Is anybody in here serious about hookingup [Archive]

dfitterdanny

Oct 14, 2008, 6:40 PM

I have been searching this site for about six months, Have talked (emailed) to more than 20 people. All of them seem serious at first and a few emails latter ...........NOTHING???????????? Now I dont mean to toot my own horn hear but I have been told by more than a few people that I am good looking. Im not saying I should have hooked up with everyone but 0 for 20plus thats just pittyful. Needless to say I'm pretty much done with this site. Oh Bi the way the last two weeks of craigslist I have met two people, actually four (their couples) TWO WEEKS, 4 PEOPLE VS. SIX MONTHS, NONE HHHHHMMMMMMMM??????? Sombody like to explain why I would love to know

vitt&cho

Oct 14, 2008, 7:08 PM

most people on here are from everywhere on this planet

there are quite a few people anywhere (including craigslist) that for some reason, they appear to "get off" on the IDEA of hooking up, send emails back and forth, maybe even go so far as to exchange phone numbers, and THEN... when the time comes, when appointments have been made and dates have been set, they are no shows, and they dont call, or they chicken out, or you find out that they are married and the wife doesnt know and they had something to do that night so they make up a bullshit lie, or any of a NUMBER of shitty scenarios. This crap has happened to us, not just on here, but on craigslist, backpage.com, and all sorts of other places.

humans are retarded.

SWCube

Oct 14, 2008, 7:22 PM

12voltman59

Oct 14, 2008, 7:32 PM

Personally I do not feel that this site is inded strictly for hooking up with other people, and if thats all your looking for, perhaps thats the problem. I view this site, instead, as a community web site where people that are bisexual, and not even exclusively, can come together and talk about whats going on with their lives, talk about problems they are having being bisexual in a world that has a hard time accepting that, and generally being there for eachother while having fun and, I suppose, occasionally hooking up. Really you can take from this site whatever you want, but if thats all your looking for, your going to miss a lot of good people that just want to chat, be friendly, and help out.

I agree cube---this site is more of a community than others----but if you do "hook up" here--it is a big bonus beyond some of the other positive things you can find here.

The thing with this for many people---they really do want to "engage" in the behavior---but since many on here are older, as is often noted, it is not easy to overcome all the years of repressing these feelings/desires etc.---and when the rubber hits the highway---many cannot really do anything----you really cannot blame them---while we have moved forward in acceptance of sexuality other than pure, heterosexual, procreative only sex----we still have at least one foot back in the dark ages.

reno_cleve

Oct 15, 2008, 12:15 AM

I belong to several sites and there are two things in common. Sites are looking for money and members are looking for guess what? Commitment.
Even if it doesn't appear so look at the adds, the profiles, the requests and you will see they want more thaan just a ride in the hay.
When joining any site look into it and utilize whatever it they have to offer.
Sex is important but what leads to the sex may be more important

Cherokee_Mountaincat

Oct 15, 2008, 1:29 AM

So who said this was a "Hook Up" site?? Not all of us are looking to score, and just because this is a Bisexual site, it doesnt mean it is a pimp off place or a find-sex-quick place either. If you arent happy with this site and are happier with that meat market Craigs List, then more power to you and dont let the door hit you on the butt on the way out.
Cat

chulainn2

Oct 15, 2008, 1:34 AM

you tell him, cat!!

captslaprock

Oct 15, 2008, 5:54 PM

LOVE THAT GIRL'S CLAWS

Bluebiyou

Oct 16, 2008, 8:04 AM

Am I/are we serious about hooking up?
Heck no.
I just surf porn all day, eat Cheetoes, and visit my doctor every so often asking about this 'orange penis syndrome' I seem to have acquired.

Cherokee_Mountaincat

Oct 16, 2008, 12:20 PM

OMG Blue. Is That what that was! Wondered why things tasted so familiar. I Love Cheetos!! lol
Cat:bigrin:

bialltheway

Oct 16, 2008, 4:54 PM

Haha! Well i dont know to much about hooking up but i dont get any replies to my ad in my search for friends!

darkeyes

Oct 16, 2008, 5:07 PM

Am I/are we serious about hooking up?
Heck no.
I just surf porn all day, eat Cheetoes, and visit my doctor every so often asking about this 'orange penis syndrome' I seem to have acquired.

