes relationship problems. Best policy-don't do anything you wouldn't do if your significant other was watching. Hee hee..better yet invite them to come and watch, and join and then no worries about cheating at all because...well...everyones there:three:

[pandanightlife69]

for me i fell safer when my boyfriend of 7 1/2 years is with another man than with a woman i have no idea how that is. this past week was my first trail on this issue and i was very upset when there was a possibility that another woman was getting too close to him but a guy friend got close to him and i was okay with it. i do not think it is cheating as long as i know before hand if it was behind my back then i would be hurt and almost breaking it off. i know if i find a girl or a boy to be with he said it would be okay as we do not live in the same town it is just sex nothing more.

[pandanightlife69]

well i want to say that my gut feeling was right about my boyfriend with that other women. He kept on lying to me telling me that they were just friends but he finally admit it this past week that they have been fucking since October. I feel violeted and cheated on. If he had come straight out tell me that yes I have been doing it I would have been okay. So if anyone is interested in qchamp just walk away.

[Carrie18]

personally if both partners are not manogamous and they have agreed thats the way they are then fine but cheating with someone of the same sex is just as bad as cheating with the opposite sex as far as I and my partner are concerned. I don't really mind what other eople do but I'm an extremely sexually driven person yet I manage to stay loyal. I have been loyal to all my partners of both genders because thats what love is to me. giving oneself completely to someone else but thats not for everyone.