newbie

[alegrias]

I just told my husband last night that I'm bi-curious. He seemed to like the idea and is interested in exploring more with me. Any advice on how to get started?

[Realist]

A bi girlfriend once told me that when she began feeling like being with another girl, she decided what she wanted to try, what she liked and didn't like. She thought about these things and didn't settle for less than she wanted. She could have had sex with other girls before she did, but held out for someone compatible and who fit her desires. When she did find a girl who was interested in her, too, the relationship turned out to be exemplary.

They were lovers for over 20 years, even thorough marriages, divorces and transfers to other states. It's been years since I've seen her, but I'll be they are still close.

I thought she had taken a very intelligent approach to fill her needs and it worked perfectly for her. That may be too structured for most people, but in her case, exactly what she needed.

Just be smart about it, take your time and don't forget your loved one as you experiment, Good luck!

[still_shy]

That's fantastic advice, I wish someone had told me that before I started looking for a woman to be with. If you don't know what you want, then you're more likely to take what you can get because your hormones are speaking for you. That's what I did and it did not turn out well. My important bit of advice is----talk to your husband. Stay completely open and honest with him on all counts, don't leave anything out, ever. If you do that, then there's no way anything can jump out and surprise you. :2cents:

[alegrias]

Just be smart about it, take your time and don't forget your loved one as you experiment, Good luck![/QUOTE]

Thanks for the advice. I have no intention of rushing into anything. I do love my hubby and don't want to lose him. I'm also going to wait until my son leaves for college to do anything.