Eat nowt but carrots Blue... getyasel an all ova orange tan...tee hee.. jus don go round tangoin peeps..they get rite upset..:bigrin:

pottzie

Oct 16, 2008, 9:19 PM

Funny how upset we get when someone else's expectations collide with our own. I was going to ad some things to this, and may do so later, if I can collect my thoughts and stop chuckling over Cherokee's barrage.
But for now here's two views.
http://www.villagevoice.com/2005-03-08/people/casual-sex-myths/
http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/sfo/262749422.html

Cherokee_Mountaincat

Oct 17, 2008, 3:03 AM

*Blushes Deeply* Sorry Pottzie, but it was a bad day, and I have a bad habit of speaking a little too bluntly sometimes. And, it was only a Little barrage. So there. :tongue:
Cat :paw::paw:

pottzie

Oct 17, 2008, 5:13 PM

No apology needed, no harm done! I assume that for anyone, the object of anything is to be happy! If someone does something, then they get to accept whatever happens from that. My only hope is that anyone who does anything is richer for the experience, whatever that experience may be.
By the way, I'm a Craigslist junkie. I posted this today, thinking about what the thread started from
http://southbend.craigslist.org/rnr/883035428.html
And as an aside, as i was mulling this over last night while driving home, I passed an elderly lady walking along a deserted stretch of highway we have here. It's a 5 mile walk, and it hit me how we would hitchhike as kids. If you can grasp the similarity between hitching a ride and hooking up through a classified ad, you may be able to follow my 2+2= 17 logic here.
But I thought "What the hell. It's 5 miles of nothing, why not?" So I turned around to offer her a ride. When I did she crossed the road and went maybe 50 feet of into the bushes. My kids always kid me that my car looks like a C.I.A. "rendition" van, and would be perfect for kidnapping terrorists, or offering candy to youngsters. I guess they're right! Either that, or she was running from the cops.
Oh well.

void()

Oct 18, 2008, 8:46 AM

"If you ask your mother whether she knew about Peter Pan when she was a
little girl she will say, "Why, of course, I did, child," and if you
ask her whether he rode on a goat in those days she will say, "What
a foolish question to ask, certainly he did." Then if you ask your
grandmother whether she knew about Peter Pan when she was a girl, she
also says, "Why, of course, I did, child," but if you ask her whether he
rode on a goat in those days, she says she never heard of his having a
goat."

PETER PAN IN KENSINGTON GARDENS (http://www.gutenberg.org/files/1332/1332.txt)

Some of us are akin to The Pan, in as much as we are picky about our rides. Here I am as a pan in this lush garden. It is akin to a child standing before the picture window of a large confectioner's shop. "Which shall I choose?"

As life has it the child is soon enjoined by other children asking the same for themselves. So, conversation doth begin. Merits of the new fireballs versus the old stand-by chocolate malts are presented. "It's not easy finding the right candy."

That's how it goes with finding appropriate lovers. Often you find lovers of saccharin tastes, yet too much of it and your eyes turn funny colours. Lovers also come in the jolly good variety but rare these are. "When I find one to suit, no need to buy the whole store."

In short I mirror the sentiment of this being a community web site. Great indeed if you can meet with that one jolly good lover but as with most anything in the garden we call life, there exist no guarantees. Besides sampling the candies is half the fun.

welickit

Oct 18, 2008, 4:14 PM

First thing we noted in the post was: Now I dont mean to toot my own horn hear but I have been told by more than a few people that I am good looking. He can't spell but he is good looking.
Who the hell cares what someone else told you? Sounds like the usual EGO trip. Obviously the community here is more discriminating than those on Craig's list where everything from murder to robbery hits the news as a result of people who replied to ads there.
If hooking up as you call it is all you are looking for, you came to the wrong place. You say you are leaving, doing so will greatly improve the quality of the membership here. I can't say anyone will miss you or your attitude.

chulainn2

Oct 18, 2008, 5:36 PM

If I could toot my own horn, I'd never leave the bedroom, Chulainn2 Hornblower. And not to toot my own horn, I did have a woman say I was good looking about a month ago. But then again this was at closing time and I suspect the margaritas had something to do with a blurred vision.
She actually got naked for me then passed out on her couch. Being a true gentleman, I found a blanket and a pillow for her and locked her door on my way out. I'm just glad I didn't naked thats a good way to catch a head cold.

dfitterdanny

Jan 4, 2009, 10:02 AM

**Peg**

Jan 4, 2009, 11:51 AM

lovedoctor

Jan 4, 2009, 12:47 PM

You know when I first came on here I was just looking for "the hookup" but the community has really grown on me thus my beginning to make posts. I've lurked for a long time reading the forums, etc. I've met and talked to some really interesting people, those that I've met and those that we have just chatted.

I think personally I've matured a bit and learned this community is a lot more than just finding partners. Don't get me wrong, thats one of the reasons many people are here, but I've grown to discover there is more here than meets the eye so to speak.

