Oops!

[Pteriax]

what should I do? I accidently 'outed' myself to my parents just before they left for ireland. i still have like five days before they get back to the states so they can confront me.... what should i say or do when the inevitable happens in about a week?

[codybear3]

Hello Pteriax...You did not mention what kinda reaction they were in when they left. May I assume that they were not very happy? Since I have no real idea how you all got along I cannot give you any advice other than face them when they come in with honesty and an open heart. If they have questions, give them real answers. If they don't understand, try to explain. Other than you "outing" yourself to them, you are still the same person before they left. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck... :paw: :paw:

[pandoracat]

Aye tell us the story of how it happend.
Just talk to them honestly if you already started though. Are they very understanding ? How do they talk about "gay" "bi" people when/if they do.
-pandi :bibounce:

[wanderingrichard]

i gotta agree here with cody.. don't panic, and do it in an adult manner.. but, remember, when ya scream for help like this, give details and circumstances, so it's taken in the right context, ya know, so peeps can look at it from your perspective.. many of us here would love to help ya talk it thru, but, dag, yo, ya didnt give us enuff info. many of us, [ probably more than will admit it] have had this same problem... so you'd be talking to the school of been there, wrecked that.

[Mrs.F]

Hi Pteriax,
The best thing to do is be open and honest with them. My feeling is you don't need to spill your guts about everything (I'm talking experiences, if there has been any yet) since it's your parents and not a spouse, but since you have apparently already shared that you are interested sexually in both sexes, don't lie to them and start making up stuff. As most have said, you didn't mention how it spilled out in the first place and that does make it a little more difficult for anyone to give you the proper advice on how to handle it. Knowing how they felt about the situation when they left would have maybe helped us in knowing how they might deal with it when they got back.

I"m a str8 wife of a bisexual husband. He didn't "out" himself to me, I found out by accident. But I'm walking, talking proof that people can overcome it and understand it and go on. I do not look at my husband like a different person. It all takes time and like I said before.......that honesty and communication is a huge key in all of this. Best of luck to you in the coming days ahead. :)