Help?

[Celtiff2106]

I never posted here before, and I am kind of scared...

But I need some advice. I have a boyfriend, that I love, a lot...but I find myself attracted to other people a lot lately.
The thing is, I wouldn't want a relationship with them, I don't think. I just am really curious about what being intimate with them would be like.

Any help would be much appreciated right now.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Then talk to him about exploring other avenues, Sweetie. Other people too. Explain to him that you'd like to see what it would be like to experiance pleasure with them, too.
Just an option, Hon. Ya never know..you both might discover that you enjoy it and may become Lifestylers. ;}
:2cents:
Cat

[arana]

Are you curious about exploring other people alone or are you including him in these fantasies and explorations? I think you need to know what you want or are needing before talking to him, otherwise it could cause even more problems. He may have questions and you won't be able to answer. But definitely if you love him, talk to him.

[csrakate]

I agree with arana that you need to be a bit more clear as to what you want before you broach the subject with your hubby. We have all looked at others and imagined what I might be like to be with someone different...but sometimes fantasy is just that...fantasy....and the reality of it pales by comparison. Be sure this is a journey you wish to take before you declare it...and yes...sit down and discuss things with your husband, ensuring him that your feelings for him are no different...that what you are experiencing takes nothing from the love you feel for him and that could he possibly be willing for you to do a bit of exploration. Be prepared for him to react a number of ways and if it is not the reaction that you so desire, allow him to express his fears and truly listen to how it makes him feel. You never know....he may fully support your desires and may very well wish to join you in this journey.

Good luck to you both!

Hugs,
Kate

[dougbi]

I never posted here before, and I am kind of scared...

But I need some advice. I have a boyfriend, that I love, a lot...but I find myself attracted to other people a lot lately.
The thing is, I wouldn't want a relationship with them, I don't think. I just am really curious about what being intimate with them would be like.

Any help would be much appreciated right now.

It sounds like you have some desires that you are not entirely comfortable with, and you are struggling with the idea of either being unfaithful, or changing your relationship to be open or swinging. I think this is more about your feelings for your boyfriend than anything. If you think he would be open to an open or swinging relationship, your next question should be, what will that do to our relationship?

An alternative would be to dump him for a couple of months, sew your wild oats and then get back together. Couples break-up for lessor reasons all the time. Just don't let him read this post until after the wedding...