I'm glad to have found a place thats more than just the hookup as it is allowing me to really discover a lot more about myself and others. ;)

FalconAngel

Jan 4, 2009, 6:15 PM

Lots of us are serious about meeting up in person.

Some, just as friends, some just as lovers and some of us want some of both. In addition to that, there are some still that are looking for a relationship with other Bisexuals.

The reasons all vary for everyone, but yes, some of us do want to meet up in real life. The biggest roadblock to many of us is distance and time.

The folks that we want to meet up with may be too far from us (and visa versa) or it could be a situation of having schedules that are so different from each other that it's nigh on impossible to meet up. Had that problem with some of my regular riding buddies (motorcycle) for a while.

There are plenty of legitimate reasons that folks who want to meet up are not able to. It doesn't make any of us fakes, as some have claimed in other threads, it just means that we have lives and interests that are outside of just our sexuality, that take up a lot of our time.

evilpanda

Jan 4, 2009, 10:14 PM

My friend, it's not my place to pass judgement, but I can speak from experience that the internet is not the place to find a partner or a hook-up. Not that this place is filled with perverts or disease-carriers, I'm not saying something bad is going to happen to you. But, it's a lot like trying to find someone specific by stumbling around in a dark and noisy room. Worst of all, the internet is more attractive because it's 'safe' and 'anonymous,' but all it does is distract your attention from finding love in the real world.

In my romantic history, however, the absolute worst thing that happened to me happened because I found someone on the internet. It's not because I found a screwed up nutjob with a kid who was 1100 miles away; it's because I missed out on a true love who was right under my nose in the real world.

I hope you find what you are looking for. It will take being adventurous and a willingness to experience life, but those are the qualities that never go out of style, and they never fail to hypnotize the opposite/same sex. The best thing you can do for yourself is LIVE.

Annika L

Jan 4, 2009, 11:05 PM

Hi Danny, wish I could hear from you! my hot girlfriend and I would love to get together. She is 26 with blonde hair and blue eyes and a tight 5'-4'' body. and I am 29 black hair and a muscular 6'-2'' and a huge cut mushroom dick (8-1/2")for you to suck. she is a master with a strapon WHERE ARE YOU?????

err.....Danny... seems to me that you are replying to your own post !

OMG...LOLOL Peg!! :tong:

Absolutely terrific catch...it truly doesn't matter whether it was an amazingly stupid mistake, or if the OP is trying to play silly headgames with the site...this has got to be the funniest thing I've ever run into on this site!

:tong::tong::tong:

_Joe_

Jan 5, 2009, 4:51 PM

You know there is playing with yourself, then there is going the extra effort to really play with yourself.

I am trying to decide if I approve.

rainbowmonk

Jan 5, 2009, 6:57 PM

OMG...LOLOL Peg!! :tong:

Absolutely terrific catch...it truly doesn't matter whether it was an amazingly stupid mistake, or if the OP is trying to play silly headgames with the site...this has got to be the funniest thing I've ever run into on this site!

:tong::tong::tong:

yeah what happens if he rejects himself lol.. sorry deep thoughts by Monk lol

darkeyes

Jan 5, 2009, 7:08 PM

yeah what happens if he rejects himself lol.. sorry deep thoughts by Monk lol

'e wos eitha pissed as a fart, stoned out 'is mind or jus plain ole simple arseole Monkie babes... an don u worry..me will sendya nice trollie type message so ya don feel 2 left out:bigrin: jus gimme a day or so 2 think 1 daft enuff up 2 pass muster...:tong:

trubipoly

Jan 5, 2009, 11:26 PM

well put SWcube . i think when people limit themselves to looking for a very specific thing they miss out on people that could be beautiful additions to thier lives whether it be for relationship,companionship or even just a good sex buddy. as far as people not returning emails after a few email exchanges goes. It could be for many reasons: no interest, not comfortable with themselves yet and still testing the waters, loss of nerve, and many others but either way there should be communication as to why instead of just not responding anymore.

PearlGirl

Jan 5, 2009, 11:38 PM

"For flavor, instant sex will never supercede the stuff you have to peel and cook." (Quentin Crisp)

:bigrin::bigrin::bigrin:

Apleasureseeker

Jan 6, 2009, 4:24 AM

Well, everyone's here for different reasons. I'm open to hooking up with the right guy(s) or girls, but not looking for numbers or casual. I do really enjoy the chat forum--very interesting, thoughtful people. Also, I don't mean to be harsh, but for me, your pics are a turn off. CL is great for hookups, i've met a lot of hot women there. Haen't met any guys through it yet.